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Jan 2, 2008 2:09 PM CSTIf you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Firefighter_68
Firefighter_68Firefighter_68any, Puerto Rico, USA49 Threads 7 Polls 524 Posts

If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would(Vote Below)

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Not mind
6
1%
Forgive once
101
21%
Forgive always
11
2%
Do the same to him/her
14
3%
Do the same to him/her then break up
18
4%
break up immediately
210
45%
Don't know
76
16%
Other
34
7%
Total Votes
470
Yes, I have experienced that bad feeling of betrayal.
I really wanted to make her feel like she's not important, that she was just an insignificant part of my life and that she can never really hurt me. I was deployed to Iraq when it happened it lasted for 8 of the 13 months I was gone. But the thing is, I loved her and so despite everything, I forgave her and hoped that someday I will be able to forget the way she deceived me. We have divorced now....sigh sigh
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Jan 2, 2008 2:09 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Firefighter_68
Firefighter_68Firefighter_68any, Puerto Rico USA49 Threads 7 Polls 524 Posts
Yes, I have experienced that bad feeling of betrayal.
I really wanted to make her feel like she's not important, that she was just an insignificant part of my life and that she can never really hurt me. I was deployed to Iraq when it happened it lasted for 8 of the 13 months I was gone. But the thing is, I loved her and so despite everything, I forgave her and hoped that someday I will be able to forget the way she deceived me. We have divorced now....sigh sigh
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Jan 2, 2008 2:11 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK66 Threads 14 Polls 8,969 Posts
Hmmm.. I'm no longer the forgiving kind..

there is NO possible excuse in my book..

I'd end it immediately.
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Jan 2, 2008 2:12 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
OMG!!!!!!! GMTA!!!!!!!!!!


Same Same...cheering applause cheering
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Jan 2, 2008 2:12 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Forgive once..
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Jan 2, 2008 2:16 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
zanteandy
zanteandyzanteandysurrey, Surrey, England UK37 Threads 368 Posts
end it straight away as the trust as gone,
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Jan 2, 2008 2:19 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
WhiteAsh
WhiteAshWhiteAshTurtle Lake, Wisconsin USA7 Threads 836 Posts
kick the bums a** out, why I'd even be nice enough to help him pack.
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Jan 2, 2008 2:22 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Sparky55
Sparky55Sparky55Somewhere, Afghanistan68 Threads 1 Polls 4,749 Posts
A similar thing happened to me and I reacted a similar way, with the same outcome. Sad and I hope you get past this soon if you haven't already.
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Jan 2, 2008 2:26 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Scottishlass
ScottishlassScottishlassKnoxville, Tennessee USA672 Threads 29 Polls 4,352 Posts
gone like the wind. IMO if they do it once they will do it again
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Jan 2, 2008 2:27 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
leave them.....but forgive them
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Jan 2, 2008 2:30 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
mime61
mime61mime61Summerville, SC, South Carolina USA10 Threads 1 Polls 441 Posts
I always forgive...people are human and make mistakes....I give too much trust sometimes....I am not here to judge...if I can't forgive someone for their mistakes, how can I expect anyone to forgive me when I mess up!
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Jan 2, 2008 3:41 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
dogsrule
dogsruledogsruleSomewhere, Massachusetts USA18 Threads 1 Polls 557 Posts
HE would be done right there and then.. out ya go.
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Jan 2, 2008 3:47 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
I am continually amazed at the responses of people wanting to get even with the other person, when it's the spouse that should get the brunt of the anger. The other person is sometimes just as surprised as you are, but the spouse knew they were being dis-honest!!
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Jan 2, 2008 4:51 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
dcj22
dcj22dcj22Somewhere, Tennessee USA125 Threads 3 Polls 15,974 Posts
Amen - if packing means throwing his crap in the yard
cheers
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Jan 2, 2008 5:01 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
constanza
constanzaconstanzaLA, California USA30 Threads 1 Polls 6,489 Posts
It is complex isn't it? It depends.
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Jan 2, 2008 5:02 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
archer666
archer666archer666lagos, Faro Portugal6 Threads 306 Posts
Depends how and why. But only the once.
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Jan 2, 2008 5:03 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Rollgy
RollgyRollgyPoplar Bluff, Missouri USA25 Threads 627 Posts
I had a similar situation , since last Febuary , I caught my wife cheating on me 3 times, yea I felt the same way you did, but finally after the 3 rd time I gave up and filed for a divorce , it was hard on my part cause of the fillings I still had for her, but for me being out here on the road, it just stressed me out way to much and was almost distracting me to the point I almost had to stop driving over the road. knew I would never be able to gain my trust back in her , so , that was when I decided I had to.
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Jan 2, 2008 5:03 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
archer666
archer666archer666lagos, Faro Portugal6 Threads 306 Posts
the lie hurts way more than the sex.very mad
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Jan 2, 2008 5:03 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
Right, but you could end it immediately *and* still (eventually) forgive him or her, I think. The problem with not forgiving is that it seems to usually lead to a bad case of festering soul-rot, if you'll excuse my graphic description...
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Jan 2, 2008 5:03 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Dknew
DknewDknewBarrington, New Hampshire USA319 Threads 14 Polls 9,166 Posts
One word " History"
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Jan 2, 2008 5:15 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
everyones circumstances are different, was done to me and it hurts like hell!
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Jan 2, 2008 5:38 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Solitarius
SolitariusSolitariusSalem, Indiana USA6 Threads 689 Posts
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!
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Jan 2, 2008 5:42 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
pearl777
pearl777pearl777Plovdiv, Bulgaria268 Threads 38 Polls 5,677 Posts
what a clever man comfort
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Jan 2, 2008 5:45 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
FishingMTgirl
FishingMTgirlFishingMTgirlBig Sky, Montana USA36 Threads 5 Polls 1,657 Posts
I would end it for the trust would be gone, but in time I would have to forgive for my sake not his.
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Jan 2, 2008 5:45 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK66 Threads 14 Polls 8,969 Posts
If the *Other woman* had no idea he was 'My man' ... then I wouldn't blame her at ALL... after all.. she has been lied to too.

