If you were betrayed by your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife...you would (67)
Ineedlove2Middlesboro, Kentucky USA11 Threads 1 Polls 173 PostsI would thank them and go find another one
i dont know...
people can make a mistake...
i hope i can forgive... but at the end maybe we should break up.
people can make a mistake...
i hope i can forgive... but at the end maybe we should break up.
I tried to forgive the first time, but to be honest once the trust is gone , it's gone. As it turns out I was right not to trust because she did it again and again. The funny part I suppose is I was blamed for her cheating. I had to work out of town and was only home on the weekends. She needed somebody there all the time. The really good part though is because of my kids we have to stay in contact with one another and I got to see her cheat on the guy she was cheating on me with. If I know that a woman is with another man it's not going to happen. some things are wrong, there always wrong no matter how you try to twist it around.
I'm BORED!
::boot:::
well what would yooooooo doooooooo
well what would yooooooo doooooooo
I have forgiven two people for this..They'll do it again
A 'friend' slept with a guy i was seeing.
It got ugly.
It got ugly.
mick470: I have forgiven two people for this..They'll do it again
Oo it would be a one time only thing for me.. one time and I would end it immediately..
no no nooooo excuse in my opinion.. I don't care about the.. 'Oh I was soo drunk.. she didn't mean anything'.. yada yada
Claayer: ::boot:::
well what would yooooooo doooooooo
well what would yooooooo doooooooo
Still no...I have a one strike and you're out rule on that one too...I have no time for cheaters whatsoever!!!!!!!
Alot of depends for me.How serious is the relationship to either of us?What type and exactly what betrayl was done?Circumstances around it.His answers to my ?'s.Does he tell me or try to hide it? Etc.,depends on what,who,when,where,why.
Hugz_n_Kissez: Still no...I have a one strike and you're out rule on that one too...I have no time for cheaters whatsoever!!!!!!!
Oh yeah.. (as opposed to the other day).. when it comes to cheating I have the one strike rule too.
Claayer: Oo it would be a one time only thing for me.. one time and I would end it immediately..
no no nooooo excuse in my opinion.. I don't care about the.. 'Oh I was soo drunk.. she didn't mean anything'.. yada yada
no no nooooo excuse in my opinion.. I don't care about the.. 'Oh I was soo drunk.. she didn't mean anything'.. yada yada
Hey, is it more insulting if the woman he is cheating with is better looking than you or just plain ugly?
Don't tell me it doesn't matter.....deep down one thinks
* Her!!!??*
Like they say in baseball...you're out!!!!
nomindgames: Alot of depends for me.How serious is the relationship to either of us?What type and exactly what betrayl was done?Circumstances around it.His answers to my ?'s.Does he tell me or try to hide it? Etc.,depends on what,who,when,where,why.
Good points coco
lusciousmile: Hey, is it more insulting if the woman he is cheating with is better looking than you or just plain ugly?
Don't tell me it doesn't matter.....deep down one thinks
* Her!!!??*
Don't tell me it doesn't matter.....deep down one thinks
* Her!!!??*
haha yeah I thought that a few times with my ex's 'choices'
but hey ho..
nomindgames: Alot of depends for me.How serious is the relationship to either of us?What type and exactly what betrayl was done?Circumstances around it.His answers to my ?'s.Does he tell me or try to hide it? Etc.,depends on what,who,when,where,why.
I like your idea nomind and think its a good gesture. But Im not sure how to get the trust back or even believe his answers to my questions.
Cuz of that trust factor, Im sure I would end it right away...take the heartache at that point, rather then puttin myself through torture of worrying, wondering and questioning his actions or motives. If he did it once to me, what makes me think he wouldnt do it again..
blue_eyed_blonde: I like your idea nomind and think its a good gesture. But Im not sure how to get the trust back or even believe his answers to my questions.
Cuz of that trust factor, Im sure I would end it right away...take the heartache at that point, rather then puttin myself through torture of worrying, wondering and questioning his actions or motives. If he did it once to me, what makes me think he wouldnt do it again..
Cuz of that trust factor, Im sure I would end it right away...take the heartache at that point, rather then puttin myself through torture of worrying, wondering and questioning his actions or motives. If he did it once to me, what makes me think he wouldnt do it again..
