Why doesnt an online relationship make it ? ( Archived) (157)

Except for the hugs, sounds like a perfect relationship.

oooppss.meant if i have one.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

More often than not the realtionship does not wor for the same reasons it does not work in real life. The lack of an intimate realtionship with ourselves. Smoke and mirrors and strong winds. Lies, to both ourselves and the OP.
Until we clean the slate of our past failings we will contstantly drag our own issues into each new person's life and apply it as a screen through which we examine this new situation.
They fail because we want them to bottom line. Failure is easy as it is what we have the most experience with and succeeding although it is by far the better choice is the unknown entity which we fear so much tha we cling to faded and jaded memories of our lost relationships.

Mark

I think that if it gets past the internet, phone point, it stands a chance. At least it's a one on one thing. I think that people are so wrapped up in the whole idea of finding their perfect mate, when they meet in person, it is a let down of sorts-for some, especially if they have spent hours on the phone and months interacting on the web. Virtual friends are more real. You take them for who they are, and embrace them throughout the good times and the bad. Friends are an easier connection.

It's probably not a sport to most.. Just looking for something and being let down by it over and over again.It's a pattern. If people would learn to slow down and wait until they actually meet, the standards that they have given that person wouldn't be as high.

jmo

Probably it is an overreaction to a "wordy " situation. Maybe a little patience and planning should make it work to real.

I wonder if there is a chance people would carry the relationship to as far as they can and leave it mdway for osme personal insecurity or even say better choice ???

I wonder if its right.

I've never had a relationship but I have had four dates during the last 18 months. All surprised me physically, well two more than others, as they were so unlike their profile pics.

All were very sweet in their own way but one was an alcoholic, two were old before their time (despite saying they were fun-loving and young at heart, or words to that effect, and one was very nice but there was no real chemistry.

So, having been a little disappointed, I'd much rather meet somebody in the real world than online, not that I think this guarantees a more successful relationship.

I wonder that too. How we go by people as in their pictures and words.
I would personally feel someone's picture might be pretty but they might just be photogenic sometimes. So the real person is the real deal and to jump before one meets to decide on a relationhip might just be a recipe for disaster.

" MIGHT " be .. as i mention as there are people who are better in real and well.. one can just fall for them anyways here or in real life.

well, if they take a relationship midpoint as far as they can and then leave it for some personal insecurity, that seems like an excuse to hide the true reason. If a better choice comes along, then it wasn't love anyway.
Both happen in r.l. as well as cyberly.

Arizona is in the real world...

I have had incredible luck meeting people online. They were all terrific when I met them in person. They looked even better in person than their photos. They were the same online and in real person as far as personality.

After we met in person, it no longer became an online relationship...it was real life. The online part is just a conduit to meet people and get to know them.

U are so right about all of it especially the smoke and mirrors. It is easy to apply the mistakes of the past and be the "New Us" online - but when meeting in person, unless we have really made those changes the "Old Us" comes right back out and that affects both parties' bottom line.

We are all who we want to be until the pressure is on - then we just are.

HEY!!!!!!!!!!!! I just figured why out why my computer is called a "LAPTOP".....

Computer darling, come sit on the Old Man's lap...

one word:
fear

Sounds good to me.. i am hoping that with quite a few people !!