Meaning as parents we have no control of what happnens. We can hope and pray to have a healthy child but that is not always the case. Therefore when a child is born with a handicap it is not their fault and for the most part the parents either. There could be issues with the parents and genelogy making it not the chiilds fault. Understand?
I dont think most women would. I have a daughter that is special needs and I kinda stayed away from dating for so long because I knew once they knew it would be over. I mean to love me you have to love my chld you know. I feel the man would not be worth it anyway in that case. I have meet someone on here that I would really like to meet and get to know so im going to give it a shot and we will see what happens ;)
There are a lot of people who just can't handle dealing with a special needs child. I should know, I have 2. I was alone for a very long time because of it (9 years). People were polite and I had "friends" but no one who was willing to get involved with me because of the commitment it takes to raise these kids.
When I came on this site back in January, I met a wonderful man who was willing and eager to accept my boys. He understood what it takes to raise these kids and was not afraid to become a very big part of our lives. I have been very blessed. The first blessing was my boys and the second blessing was hedistuff. We will marry this summer.
I might but it would depand on what the kid is like. Once I worked with a girl whose brother was mentally challenged. He destroyed everything she owned, including every shred of her clothing. He put spots all over her nice coat and holes in her dresses. Then, years later I got a cat who wrecks stuff and kept him forever.
Witchaywoman: I might but it would depand on what the kid is like. Once I worked with a girl whose brother was mentally challenged. He destroyed everything she owned, including every shred of her clothing. He put spots all over her nice coat and holes in her dresses. Then, years later I got a cat who wrecks stuff and kept him forever.
I do understand your point. I know a lot of Autistic children can be a handfull. I have one in my class everyday. Some kids can be more difficult then other but I do konw that if the child was severly autistic I would have to think about it. Especially if dad didnt have control.
if your a person capable of love you open your heart especially to the most unfortunate. i have a grandson with downs syndrome ' he's a hand ful but when he gives you a hug and says i love you you know it is very sincere and it comes from the heart. if people could be honest and sincere like the less fortunate that give love and recieve love with appreciation we wouldn't need a singles web
caspatch: if your a person capable of love you open your heart especially to the most unfortunate. i have a grandson with downs syndrome ' he's a hand ful but when he gives you a hug and says i love you you know it is very sincere and it comes from the heart. if people could be honest and sincere like the less fortunate that give love and recieve love with appreciation we wouldn't need a singles web
Yes, I agree. I have three downsyndromes students in my class room and boy I will tell you they are a joy to have .
lady93: The wording? "its not the childs fault" Well its pretty self exlainatory. It is not the childs fault they were born with disibilities. Understand?
My son is nineteen years old, severely disabled, CP, MR, non-verbal, wheelchair bound and lives with me.
arabella: My son is nineteen years old, severely disabled, CP, MR, non-verbal, wheelchair bound and lives with me.
Yeah, I understand....
I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
lady93: I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
My brother is mentally disabled, and i dated a woman that had a kid with Autism, OMG he made my brother look like a piece of cake, this kid needed to be in an institution where they can properly handle him cause his mother could not, he was destroying her house and her own mental stablility, and physically hurting people like me he tried and did kick me in the balls several times, hit me in the head! and spit! one me, on several ocassions. I'd say it depends on the certain situation but this poor guy 19 needed something more than what mother could give!. And no i would never date someone in that situation ever again!.
goodguy01: My brother is mentally disabled, and i dated a woman that had a kid with Autism, OMG he made my brother look like a piece of cake, this kid needed to be in an institution where they can properly handle him cause his mother could not, he was destroying her house and her own mental stablility, and physically hurting people like me he tried and did kick me in the balls several times, hit me in the head! and spit! one me, on several ocassions. I'd say it depends on the certain situation but this poor guy 19 needed something more than what mother could give!. And no i would never date someone in that situation ever again!.
Autisim is a hell of a disibility. Even though the kids are not responsibility how they act autisim can make you want to And at the age of 19 its too late. I mean Just like any child those with autisim understand right from wrong and many parents let them get away with soooo much stuff just because they have a label. I will tell you this I have a nephew with autisim. He is sweet as pie. When we first found out he had it we tried to deal with it not disipline when he necessary. He pinched me one time I pinched him back just as hard. Ask me if he ever pinch anyone again? NOPE Those children need rules ans guidlines as well. Many are more sever than others and it seems like that is what your lady friend was up against and I am truly sorry for that.
lady93: Just curious of how people think about certain situation.
Love is unconditional... Children are a gift from God... For me the child would not be an issue healthy disabled or otherwise, every child needs as much love as they can get in this world, there are too many that go with out for no reason.
sbear: Love is unconditional... Children are a gift from God... For me the child would not be an issue healthy disabled or otherwise, every child needs as much love as they can get in this world, there are too many that go with out for no reason.
It has to be unconditional..otherwise there is nothing. I lost two special needs children in my time..the love they gave and received was unconditional and based on innocence. Thats a rare gift people get in a lifetime..and its sad if people regard getting involved with a parent with special needs as an inconvenience or a put off. I regard myself as blessed not to mention my surviving child/young man
lady93: Just curious of how people think about certain situation.
yes,if he is the right person im waiting for and he owns the thing im looking,no matter what if he is disability person.love can grow anywere...and we are blind when it comes.
lady93: I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
First, don't sweat those who don't know you and email things like this to you. You have every right to start any thread you want, whether it's just from curiosity or from personal experience. Second, I did figure that personal experience was why you started this...I don't know why anyone would assume otherwise. Third, yes, I would date and/or marry a man with a special needs child. I've known a few in my life, and they're wonderful. My sister works with special needs children...it's not a dealbreaker for me in a relationship.
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