Should we teach our significant other how to love us? (33)
If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
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Mercedes_00: If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
So thats why I go through a different woman everymomth. 
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Looking at your list I look at it like each should already know about likes dislikes ect...Don't you communicate before you call yourselves a couple?
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Mercedes_00: If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
I don't agree with that Merc. If you reverse the gender in your statement it would read "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That wouldn't make sense.
Each woman and man is different in what they like when making love.
To answer the OPs question I would have to say yes, we need to teach our new lover what we like. If we don't then they will go by the standards of their last lover.
A lover wants to please their S/O so in my opinion it's important to do what they like as well as tell them what you like.
When each gets what they want it can only lead to moving mountains
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secretagent09: I don't agree with that Merc. If you reverse the gender in your statement it would read "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That wouldn't make sense.
Each woman and man is different in what they like when making love.
To answer the OPs question I would have to say yes, we need to teach our new lover what we like. If we don't then they will go by the standards of their last lover.
A lover wants to please their S/O so in my opinion it's important to do what they like as well as tell them what you like.
When each gets what they want it can only lead to moving mountains
I'm not reversing the gender because I'm straight....People can read too much into my statement all they like..I probably could of worded it better but hey I didn't.Each woman and man is different in what they like when making love.
To answer the OPs question I would have to say yes, we need to teach our new lover what we like. If we don't then they will go by the standards of their last lover.
A lover wants to please their S/O so in my opinion it's important to do what they like as well as tell them what you like.
When each gets what they want it can only lead to moving mountains
Communication is the key as I refuse to be a mans mum.
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One other thing I'm into a two way street..Sure there will be things we both like & don't like..I would never make a man like the same things I like.
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Mercedes_00: I'm not reversing the gender because I'm straight....People can read too much into my statement all they like..I probably could of worded it better but hey I didn't.
Communication is the key as I refuse to be a mans mum.
I think you might have misunderstood what I was trying to say. It had nothing to do with being straight.Communication is the key as I refuse to be a mans mum.
If a man said "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That's what I mean about reversing the gender.
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galrads: So thats why I go through a different woman everymomth. i’m not mind reader.
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teach them?
dont tell me, you figured out how to program Women, without the use of a belt
dont tell me, you figured out how to program Women, without the use of a belt
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secretagent09: I think you might have misunderstood what I was trying to say. It had nothing to do with being straight.
If a man said "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That's what I mean about reversing the gender.
I understood what you meant...To me men & woman love differently..Not experienced in that department but it's a gut feeling I have.If a man said "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That's what I mean about reversing the gender.
Don't get too hung up on how I came across with my first post..I could of worded it better I know that.
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Mercedes_00: I understood what you meant...To me men & woman love differently..Not experienced in that department but it's a gut feeling I have.
Don't get too hung up on how I came across with my first post..I could of worded it better I know that.
Trust me, I don't get hung up on anything anybody says on CS.Don't get too hung up on how I came across with my first post..I could of worded it better I know that.
I took a break from CS and came back tonight in this thread. I'm already regretting I didn't stay away longer.
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The whole concept of teaching someone to act and behave as you wish removes the individuality of the other person and eventually one becomes the dominant force or the relationship itself fails. Compromise for the little things and negotiate logically for the important decisions where it benefits both individuals. Many people believe materialism, politics, lifestyle, ethics, etc., are not important, and sooner or later during an illness or tragedy, you find how significant integrity really is. Many instantly run, others fight to the end... the difference between infatuation and convenience and true love. To each their own... the main reason 60 % of marriages end up in court battling for assets and even who gets to keep the dog.
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secretagent09: Trust me, I don't get hung up on anything anybody says on CS.
I took a break from CS and came back tonight in this thread. I'm already regretting I didn't stay away longer.
You don't mind calling people out..But when people have a reply your ammo is to be aloof..No good getting aloof with me Missy..I wasn't rude to you..Twice you were at me about my first post.I took a break from CS and came back tonight in this thread. I'm already regretting I didn't stay away longer.
