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I would prefer not to. Particularly if they're telling me now before we've even met. It sounds like an issue that's going to be there in the moment with us, and not in their past.
No, I've had my fair share thank you. Life is too short also.
BUT I'd date a decent homeless of she had no drug or alco problems (!)
BUT I'd date a decent homeless of she had no drug or alco problems (!)
Yes, I would if they are sober. Three years is a good indication of their commitment.
You can drink all your life
and not be an alcoholic
complicated really
and not be an alcoholic
complicated really
Been there, done that. Never again. 
Would never date a drunk. Absolutely no.
Good for you, you're in recovery sense 3years
It's somebody for everybody, keep staying
on the right path you'll be fine
It's somebody for everybody, keep staying
on the right path you'll be fine
I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years , it isnt any fun. She would be ok at times when she would not drink , but just a nightmare to be around most times. And since I was the man in the marriage , i had no choice but to deal with or never be around my kids again. because women ALWAYS win them nomatter what.
.... Anyway it really sucked , but im very happy to be away from that thing now !!
.... Anyway it really sucked , but im very happy to be away from that thing now !!
I would never date an alcoholic or any substance abusers.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
If they have had relapses in the last three years then no. If they've gone cold turkey for the last three years and if you not drinking when you're together doesn't matter, then yes.
Friendship4ever: I would never date an alcoholic or any substance abusers.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
that doesn't sound like much of a Recovery,more like a Dry Drunk!They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
online today!My son-in law was addicted to oxycotin..started by a severe injury from a boating accident...Went to rehab and became clean....He then became an alcoholic...
He has been sober for 12 years now. He is a wonderful husband to my daughter and an amazing father.
Some people can kick their addictions...
He has been sober for 12 years now. He is a wonderful husband to my daughter and an amazing father.
Some people can kick their addictions...
What's wrong with having a few beers?
Forgiving crowd here I must say 
I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
Track16: Forgiving crowd here I must say
I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
I'm glad that's what it means. But if I was three years cold turkey I wouldn't even mention it until later on. Forget the past if it is the past. There's nothing to forgive if the addiction is beat. Talk about the struggle it was later. I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
Because people and especially women are narcissistic and suspicious. It doesn't take much to seal your fate when this person is looking for something wrong with you and will not see anything wrong with themselves.
But once you get to know someone a bit, totally different. Not so much the acid for blood leper once you get offline.
You need the real world to see whether you could have a healthy relationship with this person. And if this person used to be an alcoholic, why not? It doesn't effect you, them or the relationship.
And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
@Track. When you been forgiving for years and years and it took its toll on you..
I figure somone else can pick up where I left.
No more wasted years for me, rather be alone.
Basically I've done my duty.
So don't mean to be an azz but there is only so much burdon one need to take,
in one lifetime.
I figure somone else can pick up where I left.
No more wasted years for me, rather be alone.
Basically I've done my duty.
So don't mean to be an azz but there is only so much burdon one need to take,
in one lifetime.
Alcoholism isn't something you forgive. That would be like forgiving someone for getting cancer. My husband was an alcoholic. The thought of forgiving him never ran through my mind. However the thought of helping him physically and mentally to go to AA meetings I did all the time and I went with him. The alcoholic has to want to be sober and he will get sober but the bottle always pulled him back. You would never know that he was a good man when he was drunk because he said and did things that he didn't mean. People do bad things when they are drunk, that doesn't mean they are a bad person. I wish he was stronger than the bottle but he died 48 years ago at the age of 45 and I still think of him.
if alcohol is so bad why did Jesus turn the water into wine? at a wedding,he was at 2000 years ago
ICU_UCME: ...because women ALWAYS win them nomatter what....
There must be different laws on your planet. I won custody on mine. I was never a father that backed down from that. I did the research and found that there were men that did fight, and this was back decades ago. Yes, lawyers are a pain, so you have to start with a good lawyer. Mine was female, which helped, I think. But, back then, there was still a lot of prejudice against men being parents. We were just a source of income, nothing more. I can't say that it has changed much, but it has changed.Track16: Forgiving crowd here I must say
I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
I am a former addict, but I give it up and have no plans to go back so I know what its like to give up something you are dependent on. A recovered alcoholic is a recovered alcoholic, it means they beat the addiction and is no longer slave to the bottle. That is a great achievement, one that a lot of people don't realize how hard it is to do and shows real commitment.
You don't have to forgive nobody, you did a great job by giving it up
secretagent09: Alcoholism isn't something you forgive. That would be like forgiving someone for getting cancer. My husband was an alcoholic. The thought of forgiving him never ran through my mind. However the thought of helping him physically and mentally to go to AA meetings I did all the time and I went with him. The alcoholic has to want to be sober and he will get sober but the bottle always pulled him back. You would never know that he was a good man when he was drunk because he said and did things that he didn't mean. People do bad things when they are drunk, that doesn't mean they are a bad person. I wish he was stronger than the bottle but he died 48 years ago at the age of 45 and I still think of him.
Hi SA
I can totally understand where you're coming from as my daughters ex was/is an alcoholic and was always drunk and abusive with it. From what I've learned though, there are so called "practicing" alcoholics and drug users "If I've got the word "practicing" right"
Many just have a couple of drinks per day every day so they can still go to work, the same as drug users, they still can function and do a days work. They don't get drunk or blow their mind on drugs. Many professional people do this but so do many other people but they are still classed as alcoholics or drug addicts I think it's a very grey area....
i would prefer not to date an alcoholic.
however, i drink rarely to none and very little if i do decide to have a drink.
if the woman were actually trying and keeping her act together over an extended period of time and we happen to meet up; why would i deny a potential opportunity for a partner if i were looking? if there's a spark, there's no reason to ignore it.
no matter how many years sober, a person will always be labeled an alcoholic and recovering.
should they all be condemned for life? maybe some should but certainly not all.
however, i drink rarely to none and very little if i do decide to have a drink.
if the woman were actually trying and keeping her act together over an extended period of time and we happen to meet up; why would i deny a potential opportunity for a partner if i were looking? if there's a spark, there's no reason to ignore it.
no matter how many years sober, a person will always be labeled an alcoholic and recovering.
should they all be condemned for life? maybe some should but certainly not all.
What is this fictitious object 'an alcholic'?
Why would anyone think they have the right to reduce another human being to the status of an object, 'an alcoholic', it's existence there solely for the benefit of your personal choice, or your derision?
Why would any human being who is, or has substance misused be nothing more than that?
Why might anyone want to date you?
Why would anyone think they have the right to reduce another human being to the status of an object, 'an alcoholic', it's existence there solely for the benefit of your personal choice, or your derision?
Why would any human being who is, or has substance misused be nothing more than that?
Why might anyone want to date you?
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