I agree Trudy.. thats it for me.. thats torture that wondering after then event.. I would NEVER put myself through that again.
Once the trust is gone.. once I don't trust someone any more.. its Oh-VER... (in my heart and head at least)
No matter how much I tried to pretend it was okay.. I could deal with it..
I know for a fact.. all I would be doing is prolonging the END.
Firefighter_68: Yes, I have experienced that bad feeling of betrayal.
I really wanted to make her feel like she's not important, that she was just an insignificant part of my life and that she can never really hurt me. I was deployed to Iraq when it happened it lasted for 8 of the 13 months I was gone. But the thing is, I loved her and so despite everything, I forgave her and hoped that someday I will be able to forget the way she deceived me. We have divorced now....
Been there done that. Life for me is too short. I caught him in the act and I was married at 5 minutes to midnight and the marriage was over at 10 minutes after. A done deal for me.I really wanted to make her feel like she's not important, that she was just an insignificant part of my life and that she can never really hurt me. I was deployed to Iraq when it happened it lasted for 8 of the 13 months I was gone. But the thing is, I loved her and so despite everything, I forgave her and hoped that someday I will be able to forget the way she deceived me. We have divorced now....
See you all tomorrow, baked spaghetti is in the oven waiting for me. Woohooooo!
Forgive once I guess
xxsadangel32xx: I have been cheated on a lot....i'm now once a cheater always cheater...I could never be with anyone that cheated....it hurts way to much..its heart breaking
yeh I agree.. as far as I'm concerned.. if you have it in you to do it once.. then that's the kind of person you are.. and I would never trust anyone that did it even one time.
For whatEVER 'excuse'
i also was done that way after 8yrs of a relationship that i waited my life for we were best freinds not only lovers she was my world .we had a daughter togeather and spent every minute togeather and something changed she became more bicther because of my work all the time i tryed to show her i was doing this to benafit us both to where we could be comfertable in life and have the money to do what we want and have i loved this girl with all my heart and thought of her always but she thought diffreant and one day i found at from a nighbor she was messing around and i was blown away not only hurt but could not understand why. she didnt have to work i was a good husband and father and i didnt want my life to change just the thought of losing her hurt. about sent me to the crazy house i was not only losing my freind of a long time but i was losing my daughter to. i tryed to beleave she made a mistake but she never learned from it she done it repeatedly and it got to where i was thinking there was somthing wrong with me for giveing her chance after chance some people in life make mistakes and learn from them but when the signs are there your best bet is to run as fast as you can the first sign of trouble. because they dont change and wonce they getaway with it its like a sickness they cant stop the temptation to do it again do what you feal is right at the time but watch and dont give in to mutch or you will be used and made a fooll out of i hope who reads this understands what ive said here because of this im scared to trust anyone now and it has hurts me in my search for future love i hope for every one to trust your gut not your heart because your heart will lead you to beleave to mutch in to someone yours truley lost in search for true love
coondog9569: i also was done that way after 8yrs of a relationship that i waited my life for we were best freinds not only lovers she was my world .we had a daughter togeather and spent every minute togeather and something changed she became more bicther because of my work all the time i tryed to show her i was doing this to benafit us both to where we could be comfertable in life and have the money to do what we want and have i loved this girl with all my heart and thought of her always but she thought diffreant and one day i found at from a nighbor she was messing around and i was blown away not only hurt but could not understand why. she didnt have to work i was a good husband and father and i didnt want my life to change just the thought of losing her hurt. about sent me to the crazy house i was not only losing my freind of a long time but i was losing my daughter to. i tryed to beleave she made a mistake but she never learned from it she done it repeatedly and it got to where i was thinking there was somthing wrong with me for giveing her chance after chance some people in life make mistakes and learn from them but when the signs are there your best bet is to run as fast as you can the first sign of trouble. because they dont change and wonce they getaway with it its like a sickness they cant stop the temptation to do it again do what you feal is right at the time but watch and dont give in to mutch or you will be used and made a fooll out of i hope who reads this understands what ive said here because of this im scared to trust anyone now and it has hurts me in my search for future love i hope for every one to trust your gut not your heart because your heart will lead you to beleave to mutch in to someone yours truley lost in search for true love
it happened to me LOADS of times with my husband.. more times that I can even remember now.. (and they were just the ones I knew about)..
