Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child? ( Archived) (54)

Mar 21, 2009 1:29 PM CSTWould you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas, USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts

Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?(Vote Below)

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Yes, its not the childs fault.
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66%
I'd date but would not consider marrying
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10%
No, I think it would be to big of a responsibility
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Total Votes
106
Just curious of how people think about certain situation.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:32 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
TLC69
TLC69TLC69duncannon, Pennsylvania USA1 Threads 270 Posts
Love is blind, if you got to know the person and fell in love...you would be a fool to not see what could come of it.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:32 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
arabella
arabellaarabellaNear Farmington, Maine USA98 Threads 1 Polls 6,199 Posts
"it's not the childs fault"

Care to explain that wording???confused
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Mar 21, 2009 1:38 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
dcj22
dcj22dcj22Somewhere, Tennessee USA102 Threads 3 Polls 11,581 Posts
Of course, they're people too.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:40 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
vonney
vonneyvonneyDublin, Ireland24 Threads 6,371 Posts
arabella: "it's not the childs fault"

Care to explain that wording???



Was curious about that to
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Mar 21, 2009 1:45 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
You are right. But you have people that are so shallow and would not even take the chance to get to know a person for that particular reason.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:46 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
The wording? "its not the childs fault" Well its pretty self exlainatory. It is not the childs fault they were born with disibilities. Understand?
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Mar 21, 2009 1:48 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
Charli15695
Charli15695Charli15695Dallas, Texas USA22 Threads 1,223 Posts
I am beyond the child-rearing period of my life...so the answer is no to any child, regardless.wave
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Mar 21, 2009 1:49 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
Meaning as parents we have no control of what happnens. We can hope and pray to have a healthy child but that is not always the case. Therefore when a child is born with a handicap it is not their fault and for the most part the parents either. There could be issues with the parents and genelogy making it not the chiilds fault. Understand?
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Mar 21, 2009 1:52 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
I would have no problem marrying/dating someone who had a special needs child.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:54 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
zoranova
zoranovazoranovaFt. Lauderdale, Florida USA73 Posts
Yes.
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Mar 21, 2009 1:56 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
I wouldn't marry or date a woman with children....period!!
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Mar 21, 2009 1:56 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
I dont think most women would. I have a daughter that is special needs and I kinda stayed away from dating for so long because I knew once they knew it would be over. I mean to love me you have to love my chld you know. I feel the man would not be worth it anyway in that case. I have meet someone on here that I would really like to meet and get to know so im going to give it a shot and we will see what happens ;)
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Mar 21, 2009 1:59 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
Tamarin
TamarinTamarinsomewhere, Lothian, Scotland UK173 Threads 1 Polls 3,267 Posts
Yes off course ....

If I cared enough nothing would matter...

A special needs child can be as lovable and even more of a delight than a so called normal child...

As a man said to me I will stick around till your kids accept me... My kids are classed as text book normal is there such a thing....

laugh

It is all about give and take....
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Mar 21, 2009 2:07 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lifesajoy
lifesajoylifesajoySand Fork, West Virginia USA4 Threads 404 Posts
There are a lot of people who just can't handle dealing with a special needs child. I should know, I have 2. I was alone for a very long time because of it (9 years). People were polite and I had "friends" but no one who was willing to get involved with me because of the commitment it takes to raise these kids.

When I came on this site back in January, I met a wonderful man who was willing and eager to accept my boys. He understood what it takes to raise these kids and was not afraid to become a very big part of our lives. I have been very blessed. The first blessing was my boys and the second blessing was hedistuff. We will marry this summer.
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Mar 21, 2009 2:43 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
How wonderful! ! ! That is such a beautiful story. I wish you all the very best.
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Mar 21, 2009 4:03 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
KrazieStill
KrazieStillKrazieStillChardon, Ohio USA13 Threads 3,978 Posts
Absolutely.
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Mar 21, 2009 4:34 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
Witchaywoman
WitchaywomanWitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA97 Threads 13 Polls 4,344 Posts
I might but it would depand on what the kid is like. Once I worked with a girl whose brother was mentally challenged. He destroyed everything she owned, including every shred of her clothing. He put spots all over her nice coat and holes in her dresses. Then, years later I got a cat who wrecks stuff and kept him forever.
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Mar 21, 2009 4:39 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
Witchaywoman: I might but it would depand on what the kid is like. Once I worked with a girl whose brother was mentally challenged. He destroyed everything she owned, including every shred of her clothing. He put spots all over her nice coat and holes in her dresses. Then, years later I got a cat who wrecks stuff and kept him forever.

