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I would prefer not to. Particularly if they're telling me now before we've even met. It sounds like an issue that's going to be there in the moment with us, and not in their past.
No, I've had my fair share thank you. Life is too short also.
BUT I'd date a decent homeless of she had no drug or alco problems (!)
BUT I'd date a decent homeless of she had no drug or alco problems (!)
Yes, I would if they are sober. Three years is a good indication of their commitment.
You can drink all your life
and not be an alcoholic
complicated really
and not be an alcoholic
complicated really
Been there, done that. Never again. 
Would never date a drunk. Absolutely no.
Good for you, you're in recovery sense 3years
It's somebody for everybody, keep staying
on the right path you'll be fine
It's somebody for everybody, keep staying
on the right path you'll be fine
I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years , it isnt any fun. She would be ok at times when she would not drink , but just a nightmare to be around most times. And since I was the man in the marriage , i had no choice but to deal with or never be around my kids again. because women ALWAYS win them nomatter what.
.... Anyway it really sucked , but im very happy to be away from that thing now !!
.... Anyway it really sucked , but im very happy to be away from that thing now !!
I would never date an alcoholic or any substance abusers.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
If they have had relapses in the last three years then no. If they've gone cold turkey for the last three years and if you not drinking when you're together doesn't matter, then yes.
Friendship4ever: I would never date an alcoholic or any substance abusers.
They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
that doesn't sound like much of a Recovery,more like a Dry Drunk!They could be in recovery, but their bad mannerism remains.
I don't have time for that.
online today!My son-in law was addicted to oxycotin..started by a severe injury from a boating accident...Went to rehab and became clean....He then became an alcoholic...
He has been sober for 12 years now. He is a wonderful husband to my daughter and an amazing father.
Some people can kick their addictions...
He has been sober for 12 years now. He is a wonderful husband to my daughter and an amazing father.
Some people can kick their addictions...
What's wrong with having a few beers?
You need the real world to see whether you could have a healthy relationship with this person. And if this person used to be an alcoholic, why not? It doesn't effect you, them or the relationship.
And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
Alcoholism isn't something you forgive. That would be like forgiving someone for getting cancer. My husband was an alcoholic. The thought of forgiving him never ran through my mind. However the thought of helping him physically and mentally to go to AA meetings I did all the time and I went with him. The alcoholic has to want to be sober and he will get sober but the bottle always pulled him back. You would never know that he was a good man when he was drunk because he said and did things that he didn't mean. People do bad things when they are drunk, that doesn't mean they are a bad person. I wish he was stronger than the bottle but he died 48 years ago at the age of 45 and I still think of him.
if alcohol is so bad why did Jesus turn the water into wine? at a wedding,he was at 2000 years ago
ICU_UCME: ...because women ALWAYS win them nomatter what....
There must be different laws on your planet. I won custody on mine. I was never a father that backed down from that. I did the research and found that there were men that did fight, and this was back decades ago. Yes, lawyers are a pain, so you have to start with a good lawyer. Mine was female, which helped, I think. But, back then, there was still a lot of prejudice against men being parents. We were just a source of income, nothing more. I can't say that it has changed much, but it has changed.secretagent09: Alcoholism isn't something you forgive. That would be like forgiving someone for getting cancer. My husband was an alcoholic. The thought of forgiving him never ran through my mind. However the thought of helping him physically and mentally to go to AA meetings I did all the time and I went with him. The alcoholic has to want to be sober and he will get sober but the bottle always pulled him back. You would never know that he was a good man when he was drunk because he said and did things that he didn't mean. People do bad things when they are drunk, that doesn't mean they are a bad person. I wish he was stronger than the bottle but he died 48 years ago at the age of 45 and I still think of him.
Hi SA
I can totally understand where you're coming from as my daughters ex was/is an alcoholic and was always drunk and abusive with it. From what I've learned though, there are so called "practicing" alcoholics and drug users "If I've got the word "practicing" right"
Many just have a couple of drinks per day every day so they can still go to work, the same as drug users, they still can function and do a days work. They don't get drunk or blow their mind on drugs. Many professional people do this but so do many other people but they are still classed as alcoholics or drug addicts I think it's a very grey area....
i would prefer not to date an alcoholic.
however, i drink rarely to none and very little if i do decide to have a drink.
if the woman were actually trying and keeping her act together over an extended period of time and we happen to meet up; why would i deny a potential opportunity for a partner if i were looking? if there's a spark, there's no reason to ignore it.
no matter how many years sober, a person will always be labeled an alcoholic and recovering.
should they all be condemned for life? maybe some should but certainly not all.
however, i drink rarely to none and very little if i do decide to have a drink.
if the woman were actually trying and keeping her act together over an extended period of time and we happen to meet up; why would i deny a potential opportunity for a partner if i were looking? if there's a spark, there's no reason to ignore it.
no matter how many years sober, a person will always be labeled an alcoholic and recovering.
should they all be condemned for life? maybe some should but certainly not all.
What is this fictitious object 'an alcholic'?
Why would anyone think they have the right to reduce another human being to the status of an object, 'an alcoholic', it's existence there solely for the benefit of your personal choice, or your derision?
Why would any human being who is, or has substance misused be nothing more than that?
Why might anyone want to date you?
Why would anyone think they have the right to reduce another human being to the status of an object, 'an alcoholic', it's existence there solely for the benefit of your personal choice, or your derision?
Why would any human being who is, or has substance misused be nothing more than that?
Why might anyone want to date you?
pedro27: What's wrong with having a few beers?
If it is not a habit which gets worseI can date if he rarely drinks alcohol but an alcoholic a big NO.
Ephesians 5:18
Do not get drunk on wine which leads to debauchery instead, be filled with the spirit.
Proverbs 20:1
Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler;
Whoever is led astray by them is not wise.
Ephesians 5:18
Do not get drunk on wine which leads to debauchery instead, be filled with the spirit.
Proverbs 20:1
Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler;
Whoever is led astray by them is not wise.
ChesneyChrist: You need the real world to see whether you could have a healthy relationship with this person. And if this person used to be an alcoholic, why not? It doesn't effect you, them or the relationship.
And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
Alcoholics do not have Relationships,they take Hostages!And if they've still got a problem, they just don't want to be associated with someone who used to be an alcoholic then throw them away, bin them.
are we talking about the irish women on here..........??????????
I think all cultures have problems with alcoholics.
truheart1941: are we talking about the irish women on here..........??????????
You obviously don't watch the reality uk police shows on the telly or see the daily mail online after a long weekend or leading up to Xmas over there 
Whataboutromance: You obviously don't watch the reality uk police shows on the telly or see the daily mail online after a long weekend or leading up to Xmas over there
.....i feel real sorrow for you......seeing all thos drunk woman where you are ,drunk as a scunk.....the potty mouths lifting up their skirts shouting out ........have you seen one like this...... its not right.......while the men sit indoors watching a bit of sport.....sippling a half pint of guiness.......its disgustin......
Conrad73: Alcoholics do not have Relationships,they take Hostages!
Agree Conradtruheart1941: .....i feel real sorrow for you......seeing all thos drunk woman where you are ,drunk as a scunk.....the potty mouths lifting up their skirts shouting out ........have you seen one like this...... its not right.......while the men sit indoors watching a bit of sport.....sippling a half pint of guiness.......its disgustin......
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