Would you do a diet to please your partner? ( Archived) (60)

My kind of man, how the heck are you wall? Miss your pics :hug:

If he accepts you the way you are, you don't need to do it for him. If you do it, do it for you.

So glad to see you back. My local phone company has had problems and I have been on and off with all that.

Doing alright....I'm off to visit my family for a mothers day supper.

Good grief? what kind of person would ask you to change yourself for them....let him go ! (doesn't he know the weight can creep back on later?)

I already have restrictions in my diet and eat very healthy because of them, so I couldn't possibly "go on a diet". I've been losing weight as a matter of changing how I eat in general, for my health and to accommodate certain conditions. And I work out at the gym. So, a man has to love me the way I am, and I've learned to love me the way I am. Slowly, the excess will come off and what's out of shape will tone. I'm not on the fast track, but doing this as changes for life.

Nope. Never.

But would do it for myself if I feel I need it.

Also wouldn't use a make up and body painting he wants me to, wouldn't wear a thigh-high boots he wants me to wear, but would do it in private when my mood is in synch with these desires of his. Dieting doesn't fall in this category, though.

I`v done stupider things just to get in there`s undies

like what?

I will, as usual, be the lone dissenter to the socially correct "I would only consider making a change in my life if it were for me."

In a very fundamental sense, of course, we do ALL things ultimately for ourselves, even including activities traditionally categorized as "altruistic" such as charity. I mean, everything we do we do ultimately because WE value that action.

However, at the level of analysis in this discussion, the idea is that we should not do things, particularly things that involve personal change, to please another. This is clearly false. In the course of our lives - doubtless in the course of most of her days - we do thing to please others. The difference between all the countless things we do which we wouldn't do if not for the presence of others is really just a matter of degree.

While most of us would be perfectly willing to change some small habit for our friends or lovers - or even a fairly large habit if the reasons for doing that were sufficiently powerful - reducing one's weight or giving up an addiction (such as cigarettes or alcohol) are not easily achieved actions. If your loved one requested that you lose some weight you probably would do so if you could accomplish that with the snap of a finger.

I see nothing intrinsically less reasonable about making such a request than, for instance, asking that your S.O. reduce his nights out at the bar or his gambling or drinking or pissing on the toilet seat. Nor do I see anything intrinsically unreasonable about considering such requests from one's partner.

Well i`v learnd from Mrquise de Sade,so what do you think

am cepable to do

do tell

NO I would not, I mean, I am a diabetic so I already have to watch what I eat. I already fought and won, and still winning the weight battle, so if he liked me at first, then he would have to keep liking me. Besides, it was probably all the junk in my trunk that attracted him to begin with.

I had already a warning from the moderators

but i can send you my book for only 9.99$

you got a deal.







P.S. They never warn me - boot out with no warning just like that.

Well they kinde have a soft spot for me, i guess

it makes two of us: the mod and me

Thanx ,kinde Lady