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Mercedes_00: You obviously don't know what you want to be in a relationship every month..Also how silly to be getting it on with anyone during a pandemic
Yes, using phones and teleconferences is get to know someone else is getting old. I miss the days when the ladies could actually take me out and wine and dine me. 
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galrads: I might be there at the next Sydney to Hobart yacht race 2020
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@ Gal, I think as in all Relationships, Communication is one of your greater Assets, Yes a Man should know how to treat, and show respect towards Women, and most Women know how to Love a Man...though some of the small things, can be big things... Maybe a Woman has cooked for her Past Husband for 20 years, and he had poached Eggs, and dark toast, you prefer your eggs sunny side up, How would she know unless you communicate to her, and let her know you aren't crazy about poached eggs... He liked his toast very dark, and you like your toast very light...So Yes, Communication could very well be called teaching....This is just a simple example that can take the guesswork and miscommunication out of the equation...Everyone, Men and Women are all similar, but yet far different in so many ways..Her Past Husband didn't like her to wear Makeup, you may prefer she did...She would never know without proper Communication..( I will skip the bedroom) 
He liked his toast very dark, and you like your toast very light...So Yes, Communication could very well be called teaching....This is just a simple example that can take the guesswork and miscommunication out of the equation...Everyone, Men and Women are all similar, but yet far different in so many ways..Her Past Husband didn't like her to wear Makeup, you may prefer she did...She would never know without proper Communication..( I will skip the bedroom) ------ This poll is Archived ------
galrads: I might be there at the next Sydney to Hobart yacht race 2020
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Loving someone requires committing emotionally, physically, and spiritually to the other person.
Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.
A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.
At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.
Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.
A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.
At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.
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germanspitz: Loving someone requires committing emotionally, physically, and spiritually to the other person.
Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.
A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.
At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.
Remember, exactly 6 minutes. Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.
A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.
At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.
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Mercedes_00: All's good mate & I agree with you
Have a great night
Have a great night
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GeneralBeacon: Remember, exactly 6 minutes.
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germanspitz: I can't type for laughing. You've just made my day.
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I wouldn’t see it as teaching just communicating what you like or don’t like And I want to know what they like and don’t like
If someone has been single for a while it can be hard for them to think as a couple again so important to discuss things
For me a man that can be open and honest just melts me
I live in hope
If someone has been single for a while it can be hard for them to think as a couple again so important to discuss things
For me a man that can be open and honest just melts me
I live in hope
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Not really. Love is an assumption or a confidence - it exists but not in the physical sense that an instruction manual exists. Much is communicated silently because of the bond although perhaps not everything. There are hints.
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The point around is that you’re willing to give something a go although you’ll never be that sure. Fortune favours the brave, it’s the thought that counts... the important thing longterm is to avoid doing the same thing everyday. It’s not what you do, it’s the way you avoid doing the same thing all the time.
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You can't teach anyone anything. People learn when and if they want to.
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That's an interesting question Galrads...and a great one too :)) . I guess it depends on what's going on in your relationship that would lead to you to asking a question like that..
Not everyone knows how to love or be loved...so if you're with someone like that then you could be looking at a very long uphill struggle and in that case the question probably becomes do I love this person enough to want to put in that much hard work for what could turn out to be a waste of time....
Not everyone knows how to love or be loved...so if you're with someone like that then you could be looking at a very long uphill struggle and in that case the question probably becomes do I love this person enough to want to put in that much hard work for what could turn out to be a waste of time....
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Tulefell: You can't teach anyone anything. People learn when and if they want to.
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If some dogs can learn how to get you a beer I can't see why women can't learn also. 
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GeneralBeacon: The whole concept of teaching someone to act and behave as you wish removes the individuality of the other person and eventually one becomes the dominant force or the relationship itself fails. Compromise for the little things and negotiate logically for the important decisions where it benefits both individuals. Many people believe materialism, politics, lifestyle, ethics, etc., are not important, and sooner or later during an illness or tragedy, you find how significant integrity really is. Many instantly run, others fight to the end... the difference between infatuation and convenience and true love. To each their own... the main reason 60 % of marriages end up in court battling for assets and even who gets to keep the dog.
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Created: Jul 2020
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