What does "not being judgy" sound like? (51)

Nov 12, 2022 6:11 PM CSTWhat does "not being judgy" sound like?
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What does "not being judgy" sound like?(Vote Below)

- (To Vote: select an option above, then press this button)
I agree with your decision, whatever it is
11%
1 Votes
I understand your position; given the circumstances, you might be right
22%
2 Votes
It’s not my business to endorse what you think or do
0%
0 Votes
As long as it doesn’t affect me, I don’t really care
0%
0 Votes
I’m in/have been in the same position as you, so how could I judge
0%
0 Votes
I might not agree with what you think/do, but I respect that that’s your choice
33%
3 Votes
If you want to be stupid, then that’s on you
11%
1 Votes
You do you, I’ll do me
0%
0 Votes
You don’t see it now, but you’ll thank me later
0%
0 Votes
Something else, perhaps?
22%
2 Votes
9 Total Votes
We've all probably heard people say things like “You can’t judge me”, “I don’t judge” and maybe, “They’re so judgy!”. The thing is, when people profess not to be judgemental, they still seem to judge (to me, at least). Is that because being ‘judgy’ means different things to different people?

So what does someone who isn't judgy, sound like to you?
Is it 1 of the listed options, or a combination of more than one of them?
Please take the poll, and feel free to leave a comment.


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Nov 12, 2022 6:28 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Sounds like someone who doesn’t care and is not judgmental, like satandevil
Nov 12, 2022 6:38 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
"What does "not being judgy" sound like?"

He agrees with me. He know how to be happy instead of being right.

Yeah, I'll run my hand through his hair. angel
Nov 12, 2022 9:04 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Do whatever you want as long as you don't hurt anyone else. It won't affect my day so it means nothing to me.
Nov 12, 2022 9:24 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Being able to agree to disagree and still having respect for each other.
Nov 13, 2022 4:00 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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In my case it sounds like de-escalation. I write down the worst take on what someone is or what they've done and gradually retreat back from it, what I should really be mad with is today's fast-food culture of instant gratification. I'm sure that they're doing their best under the circumstances, they can't help being a d*ck.
Nov 13, 2022 4:52 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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And also try to remember that everything we go through good or bad is relative. Which is the difficulty. It is so so hard to sympathise with the most privileged people ever to have lived when they are in turn pitiless towards you and your far more serious burden. Like being the poor kid at a good school. It's hard to sympathise with elite concerns but we have to do or else we'll be pretty bloody lonely in the first world.
Nov 13, 2022 5:14 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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I take that as the meaning of walk a mile in their shoes. To think of someone else's situation but not ask what would I do in their place? But to try and understand why they do what they do, try to imagine how difficult that situation must be for them because if it's so much harder for them than it would be for me, then what kind of comparison am I? It's their shoes we're supposed to be walking in.
Nov 13, 2022 6:09 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Basically you can do two things with a hard life. There's a cold-blooded logic that can justify being pitiless, as pitiless as the fortunate ones but with good reason for it, and there is also to know how it feels; I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. To want the best for all because you nearly died.
Nov 13, 2022 9:38 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
not being judgey...is a sign thats says. im a level headed person....who can read a comment...without being judgmental of the person who wrote it......we all have an opinions be right or wrong they have to live with it,,,,you dontgrin wave
Nov 13, 2022 11:52 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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galrads: Sounds like someone who doesn’t care and is not judgmental, like satan
wave Gal, "someone who doesn't care" sounds a bit harsh. Can't I care, but still not be be judgey/judgy?
Nov 13, 2022 11:58 AM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Friendship4ever: Yeah, I'll run my hand through his hair.
laugh We (Trinis) would call that "sweetening him up", to get him to do/keep him doing nice things for us.

And yes, I think that a person who isn't 'judgey', is usually more concerned with being happy, than with being right.thumbs up
Nov 13, 2022 12:03 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Track16: Do whatever you want as long as you don't hurt anyone else. It won't affect my day so it means nothing to me.
laugh Track, so are you saying that once what the person does "means nothing to me", then you could be non-judgy? Can't they do something that affects you, but you still not judge them? dunno
Nov 13, 2022 12:04 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Deedee123x: Being able to agree to disagree and still having respect for each other.
wave I totally agree with you DeeDee.grin
Nov 13, 2022 12:07 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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"...I write down the worst take on what someone is or what they've done and gradually retreat back from it,..."