I do understand your point. I know a lot of Autistic children can be a handfull. I have one in my class everyday. Some kids can be more difficult then other but I do konw that if the child was severly autistic I would have to think about it. Especially if dad didnt have control.
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Mar 21, 2009 4:45 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
if your a person capable of love you open your heart especially to the most unfortunate. i have a grandson with downs syndrome ' he's a hand ful but when he gives you a hug and says i love you you know it is very sincere and it comes from the heart. if people could be honest and sincere like the less fortunate that give love and recieve love with appreciation we wouldn't need a singles web
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Mar 21, 2009 5:17 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
caspatch: if your a person capable of love you open your heart especially to the most unfortunate. i have a grandson with downs syndrome ' he's a hand ful but when he gives you a hug and says i love you you know it is very sincere and it comes from the heart. if people could be honest and sincere like the less fortunate that give love and recieve love with appreciation we wouldn't need a singles web


Yes, I agree. I have three downsyndromes students in my class room and boy I will tell you they are a joy to have .
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Mar 21, 2009 5:50 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
arabella
arabellaarabellaNear Farmington, Maine USA98 Threads 1 Polls 6,199 Posts
lady93: The wording? "its not the childs fault" Well its pretty self exlainatory. It is not the childs fault they were born with disibilities. Understand?


My son is nineteen years old, severely disabled, CP, MR, non-verbal, wheelchair bound and lives with me.

Yeah, I understand....
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Mar 21, 2009 7:17 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
arabella: My son is nineteen years old, severely disabled, CP, MR, non-verbal, wheelchair bound and lives with me.

Yeah, I understand....


I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
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Mar 21, 2009 7:27 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93: I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
legit forum don't sweat the small mindedhug
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Mar 21, 2009 9:15 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
caspatch: legit forum don't sweat the small minded

Thanks hug
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Mar 21, 2009 9:41 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
goodguy01
goodguy01goodguy01Corona, California USA5 Posts
My brother is mentally disabled, and i dated a woman that had a kid with Autism, OMG he made my brother look like a piece of cake, this kid needed to be in an institution where they can properly handle him cause his mother could not, he was destroying her house and her own mental stablility, and physically hurting people like me he tried and did kick me in the balls several times, hit me in the head! and spit! one me, on several ocassions. I'd say it depends on the certain situation but this poor guy 19 needed something more than what mother could give!. And no i would never date someone in that situation ever again!.
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Mar 22, 2009 6:03 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
lady93
lady93lady93Houston, Texas USA5 Threads 5 Polls 75 Posts
goodguy01: My brother is mentally disabled, and i dated a woman that had a kid with Autism, OMG he made my brother look like a piece of cake, this kid needed to be in an institution where they can properly handle him cause his mother could not, he was destroying her house and her own mental stablility, and physically hurting people like me he tried and did kick me in the balls several times, hit me in the head! and spit! one me, on several ocassions. I'd say it depends on the certain situation but this poor guy 19 needed something more than what mother could give!. And no i would never date someone in that situation ever again!.


Autisim is a hell of a disibility. Even though the kids are not responsibility how they act autisim can make you want to cryingAnd at the age of 19 its too late. I mean Just like any child those with autisim understand right from wrong and many parents let them get away with soooo much stuff just because they have a label. I will tell you this I have a nephew with autisim. He is sweet as pie. When we first found out he had it we tried to deal with it not disipline when he necessary. He pinched me one time I pinched him back just as hard. Ask me if he ever pinch anyone again? NOPE Those children need rules ans guidlines as well. Many are more sever than others and it seems like that is what your lady friend was up against and I am truly sorry for that.
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Mar 22, 2009 6:12 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
sbear
sbearsbearEast Haven, Connecticut USA4 Threads 119 Posts
lady93: Just curious of how people think about certain situation.


Love is unconditional... Children are a gift from God...
For me the child would not be an issue healthy disabled or otherwise, every child needs as much love as they can get in this world, there are too many that go with out for no reason. teddybear
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Mar 23, 2009 7:42 AM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
orion48
orion48orion48North Monaghan, Monaghan Ireland10 Threads 278 Posts
sbear: Love is unconditional... Children are a gift from God...
For me the child would not be an issue healthy disabled or otherwise, every child needs as much love as they can get in this world, there are too many that go with out for no reason.

It has to be unconditional..otherwise there is nothing.
I lost two special needs children in my time..the love they gave and received was unconditional and based on innocence. Thats a rare gift people get in a lifetime..and its sad if people regard getting involved with a parent with special needs as an inconvenience or a put off.
I regard myself as blessed not to mention my surviving child/young manteddybear
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Mar 23, 2009 11:04 AM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
krisha
krishakrishatokyo, Kanto Japan76 Threads 6,375 Posts
lady93: Just curious of how people think about certain situation.




yes,if he is the right person im waiting for and he owns the thing im looking,no matter what if he is disability person.love can grow anywere...and we are blind when it comes.
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Mar 23, 2009 12:11 PM CST Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
lady93: I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....


First, don't sweat those who don't know you and email things like this to you. You have every right to start any thread you want, whether it's just from curiosity or from personal experience. Second, I did figure that personal experience was why you started this...I don't know why anyone would assume otherwise. Third, yes, I would date and/or marry a man with a special needs child. I've known a few in my life, and they're wonderful. My sister works with special needs children...it's not a dealbreaker for me in a relationship.
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