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Should we teach our significant other how to love us? (39)

Jul 19, 2020 12:03 AM CSTShould we teach our significant other how to love us?

Should we teach our significant other how to love us?(Vote Below)

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Yes, tell them everything you enjoy and everything you do not enjoy.
69%
9 Votes
Don’t tell them what makes you feel loved, special, Cherished and treasured
8%
1 Votes
Tell them what other happy couples do that you want too
0%
0 Votes
Tell the, you favorite color is.
0%
0 Votes
Tell the, what toilet paper you like.
8%
1 Votes
Tell them galrads sent you
0%
0 Votes
Other.
15%
2 Votes
13 Total Votes
Should we teach our significant other how to love us? .... in your own words.


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Jul 19, 2020 12:04 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
Jul 19, 2020 12:09 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Mercedes_00: If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
So thats why I go through a different woman everymomth. sigh i’m not mind reader.
Jul 19, 2020 12:11 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Looking at your list I look at it like each should already know about likes dislikes ect...Don't you communicate before you call yourselves a couple?
Jul 19, 2020 12:13 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09Jersey Girl In, North Carolina USA188 Threads 3 Polls 7,143 Posts
Mercedes_00: If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
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I don't agree with that Merc. If you reverse the gender in your statement it would read "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That wouldn't make sense.

Each woman and man is different in what they like when making love.

To answer the OPs question I would have to say yes, we need to teach our new lover what we like. If we don't then they will go by the standards of their last lover.

A lover wants to please their S/O so in my opinion it's important to do what they like as well as tell them what you like.

When each gets what they want it can only lead to moving mountains yay
Jul 19, 2020 12:16 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09: I don't agree with that Merc. If you reverse the gender in your statement it would read "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That wouldn't make sense.

Each woman and man is different in what they like when making love.

To answer the OPs question I would have to say yes, we need to teach our new lover what we like. If we don't then they will go by the standards of their last lover.

A lover wants to please their S/O so in my opinion it's important to do what they like as well as tell them what you like.

When each gets what they want it can only lead to moving mountains
I'm not reversing the gender because I'm straight....People can read too much into my statement all they like..I probably could of worded it better but hey I didn't.

Communication is the key as I refuse to be a mans mum.
Jul 19, 2020 12:19 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
One other thing I'm into a two way street..Sure there will be things we both like & don't like..I would never make a man like the same things I like.
Jul 19, 2020 12:20 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09Jersey Girl In, North Carolina USA188 Threads 3 Polls 7,143 Posts
Mercedes_00: I'm not reversing the gender because I'm straight....People can read too much into my statement all they like..I probably could of worded it better but hey I didn't.

Communication is the key as I refuse to be a mans mum.
I think you might have misunderstood what I was trying to say. It had nothing to do with being straight.

If a man said "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That's what I mean about reversing the gender.
Jul 19, 2020 12:22 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
galrads: So thats why I go through a different woman everymomth. i’m not mind reader.
You obviously don't know what you want to be in a relationship every month..Also how silly to be getting it on with anyone during a pandemic
Jul 19, 2020 12:22 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
teach them?

dont tell me, you figured out how to program Women, without the use of a belt devil
Jul 19, 2020 12:25 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09: I think you might have misunderstood what I was trying to say. It had nothing to do with being straight.

If a man said "If a woman has no clue about loving & protecting me then she isn't a real woman". That's what I mean about reversing the gender.
I understood what you meant...To me men & woman love differently..Not experienced in that department but it's a gut feeling I have.

Don't get too hung up on how I came across with my first post..I could of worded it better I know that.
Jul 19, 2020 12:28 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09Jersey Girl In, North Carolina USA188 Threads 3 Polls 7,143 Posts
Mercedes_00: I understood what you meant...To me men & woman love differently..Not experienced in that department but it's a gut feeling I have.

Don't get too hung up on how I came across with my first post..I could of worded it better I know that.
Trust me, I don't get hung up on anything anybody says on CS.

I took a break from CS and came back tonight in this thread. I'm already regretting I didn't stay away longer.
Jul 19, 2020 12:37 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
The whole concept of teaching someone to act and behave as you wish removes the individuality of the other person and eventually one becomes the dominant force or the relationship itself fails. Compromise for the little things and negotiate logically for the important decisions where it benefits both individuals. Many people believe materialism, politics, lifestyle, ethics, etc., are not important, and sooner or later during an illness or tragedy, you find how significant integrity really is. Many instantly run, others fight to the end... the difference between infatuation and convenience and true love. To each their own... the main reason 60 % of marriages end up in court battling for assets and even who gets to keep the dog.
Jul 19, 2020 12:40 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09: Trust me, I don't get hung up on anything anybody says on CS.

I took a break from CS and came back tonight in this thread. I'm already regretting I didn't stay away longer.
You don't mind calling people out..But when people have a reply your ammo is to be aloof..No good getting aloof with me Missy..I wasn't rude to you..Twice you were at me about my first post.
Jul 19, 2020 12:45 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Mercedes_00: If a man has no clue about loving & protecting me then he isn't a real man.
What I meant by a man not being a real man has absolutely nothing to do with choice of toilet paper ect..Those little things are excuses for a fight.