wave CC, could that be looked at as making a judgement though, even if you don't confront the person?dunno
Nov 13, 2022 12:09 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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ChesneyChrist: And also try to remember that everything we go through good or bad is relative. Which is the difficulty. It is so so hard to sympathise with the most privileged people ever to have lived when they are in turn pitiless towards you and your far more serious burden. Like being the poor kid at a good school. It's hard to sympathise with elite concerns but we have to do or else we'll be pretty bloody lonely in the first world.
I agree with you that it could be difficult, but it isn't impossible.thumbs up
Nov 13, 2022 12:12 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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ChesneyChrist: I take that as the meaning of walk a mile in their shoes. To think of someone else's situation but not ask what would I do in their place? But to try and understand why they do what they do, try to imagine how difficult that situation must be for them because if it's so much harder for them than it would be for me, then what kind of comparison am I? It's their shoes we're supposed to be walking in.
Very true CC.handshake I think that that may be one of the keys to avoiding being 'judgey'. Consider the other person's situation or perspective, as a way of understanding their actions, and before making a 'judgement'.
Nov 13, 2022 12:17 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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ChesneyChrist: Basically you can do two things with a hard life. There's a cold-blooded logic that can justify being pitiless, as pitiless as the fortunate ones but with good reason for it, and there is also to know how it feels; I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. To want the best for all because you nearly died.
The 2 approaches could actually be used based upon the situation, I think, because if you use either ONE all of the time, there won't be any balance in your reasoning or your empathizing. Once shouldn't use "cold-blooded logic" for everything/everyone, nor allow one's "feelings" to lead them in the same way.
Nov 13, 2022 12:18 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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truheart1941: not being judgey...is a sign thats says. im a level headed person....who can read a comment...without being judgmental of the person who wrote it......we all have an opinions be right or wrong they have to live with it,,,,you dont
wave Perfect! Tru, I couldn't have said it any better.hug wine
Nov 13, 2022 12:22 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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SeleniteSeleniteMálaga, Andalusia Spain76 Threads 1 Polls 8,659 Posts
Not be judgemental...

To not label the situation or person one way or another. It has nothing to do with whether it affects you or not.

You can talk about a situation with someone without labelling it good or bad and without labelling the person involved. That to me is non judgemental.
Nov 13, 2022 12:31 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
god is the only judge

once your name is on te ''book of life'' your safed

at the end of time
Nov 13, 2022 1:05 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Selenite: Not be judgemental...

To not label the situation or person one way or another. It has nothing to do with whether it affects you or not.

You can talk about a situation with someone without labelling it good or bad and without labelling the person involved. That to me is non judgemental.
wave Thanks Selenite. I agree that it shouldn't depend on whether or not what was said/done affects you. And maybe, that's part of the difficulty in remaining neutral/non-judgemental.hmmm
Nov 13, 2022 1:08 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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pedro27: god is the only judge

once your name is on te ''book of life'' your safed

at the end of time
So simple, Pedro, yet not so easy to understand and live by. Hence there are 'judgey' people...sigh
Nov 13, 2022 1:12 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Didi7: So simple, Pedro, yet not so easy to understand and live by. Hence there are 'judgey' people...
my sins are not too bad

so I class myself good cheering
Nov 13, 2022 1:21 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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pedro27: my sins are not too bad

so I class myself good
Maybe so, however one can be good, but still be 'judgey'.uh oh
Nov 13, 2022 1:48 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Selenite
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Didi7: Thanks Selenite. I agree that it shouldn't depend on whether or not what was said/done affects you. And maybe, that's part of the difficulty in remaining neutral/non-judgemental.
May be ...
Or may be it can be said ''such and such affects me in this particular way....... and I would prefer......''
Nov 13, 2022 2:54 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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ColdheavenColdheavenNorthern Ireland Belfast, Antrim Ireland8 Threads 2,023 Posts
People on cs judge everyone else on cs so to say you are nonjudgemental is a complete lie.
Nov 13, 2022 4:27 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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Coldheaven: People on cs judge everyone else on cs so to say you are nonjudgemental is a complete lie.
So what do you think a 'non-judgey' person sounds like/is CH?
Nov 13, 2022 4:51 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
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ColdheavenColdheavenNorthern Ireland Belfast, Antrim Ireland8 Threads 2,023 Posts
Didi7: So what do you think a 'non-judgey' person sounds like/is CH?
Someone not on cs. Because they are ALL judgemental.
Nov 13, 2022 5:16 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
Didi7: Track, so are you saying that once what the person does "means nothing to me", then you could be non-judgy? Can't they do something that affects you, but you still not judge them?
People do do things that affect me and I'll have my spat, then I will move on and try not to hold on to it. When you spend your time being judgmental, it becomes who you are and it consumes you. Before you know it, you are miserable because you indulge in a miserable game.
Nov 13, 2022 5:19 PM CST What does "not being judgy" sound like?
sounds to me like some one with a complex just waiting to critique or worse the very next chance they get.

we can't help but note things and people around us. it will always be based on our own, individual, thoughts and cares. the only difference is whether a person realizes what's worth making a small fuss about or not.

generally in most cases, even in friendships, it's better to look away or turn a blind eye. in these cases, we already pretty much know what the people in our immediate environment are like. we know what we've accepted and agree to disagree with. more serious things may not be so easy.
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