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Forgive/Forget ? (36)

Apr 15, 2021 10:36 AM CSTForgive/Forget ?

Forgive/Forget ?(Vote Below)

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Do Forgive But Never Forget
15
62%
Do Forget But Never Forgive
1
4%
Forgive And Forget As Well
3
12%
Don't Forgive And Never Forget
5
21%
Total Votes
24
Hello to you all wave
Which one of this is more like YOUR kind of thing !!?
Apr 15, 2021 10:38 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
tomcattyonline today!
tomcattyonline today!tomcattyocean city plymouth, Devon, England UK318 Threads 3 Polls 6,557 Posts
I forgive but don't forget, forewarned is for armedlaugh
Apr 15, 2021 10:45 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroLiege, Belgium7 Threads 4 Polls 752 Posts
Forgive, definitely.
Forget... well, I do have a bad short-term memory.
Apr 15, 2021 10:50 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
I’ve written about this before. People are not able to forgive. It’s a wonderful ideal, and makes a charming, heart-warming bedtime story. Doesn’t happen. Not in the truest sense of the actual meaning. Saying “she wrecked my life, but I forgive her” is an oxymoron. Saying “I can forgive but I can’t forget” is just another way of saying “I don’t/can’t forgive”. There’s no blame or judgment here: it’s the way it is.

“Nobody ever forgets where he buried a hatchet”—-Josh Billings

One can learn to get along, be kind and polite, all those fine things, but always, always, in the back of the mind, is that haunting, warning: that person did me wrong and I can’t trust them anymore. professor
Apr 15, 2021 10:56 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero: Forgive, definitely.
Forget... well, I do have a bad short-term memory.
I agree that it is good to strive for it, like many other intangible ideals. But....look at it this way: say you DO convince yourself that you’ve forgiven someone. And, theoretically, you DO. All’s right with the world - God is in His heaven, and so on...THEN, they do you wrong AGAIN. The first offense comes back to mind full tilt. Why, what happened to the forgiveness?? Do you really think people will think or say, “Well, the slate was clean, we start fresh on a new forgive”. Not so much...
Apr 15, 2021 11:00 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
tomcattyonline today!
tomcattyonline today!tomcattyocean city plymouth, Devon, England UK318 Threads 3 Polls 6,557 Posts
rohaan: I agree that it is good to strive for it, like many other intangible ideals. But....look at it this way: say you DO convince yourself that you’ve forgiven someone. And, theoretically, you DO. All’s right with the world - God is in His heaven, and so on...THEN, they do you wrong AGAIN. The first offense comes back to mind full tilt. Why, what happened to the forgiveness?? Do you really think people will think or say, “Well, the slate was clean, we start fresh on a new forgive”. Not so much...
Wow, he must have really done a number on you Ro.confused
Apr 15, 2021 11:09 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
tomcatty: Wow, he must have really done a number on you Ro.
See frame #3 again. I know what I’m talking about.
Apr 15, 2021 11:11 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
forgive and forget cheating?
HELL NEVER!!!
devil devil devil devil
Apr 15, 2021 11:14 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
tomcatty: I forgive but don't forget, forewarned is for armed
Is that your forgiveness day outfit.rolling on the floor laughing if I'm lucky.
Apr 15, 2021 11:22 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroLiege, Belgium7 Threads 4 Polls 752 Posts
rohaan: I agree that it is good to strive for it, like many other intangible ideals. But....look at it this way: say you DO convince yourself that you’ve forgiven someone. And, theoretically, you DO. All’s right with the world - God is in His heaven, and so on...THEN, they do you wrong AGAIN. The first offense comes back to mind full tilt. Why, what happened to the forgiveness?? Do you really think people will think or say, “Well, the slate was clean, we start fresh on a new forgive”. Not so much...
I understand what you're saying and it makes perfect sense but really it all depends on the infraction and the person's ability to let it go.
It's easier to forgive a brother or sister than it is a stranger. It's easier to forgive something that didn't cause great harm physically or financially.
I don't if you've ever got into a physical fight with another man over some insult or misunderstanding but it happened to me a few times, and if you did, have you ever ended up being friends with that person? I have, best friends, while not two weeks prior we were ready to send each other to the hospital.
True forgiveness does exist. It's not easy but it's doable.
Apr 15, 2021 11:27 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero: I understand what you're saying and it makes perfect sense but really it all depends on the infraction and the person's ability to let it go.
It's easier to forgive a brother or sister than it is a stranger. It's easier to forgive something that didn't cause great harm physically or financially.
I don't if you've ever got into a physical fight with another man over some insult or misunderstanding but it happened to me a few times, and if you did, have you ever ended up being friends with that person? I have, best friends, while not two weeks prior we were ready to send each other to the hospital.
True forgiveness does exist. It's not easy but it's doable.
OK. Thanks for that...I’m just fine with the way(s) others see things.cool
Apr 15, 2021 11:36 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroLiege, Belgium7 Threads 4 Polls 752 Posts
rohaan: OK. Thanks for that...I’m just fine with the way(s) others see things.
As I am. You do make a compelling argument cheers
Apr 15, 2021 11:42 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
tomcattyonline today!
tomcattyonline today!tomcattyocean city plymouth, Devon, England UK318 Threads 3 Polls 6,557 Posts
RoseHipster: Is that your forgiveness day outfit. if I'm lucky.
It's my Rumpy Pumpy outfitlaugh laugh laugh laugh laugh
Apr 15, 2021 11:55 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
bodleing2online today!
bodleing2online today!bodleing2Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK48 Threads 4,483 Posts
rohaan: I’ve written about this before. People are not able to forgive. It’s a wonderful ideal, and makes a charming, heart-warming bedtime story. Doesn’t happen. Not in the truest sense of the actual meaning. Saying “she wrecked my life, but I forgive her” is an oxymoron. Saying “I can forgive but I can’t forget” is just another way of saying “I don’t/can’t forgive”. There’s no blame or judgment here: it’s the way it is.

