If you were approached by someone of another ethnicity that your family would disapprove of would u ( Archived) (45)

My family has nothing to do with it, other than my daughter and she feels the same way I do, ethnicity doesn't matter.

There is only one answer in the romantica world and a full spectra of possible answers in the real.

Of course I date the person anyway, and no sneaking around about it.

Of course, I already asked my mom to take a hike, that can be the price for differences. If it is, then it is.

But I was independent, and could take the "loss". Make sure you can, since the date may end up worth nothing and you lost all (real world fashion).

mmmmmmmmmmm.... I have to be careful hear, I think that am walking on thin ice but I have to speak my mind:

IMHO:

marriage is not a reunion of two only but three parties including you two (you and your partner):

the first family is your children. you may think that you will rise them according to your opinion and thought which you strongly believe in. however, look at your self and see how much you think differently than your parent now. so, do not forget to put your children thoughts in your decision formula.

the second family is your parents. remember you will be parent one day and what you expect from your children you should deliver to your parents too. also, the future is not as you may think!!! roses all the way to haven. problems will happen between you and your partner and you will need your family support and comfort especially if you both split (divorced God forbid) there is no christen marriages anymore even if you say "till death do us apart".

the third family is your companion family. they are part of the package regardless of what you or your companion thinks. similarly to your situation as before, if something happened to you or between you two guess where your companion will go back too???? his/her family too and your children may end up there too.

believe me sister I am with everything said above that color, ethnicity, boga boga??? or even religion should not matter but you have to work on the relationship more both of you.

you must gain some support from each side not necessarily from the entire family of both sides but some members of each side. both of you must work together to win such support and the harder you work to do that the stronger your relationship will last and shows to both families your dedication and love to each other.

please do not be selfish in your happiness and share it with the best people around you whom they really love and remember they loved you first.

this is my advice,,, take it from a lonely since the day he was brought to this life.

I wish you and you loved one the best

cheers

The real life version I would call that. Well said and written

I do have...

I like it to be darker than mine (some colour at all that is :laugh)

by the way


I did not vote so that one voter is not me OK!!!!!

<<<<<<< so sacred not to be crossfide

Are you kidding us?

Sometimes, i don't believe the things i read.

I knew it someone will slap it in my face.

take it easy my sis, am just trying to meet half way that is all.

it is only an opinion without taking sides. it is not either your are with us or against us. there is always a middle point for most party to meet. I said most not all.

so, please read again and if you still disagree then it is OK. life has more colors than one and that is the beauty of life. as long as we don't force ours onto others.

cheers

He is not kidding, what he writes is what often real in this world. Another thing entirely if one wants to heed the advice, but not doing it may very well mean you are loosing one or more of the mentioned parties.

Sad but true, and I know it from my personal life, since I could never "choose with a calculated mind".

Personally, I would refuse the person outright. I would love to be friends, but if my family disapproves, even for something as stupid as race, I would lose too much. Perhaps in a few years when I'm able to stand without the support of my family, I'll choose differently. But because my family pays all of my college funding so I don't have debt, I would lose too much to disobey. I suppose that's their way of leashing me, everything is controlled by my dad.

Diamond

It looks like you've been in the wrong neighbourhood to me...
They all look uneducated...their types of arguments...Gosh!

How about you? Have you dated women with kids and all? How long did it last? How many women did you date?

I forget how lucky i am, because my family would never make me chose between love and family. None of them!

Ethicity issues are no issue if the society is silent about it. There is nothing, no characteristics attached to ethnicity per se.

It's my life and I date who I want to.. As long as I am happy and treated with respect, my family should be happy for me..... If my family sees that I am truly happy an treated well they will eventually come around...

This bloke isn't even consistent in his bile.

The other day he was saying he couldn't have kids.

The only thing i'll add to that is thank god he hasn't found anyone mad enough to try to breed.

Jesus can you imagine the warped way he would bring them up?

He scares me. Imagine being his neighbour.

Please now I might have night mares

Well he seems to have taken an unhealthy obsession with my son!

I'd like to meet him, for obvious reasons.

He wont be able to breed after, i'd see to that

Phone your nearest radio station or newspaper in the morning and ask if they employ journalists who cant write in coherent English, but specialise in writing up their reports in crayon, with mixed venom and bile.

I bet you won't find one, especially with an anti American theme running through them.