Older men dating younger women. ( Archived) (82)

My initial reaction is always a bit of 'why?'. Especially if there is an obvious age difference.

But that probably has to do with cultural and personal bias.

It is more common here to date someone of approximately the same age as you, give or take a few years.

And that has been my personal preference as well.

Plus, I have never been short of a significant mature male influence in my life, so I don't need to replace/find one of those in a partner.

I do have a friend who has always been attracted to older men, even in her early twenties. And she had a father and older brothers, so that aspect didn't come into it.

Once it isn't a power-based relationship (one having it/one needing it) and instead based on mutual respect and feelings, then it should be as acceptable as more conventional couplings.

In principal, I don't have a rationale argument against it. But to be honest, my gut reaction to it would be on the negative side. Why? To be PC incorrect, I would have had, as a 'younger man' a problem 'getting physical' with a woman 20 years my senior. It's just a visual thing. Technically the woman could be the age of one's mom...yikes. So, to put myself in the young woman's shoes, how does she feel getting into the sack with an old dude who reminds her of her granddad? It just seems natural to me that we are attracted to our own age group (+ - 10 years max). But of course there are many other factors at play than the purely physical.

As I said, it is a personal choice.

For me personally, I don't, and never did, fancy older men.

But see above for Mimi's response. Everybody is different.

Yup, it's true, I have met a few women who were attracted to much older men, but unfortunately I wasn't much older than them at the time...

When holding people into account don't forget someone else one day will do that to you too...
It's easy to criticize...and be ignorant...

I completely agree with you. It's a sign of ignorance to make assumptions.

Well, if he is 60 and she is 40, 20 years difference won't be a problem, but what if he's 36 and she is 16?
I always have good conversations with people who are older or younger than me, but with people of about my age it often is difficult.
But I wouldn't date a much younger or older woman. The differences in taste, especially music, opinions etc. would be a problem I guess.

I say if it's what they both want good luck to them, it's really non of my business. They should be careful of public displays of affection, some narrow minded jealous trolls will make trouble.

Careful Aries, your mind slipis showing....

Exactly my point. Unless you're dealing with an exceptionally mature mind, what is a guy of 60 going to have in common with a woman of 30? They are not going to be talking about hair extensions or the latest iPhone....and they certainly won't be talking about stocks, bonds and the weakness of the Chinese economy...

Good luck tto you and Art, i am rooting for you

My g/f is ten years younger than me so of course I'm for it

That's all nice n' all, but think what she has to put up with!

You don't know me or know anything about me, so what do you base your troll like answer on????

Your posting history here, stupid.

What history, you are a very rude old man, you post a profile picture of a young boy and say it is you, get a life. Or is the picture to attract the pervs

Obsession?
What obsession has to do with it...?!
Why can't people accept that for many it's normal to look at the person not as a digit but a human being?
I know people of the same age that are worlds apart in character, maturity and social skills...and no, being intelligent doesn't make you mature...the way you treat people does...
I've been in a relationship with an older man and nothing even hinted a difference... Been with a younger one, same...
Of course there is a personal limit one applies to his "right and wrongs"...

Ah, I'm so glad we could agree on this subject.

What history? - your history here on the CS forums, actually very much like this post - an insult levelled at an anonymous profile to compensate for your own deficiencies.