“Nobody ever forgets where he buried a hatchet”—-Josh Billings

One can learn to get along, be kind and polite, all those fine things, but always, always, in the back of the mind, is that haunting, warning: that person did me wrong and I can’t trust them anymore.
People are perfectly capable of forgiveness, in fact once you've realised what a burden resentment and blame really is, bearing a grudge becomes no longer an option.
Forgive and forget however isn't usually possible, the mind cannot erase at will. The best we can do is forgive and lose interest.
Apr 15, 2021 12:48 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroLiege, Belgium7 Threads 4 Polls 752 Posts
bodleing2: ...in fact once you've realised what a burden resentment and blame really is, bearing a grudge becomes no longer an option.
^^^that^^^
"Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who have sinned against us" are not just empty words, for God will forgive us with the same measure as we have forgiven others.
Apr 15, 2021 10:09 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Mercedes_00online now!
Mercedes_00online now!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia20 Threads 23,877 Posts
For me if I'm seeing a constant pattern of the same ole same ole vindictiveness..I try to talk things out..If a person changes the subject not wanting to meet me half way..There comes a day where I laugh it off and say to myself that person no longer exists..I don't need to forgive nor forget..They simply no longer exist...I'm worth way more than that.
Apr 16, 2021 3:27 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,435 Posts
Forgive and stop going on about it. It's gone but not forgotten which is to say that it is not the main focus of attention.

To forget about it completely simply means that there was nothing to forgive. Not really.
Apr 20, 2021 1:07 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
bodleing2: People are perfectly capable of forgiveness, in fact once you've realised what a burden resentment and blame really is, bearing a grudge becomes no longer an option.
Forgive and forget however isn't usually possible, the mind cannot erase at will. The best we can do is forgive and lose interest.
Its easier to think that...I still believe the point of what I’m saying is either missed or dodged. Not a “ thumper”, but if we’re talking scripture, “cast those iniquities into the sea of forgetfulness “‘TO BE REMEMBERED NO MORE.”’ I say if you can’t forget ( wipe the slate clean) then you can’t truly forgive. It’s not that I think badly of people, and I agree that forgiveness is an ideal virtue..we are not able, as mortals, to complete the picture, because we can’t, through no fault of our own, do both. I champion your deep desire to want to forgive, and it’s a worthy cause. And, we shall soar like eagles. Just not now
Apr 20, 2021 1:09 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
ChesneyChrist: Forgive and stop going on about it. It's gone but not forgotten which is to say that it is not the main focus of attention.

To forget about it completely simply means that there was nothing to forgive. Not really.
Hmmm...something to ponder...handshake
Apr 20, 2021 10:01 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Friskyone
FriskyoneFriskyoneSanta Fe, New Mexico USA301 Threads 29 Polls 6,230 Posts
I forgive because we all make mistakes but I don't forget and hope it doesn't happen again.
peace
Apr 20, 2021 11:03 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
gonelikethewimdonline today!
gonelikethewimdonline today!gonelikethewimdOsprey, Florida USA1,663 Posts
I forgive easily, but when it becomes a pattern..of doing the same thing over and over again...

Best to part ways.
Apr 20, 2021 11:05 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Friskyone
FriskyoneFriskyoneSanta Fe, New Mexico USA301 Threads 29 Polls 6,230 Posts
gonelikethewimd: I forgive easily, but when it becomes a pattern..of doing the same thing over and over again...

Best to part ways.
I agree

thumbs up
Apr 21, 2021 7:55 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
i forgot where i left my keys uh oh
Apr 21, 2021 8:30 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
Dedovix: i forgot where i left my keys
I hope you will forgive yourself for forgetting your key !!!! comfort
Apr 21, 2021 10:41 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
there are a lot of people having it coming. Actually, one of my revengeprojects is in work right now, another will follow at the end of the year. And funpart is they'll never know who is behind it all.
Apr 23, 2021 10:31 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
gonelikethewimd: I forgive easily, but when it becomes a pattern..of doing the same thing over and over again...

Best to part ways.
My wonderful dad ( actually my grandfather...they were my” real” parents..) was the most loving, spiritual man, a true, true believer, knew the Bible through and through..he would say, “After turning my other cheek, there’s only one, you know, I don’t have to get hit a THIRD time..”thumbs up
Apr 24, 2021 12:03 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
It depends on the situation. banana
Apr 24, 2021 3:08 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
I dont believe it's possible to forgive totally.
Nor to forget.
You just learn from it and grow from it.
Apr 26, 2021 9:39 PM CST Forgive/Forget ?
deedee123xo: I dont believe it's possible to forgive totally.
Nor to forget.
You just learn from it and grow from it.
Spot- on...thumbs up I do think in public culture, such as the bar, other gathering places, regulars who know and like each other can “get over stuff” and play nice, so to speak...happens a lot around here. Big difference between being able to get along well and actually “forgiving”, and I think that’s what some people get hung up on. And, people who go on and on about their forgiving...hmmm...”methinks thou dost protest too much”...

teddybear
Apr 29, 2021 1:47 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
stuarth43
stuarth43stuarth43porto, Porto Portugal2 Posts
depends what you are forgetting, some things hurt so very badly, it's hard to forget
Apr 29, 2021 1:50 AM CST Forgive/Forget ?
stuarth43
stuarth43stuarth43porto, Porto Portugal2 Posts
man can never own a woman, woman can never own a man, fess up tell the truth, lying is the most hurtful of acts

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