Is it fair to pursue a relationship abroad, if you have no intention of moving there? (94)
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Didi7: Thanks for your inputs all. I've got to go walk my puppy, Sweetie Pie, so enjoy the rest of your day.
Thanks soon 9 PM here so the day is over.
Tulefell: Well.. if it's pen-pal relationship and the both parts agree on it: then yes. Otherwise - no!
As tulefell said...LeeCharming: if you have a lot of money and a lot of free time...then i guess long distance relations could be an option...but i'm not interested in one
Neither money or time, would make any difference if one wasn't prepared to relocate.
blathin: Neither money or time, would make any difference if one wasn't prepared to relocate.
I suppose , if you can’t keep a relationship at home , it’s highly unlikely that a relationship abroad would be any more successful.well, I know people living in the Netherlands who have a woman in the philipines or anywhere. They even have children and they visit them regularly, of course they have a good job.
But it's not only relationships.
My former director of the museum got a job at the same kind of museum in Australia, he moved there with his whole family, but they couldn't stand it after all, so they moved back. The director now flies about 2 times a month to his work and back to his family. I'm still sad he left us for his follow-up isn't the kind of man I can cooperate with.
But it's not only relationships.
My former director of the museum got a job at the same kind of museum in Australia, he moved there with his whole family, but they couldn't stand it after all, so they moved back. The director now flies about 2 times a month to his work and back to his family. I'm still sad he left us for his follow-up isn't the kind of man I can cooperate with.
I'd move for the right one, what I cant ever do again is long distance ...unless it's short term it's a fools game otherwise and a time waster
Jaavisst: In the past I was looking for someone to come to my country, now I am looking to move to another country.
Today finally someone seams to buy my properties so soon I can move.
Are you afraid of Putin nuking Sweden?Today finally someone seams to buy my properties so soon I can move.
It doesn't really matter does it? Only to yourself and how "you" feel.
I wouldn't move again as it's been hard work moving back to the Uk from Spain. I accomplished that all on my own so I'm very proud of it 
People need to do what they feel fit. I personally adore my guy in America. I know that I can't be there 24/7 but it works for us.: Not going into personal details. We only have one life and so try and live it to the full as best that we can. 
I wouldn't move again as it's been hard work moving back to the Uk from Spain. I accomplished that all on my own so I'm very proud of it People need to do what they feel fit. I personally adore my guy in America. I know that I can't be there 24/7 but it works for us.: Not going into personal details. We only have one life and so try and live it to the full as best that we can. LmiDkC: Are you afraid of Putin nuking Sweden?
Are you 12 years old?
blathin: Neither money or time, would make any difference if one wasn't prepared to relocate.
To relocate or not to relocate, is that the only answer? 
Youcannow: I suppose , if you can’t keep a relationship at home , it’s highly unlikely that a relationship abroad would be any more successful.
Wise words... Definitely something to ponder...
Didi7: Wise words... Definitely something to ponder...
No, ycannow is being negative as usual (his speciale). I think your first reaction to Javisst was the right one; maybe a change of environment will do him good.
Life is short and at one point changing to a slightly different culture could make a lot of sense.
I might do the exact same thing one day.
Sure if you are in the US or first world country, own property, and looking to provide a Green card to someone a third of your age.
Don't stereotype men looking for love abroad. 
Some of us can not fit in with the rat race.
And sensible folk look for same age mostly.
I tend to look slightly above my own age.
Some of us can not fit in with the rat race.
And sensible folk look for same age mostly.
I tend to look slightly above my own age.
Grandsiozzie: Don't stereotype men looking for love abroad.
Some of us can not fit in with the rat race.
And sensible folk look for same age mostly.
I tend to look slightly above my own age.
Hi G, that's what I'm avoiding...stereotyping...but, 'long distance can indeed be challenging unless both parties agree on a meeting arrangement/pattern.Some of us can not fit in with the rat race.
And sensible folk look for same age mostly.
I tend to look slightly above my own age.
Didi7: Hi G, that's what I'm avoiding...stereotyping...but, 'long distance can indeed be challenging unless both parties agree on a meeting arrangement/pattern.
And are really committed to the relationship/each otherLDR's are hopeless.
There is no point talking unless you or the other one has real
"travel + bond and later move" plans pretty much to the front of the coretex
or what a heck it's called up there in the brain
There is no point talking unless you or the other one has real
"travel + bond and later move" plans pretty much to the front of the coretex
or what a heck it's called up there in the brain
Grandsiozzie: LDR's are hopeless.