A real man to me is someone who is able to communicate without nasty slurs & physical abuse..A real man will protect me from nasty shit...A real man won't pretend to be nice then tell me what he really thinks when he's pissed off...I'm allergic to those so called men.
Jul 19, 2020 12:46 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Mercedes_00: You obviously don't know what you want to be in a relationship every month..Also how silly to be getting it on with anyone during a pandemic
Yes, using phones and teleconferences is get to know someone else is getting old. I miss the days when the ladies could actually take me out and wine and dine me. laugh
Jul 19, 2020 12:47 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
galrads: Yes, using phones and teleconferences is get to know someone else is getting old. I miss the days when the ladies could actually take me out and wine and dine me.
c*m to Australia daydream
Jul 19, 2020 12:52 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Mercedes_00: c*m to Australia
I might be there at the next Sydney to Hobart yacht race 2020tongue
Jul 19, 2020 12:57 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
galrads: I might be there at the next Sydney to Hobart yacht race 2020
You can yacht it here laugh
Jul 19, 2020 1:16 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
@ Gal, I think as in all Relationships, Communication is one of your greater Assets, Yes a Man should know how to treat, and show respect towards Women, and most Women know how to Love a Man...though some of the small things, can be big things... Maybe a Woman has cooked for her Past Husband for 20 years, and he had poached Eggs, and dark toast, you prefer your eggs sunny side up, How would she know unless you communicate to her, and let her know you aren't crazy about poached eggs...laugh He liked his toast very dark, and you like your toast very light...So Yes, Communication could very well be called teaching....This is just a simple example that can take the guesswork and miscommunication out of the equation...Everyone, Men and Women are all similar, but yet far different in so many ways..Her Past Husband didn't like her to wear Makeup, you may prefer she did...She would never know without proper Communication..( I will skip the bedroom) rolling on the floor laughing tongue
Jul 19, 2020 1:34 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
galrads: I might be there at the next Sydney to Hobart yacht race 2020
When are you leaving?
Jul 19, 2020 1:51 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09Jersey Girl In, North Carolina USA188 Threads 3 Polls 7,143 Posts
HotrodLarrys: @ Gal, I think as in all Relationships, Communication is one of your greater Assets, Yes a Man should know how to treat, and show respect towards Women, and most Women know how to Love a Man...though some of the small things, can be big things... Maybe a Woman has cooked for her Past Husband for 20 years, and he had poached Eggs, and dark toast, you prefer your eggs sunny side up, How would she know unless you communicate to her, and let her know you aren't crazy about poached eggs... He liked his toast very dark, and you like your toast very light...So Yes, Communication could very well be called teaching....This is just a simple example that can take the guesswork and miscommunication out of the equation...Everyone, Men and Women are all similar, but yet far different in so many ways..Her Past Husband didn't like her to wear Makeup, you may prefer she did...She would never know without proper Communication..( I will skip the bedroom)
I think I should clarify my comments. I interpreted the words "significant other" and "love us" in the sexxual sense. That's why I said we should tell each other what we like when making love.

However it seems that what Larry wrote is more of what the OP was looking for.

My boo boo, my misunderstanding. Did not intend to cause a stir with Merc handshake
Jul 19, 2020 2:02 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
secretagent09: I think I should clarify my comments. I interpreted the words "significant other" and "love us" in the sexxual sense. That's why I said we should tell each other what we like when making love.

However it seems that what Larry wrote is more of what the OP was looking for.

My boo boo, my misunderstanding. Did not intend to cause a stir with Merc
I understood what She Meant, and I also understood what you meant, as I was reading along, I tried to put it in the term that I did for that reason....

I won't speak for her, but it was kinda like I wrote, it was just a miscommunication in my opinion...Hopefully she will agree to that....handshake wave
Jul 19, 2020 2:14 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
HotrodLarrys: I understood what She Meant, and I also understood what you meant, as I was reading along, I tried to put it in the term that I did for that reason....

I won't speak for her, but it was kinda like I wrote, it was just a miscommunication in my opinion...Hopefully she will agree to that....
All's good mate & I agree with you wave

Let's face it I don't sit on my arse..I've had a huge day I'm exhausted..It's not a crime if I don't express myself properly because I'm buggered..,,If I have to reply how people expect me to reply then stiff shit don't quote me.

Have a great night wave
Jul 19, 2020 2:34 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Loving someone requires committing emotionally, physically, and spiritually to the other person.

Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.

A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.

At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.heart wings
Jul 19, 2020 2:35 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
germanspitz: Loving someone requires committing emotionally, physically, and spiritually to the other person.

Every relationship needs two committed people. That means two people working towards the common interest of the relationship. You also need to love yourself otherwise you won’t know what love is because you are out of tune with what makes you feel good and generally turn to someone with the same negativities. Loving someone also involves genuine trust between both parties. It means that even though you may have fears, you don’t let them outweigh your love for that person.

A good relationship requires responsibility and consistency and trust towards each other to allow the relationship to build and grow.

At the end of the day people who are in good relationships that are going somewhere don’t ask whether they’re in a good relationship. They’re too busy living and getting on with their lives and know they’re happy.
Remember, exactly 6 minutes. wave
Jul 19, 2020 2:36 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Mercedes_00: All's good mate & I agree with you

Have a great night
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Jul 19, 2020 2:43 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
GeneralBeacon: Remember, exactly 6 minutes.
I can't type for laughing. You've just made my day.yay
Jul 19, 2020 2:49 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
germanspitz: I can't type for laughing. You've just made my day.
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Jul 19, 2020 3:47 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
Butterflygirl1
Butterflygirl1Butterflygirl1Dublin, Ireland54 Posts
I wouldn’t see it as teaching just communicating what you like or don’t like And I want to know what they like and don’t like

If someone has been single for a while it can be hard for them to think as a couple again so important to discuss things

For me a man that can be open and honest just melts me smitten

I live in hope laugh
Jul 19, 2020 3:59 AM CST Should we teach our significant other how to love us?
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,306 Posts
Not really. Love is an assumption or a confidence - it exists but not in the physical sense that an instruction manual exists. Much is communicated silently because of the bond although perhaps not everything. There are hints.
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