But if she knew about me, then I WOULD blame her also..



But I'm waaaayy past revenge in my life. I would just leave them to think about what they had done.
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Jan 2, 2008 6:01 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
jodigirlsfree
jodigirlsfreejodigirlsfreeConway, South Carolina USA50 Threads 2,300 Posts
thumbs up


I have had this happen to me ...I forgave ...but it was taken by him as it was okay.and he kept doing it..
what made it difficult in my situation was .....
it was with the ex-wife before me.....
I then became the ex-wife and she again the wife...

I have forgiven him but have never and will never forget the pain of the betrayal or how much it has affected my ability to trust others .....








when it comes to my heart I am no longer willing to take chances..
I am also beginning to ask a lot more questions and no longer take things at face value....










hug hug
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Jan 2, 2008 6:16 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK55 Threads 4 Polls 3,732 Posts
If it was just a boyfriend.. probably dump.... if a long term partner or husband.. give them a damn hard time !!! very mad but i would have to at least try and forgive..ONCE!!!! for the sake of marriage/family whatever.. if they did it again though.. well they were warned!! wine
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Jan 2, 2008 6:18 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK67 Threads 4 Polls 3,793 Posts
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: If I was in love with them, maybe I'd countenance the betrayal.

But if I just loved them, I'm afraid not. Off ya pop luv!professor
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Jan 2, 2008 6:47 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
Solitarius
SolitariusSolitariusSalem, Indiana USA6 Threads 689 Posts
Actually this is the reason I am divorced. My wife had an affair....I was willing to forgive her because I loved her so much. However, she decided to stay with the other guy, and now they have been married for 6 years, been together 11.
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Jan 2, 2008 6:49 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
lover65
lover65lover65Vero Beach, Florida USA15 Threads 1 Polls 193 Posts
Been there before. If she wouldn't have left on her own, I'd have made sure that she was gone. But I did forgive her later. Only to move on with my life.
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Jan 2, 2008 6:56 PM CST If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would
yoursuperman
yoursupermanyoursupermanLynchburg, Virginia USA38 Threads 4 Polls 1,088 Posts
Dont let the door hit ya , where the Good Lord split ya.

you can never forgive someone for cheating or being a liar.

Saying and doing two different things in long run the relationship is ruined.
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