There is no point talking unless you or the other one has real
"travel + bond and later move" plans pretty much to the front of the coretex
or what a heck it's called up there in the brain
There is no point talking unless you or the other one has real
"travel + bond and later move" plans pretty much to the front of the coretex
or what a heck it's called up there in the brain
Frontal Cortex?Didi7: Frontal Cortex?
Aha.... frontal gore-tex -
What is the role of the frontal cortex?It functions in close association with other regions of the brain that make up cerebral systems specifically designed for individual mental tasks. It participates with other brain regions in aspects of learning and memory, attention, and motivation, in part through its central role in working memory.
Must admit I was pretty lucky with that one ha.... hehe.
irish78eyes: I'd move for the right one, what I cant ever do again is long distance ...unless it's short term it's a fools game otherwise and a time waster
This 
Mercedes_00: This
long distant relationships. Depends o n a good right hand.....if you. Know what I mean...... 
truheart1941: long distant relationships. Depends o n a good right hand.....if you. Know what I mean......
Oh dear....
Didi7: Oh dear....
......typing 
Mercedes_00: Was his name Cameron?
No, it was John. I could just not live up you know.... 
Well I'll tell you a little story regarding that. You have time for that? Good 
She was here at cs, at blogs. A lot of stuff happened around these quarters back when you see... also romantically. I was really keen on her, an Aussie chick. So... one day, while I was making other plans, suddenly there was anther guy from blogs who had been faster than me, and all of a sudden he was in her living room... lol. Neeldess to say my jealousy was triggered some and that never went a way fully. Still wanted this woman. Now... under these cercumstances long after he was gone from her life I had her on skype and this cam stuff happened. Suppose I was thinking "this may lead forward". Now it didn't...
Fast forward to last year our contact reemerged... and I said to her jokefully (but you know me, with tad of a serious undertone):
can we now be together finally? She didn't answer but said something other like "hi, long time how are you" - right...
Talked some more and I mentioned a friend of mine of blogs/forums (Bohemund) and referred to him as a manly ex military who (like her) was into consp-theory. To this she said "do you have his number?"...
Conclusion is. Don't walk around wishing like some dumb fool when the no-signals are right there in your face. lol
And here a song to go along with that story:
Doobie Brothers ~ What A fool Believes
She was here at cs, at blogs. A lot of stuff happened around these quarters back when you see... also romantically. I was really keen on her, an Aussie chick. So... one day, while I was making other plans, suddenly there was anther guy from blogs who had been faster than me, and all of a sudden he was in her living room... lol. Neeldess to say my jealousy was triggered some and that never went a way fully. Still wanted this woman. Now... under these cercumstances long after he was gone from her life I had her on skype and this cam stuff happened. Suppose I was thinking "this may lead forward". Now it didn't...
Fast forward to last year our contact reemerged... and I said to her jokefully (but you know me, with tad of a serious undertone):
can we now be together finally? She didn't answer but said something other like "hi, long time how are you" - right...
Talked some more and I mentioned a friend of mine of blogs/forums (Bohemund) and referred to him as a manly ex military who (like her) was into consp-theory. To this she said "do you have his number?"...
Conclusion is. Don't walk around wishing like some dumb fool when the no-signals are right there in your face. lol
And here a song to go along with that story:
Doobie Brothers ~ What A fool Believes
"Conclusion is. Don't walk around wishing like some dumb fool when the no-signals are right there in your face. lol"
It is a very brave (sometimes foolish) thing to wear one's heart on one's sleeve. I have done the same and know how embarrassing it could be when the object of your affection doesn't have the same depth of feeling/interest in you. It's a part of life, I suppose, but certainly not the 'end' of it.
Thanks for sharing...
It is a very brave (sometimes foolish) thing to wear one's heart on one's sleeve. I have done the same and know how embarrassing it could be when the object of your affection doesn't have the same depth of feeling/interest in you. It's a part of life, I suppose, but certainly not the 'end' of it.
Thanks for sharing...
Yes, it is fair. 
Make a few holidays for it.
Make a few holidays for it.galrads: Yes, it is fair. Make a few holidays for it.
Few would agree with you, gal. But I think it may be worth trying...it's been done by others, so maybe...
It all depends, who lives in the better place for potential employment for the other. Or can one support the both of them. Is one place better in some way, climate, culture, cost of living, etc. All depends on the situation. I'll freely admit that at one point I wouldn't have moved, still wouldn't be my first choice, but now, why not see it as an option.
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