But he himself.. said the same as you.. once he got away with it to start with.. he just couldn't stop himself. (yeah yeah whatever!)...
but still I agree.. once its there.. its always there.
As for trust.. you need to give yourself some time.. and do your best to enter any new relationships with a clear head. Its not fair to tar everyone with the same brush.
MUCH easier said than done I know.
its been 5yrs and still cant breath when i think of it it something i beleave will never go away because of the fealings i had for her but im stronger and smarter now and im trying to find that one girl who wiil make me feal good again inside you no that spark of exsitement cant wait to talk to
coondog9569: its been 5yrs and still cant breath when i think of it it something i beleave will never go away because of the fealings i had for her but im stronger and smarter now and im trying to find that one girl who wiil make me feal good again inside you no that spark of exsitement cant wait to talk to
It will go away.. sometimes it just takes longer than other. You know too.. you are a part of why it is taking so long.. you are allowing it to keep you in this place where it still hurts you. You need to find some kind of peace with it all.. put it down.. look forward.. and not back... You have ALLLL the rest of your life ahead of you.. don't waste your time looking back.
(I'm speaking from experience.. im not lecturing you)
If a person is going to cheat while you are off serving your Country, they care only about themself. and wont think twice about doing it again. But I will go further here, there are laws against adultry, it is a shame they are not enforced.
like the movie scarlet letter. would be great if cheaters were branded in a clearly visible place so everyone knows.
So many people have no shame at all.
myself.. wouldn't be any discussion, if she is going to cheat.. she better already have her stuff packed and out.
I loved it on the news a long while back when a woman caught her husband cheating.. she scattered his cloths all over the lawn and his fishing boat in the front of the house she painted "cheater" all over it!
This would be a great clause to put into a prenup!
if either one cheats... you get nothing!!!
Including the kids if there are any.
like the movie scarlet letter. would be great if cheaters were branded in a clearly visible place so everyone knows.
So many people have no shame at all.
myself.. wouldn't be any discussion, if she is going to cheat.. she better already have her stuff packed and out.
I loved it on the news a long while back when a woman caught her husband cheating.. she scattered his cloths all over the lawn and his fishing boat in the front of the house she painted "cheater" all over it!
This would be a great clause to put into a prenup!
if either one cheats... you get nothing!!!
Including the kids if there are any.
coondog9569: its been 5yrs and still cant breath when i think of it it something i beleave will never go away because of the fealings i had for her but im stronger and smarter now and im trying to find that one girl who wiil make me feal good again inside you no that spark of exsitement cant wait to talk to
Bro.. very inhealthy way of looking at it!
You should not start another relationship until you feel good about being you..
if you still have that much of an issue you need to get some outside help.
rasgumby: If a person is going to cheat while you are off serving your Country, they care only about themself. and wont think twice about doing it again. But I will go further here, there are laws against adultry, it is a shame they are not enforced.
like the movie scarlet letter. would be great if cheaters were branded in a clearly visible place so everyone knows.
So many people have no shame at all.
myself.. wouldn't be any discussion, if she is going to cheat.. she better already have her stuff packed and out.
I loved it on the news a long while back when a woman caught her husband cheating.. she scattered his cloths all over the lawn and his fishing boat in the front of the house she painted "cheater" all over it!
This would be a great clause to put into a prenup!
if either one cheats... you get nothing!!!
Including the kids if there are any.
like the movie scarlet letter. would be great if cheaters were branded in a clearly visible place so everyone knows.
So many people have no shame at all.
myself.. wouldn't be any discussion, if she is going to cheat.. she better already have her stuff packed and out.
I loved it on the news a long while back when a woman caught her husband cheating.. she scattered his cloths all over the lawn and his fishing boat in the front of the house she painted "cheater" all over it!
This would be a great clause to put into a prenup!
if either one cheats... you get nothing!!!
Including the kids if there are any.
So- do you think it might stop a few from cheating if they knew that they would loose everything,, house, car, kids, all furniture, and so on?
pluss no kind of support.. nothing but their cloths!?
if not, lets make it even tougher!
if caught cheating.. the guy gets casterated and women get total breast removal with a law that no Dr can later correct it.
Give people every good reason to stop and think real hard before cheating!
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