Am I alone in my beliefs that age is something more than just a number? (81)
bbearsouthampton, Hampshire, England UK13 Threads 1 Polls 159 Postswell im 42 and dont feel that age dont think about any age i act like ateenager most of the time maybe that keeps me younge
azucarmorena: Do you guys go around saying 'age is nothing but a number'..because it's the nice thing to say. Am I the only one who has age limitations. Okay I get ragged on for my age range... A LOT. Its one of the only things I won't budge on...I've tried (in order to please others) and frankly I didn't like it and I hate not being true to myself. I hate being made out to be some shallow person because I don't want to be with someone significantly older or younger than me. Younger guys make me barf and its not their fault. They have a lot of living to do..I was there once. Older guys...yeah I just can't. They have lived twice as much as I and I can't relate. Many things I do (and frankly like doing) will be extremely immature in their eyes. Also the whole thing with them having kids my age or a few years short of me...I can't do it. Plus not to mention the whole I still want to have kids and grow old with someone. I have more..but these are just relate to me...
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
lets take 100yrs and then forever --- how long is the former and everything inbetween the latter infinite one
My age always feels like a lot younger than me and that isn't attractive. know that I am still growing and an older person may not find that attractive either. I just can't help loving the older ones. 
avecaim: My age always feels like a lot younger than me and that isn't attractive. know that I am still growing and an older person may not find that attractive either. I just can't help loving the older ones.
which older ones --- Avocados
CuspofMagic: which older ones --- Avocados
my one and only favorite
SummerUK: Some people have no health issues into their 90's and some have them when they are twelve..
Younger men are sometimes rejected because of age but some of them have an awful lot to offer and are far more mature and grounded than some 40 or 50 year olds.
The only problem with age that I can see if both people get along is the issue of children. It also may not be an issue as a lot of men these days don't want them
Only my humble opinion of course
Younger men are sometimes rejected because of age but some of them have an awful lot to offer and are far more mature and grounded than some 40 or 50 year olds.
The only problem with age that I can see if both people get along is the issue of children. It also may not be an issue as a lot of men these days don't want them
Only my humble opinion of course
avecaim: my one and only favorite
same as avocado only longer - they both go dark as they get older
avecaim: My age always feels like a lot younger than me and that isn't attractive. know that I am still growing and an older person may not find that attractive either. I just can't help loving the older ones.
i think any older man would feel proud with you on his arm you look great
If you broke down the most successful relationships it would look like a friggin' Calculus equation.
Age is just one factor.
Age is just one factor.
bbear: well im 42 and dont feel that age dont think about any age i act like ateenager most of the time maybe that keeps me younge
and you look like a pirate too, which helps
Younger or older doesn't matter but to many years difference means a different attitude to life and creats a barier to a long relationship, friends of any age are great!
I think it depends on the individuals, I personaly don't care for younger because in my age range I am over the "Mommy thing" and younger always has baby's Mama drama, and older can't keep up with me, when I wanna party, they wanna sit home and watch movies. I'm at an age where I can enjoy being free and having fun, before I get to old to have fun. I dont want to spend it baby sitting or on the sofa.
But on the flip side some people don't mind dealing with it and like movies on the sofa, and some day I may find a guy worth every minute of it, so I guess to each his/her own.
Good luck!
But on the flip side some people don't mind dealing with it and like movies on the sofa, and some day I may find a guy worth every minute of it, so I guess to each his/her own.
Good luck!
I think the greatest proponents of "age is nothing but a number" are men of 50+ looking for women 18-28! You see, it's THEIR age that's just a number, the woman's is very clearly defined!!
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
Rhiannon3: I think the greatest proponents of "age is nothing but a number" are men of 50+ looking for women 18-28! You see, it's THEIR age that's just a number, the woman's is very clearly defined!!
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
AMEN!
This isn't back in the day when you had to be a certain age to be with someone of that age group. I have had woman younger than me asking me out on a date I mean between 30& 40, I am 47 years of age. I say arent I a little old they say age is just a number it is not a gender. Thats why I say age is just a number.
I married a man who was 21 yrs older. I was 35 and he was 56 and i was very naive.. He went after me and I truly thought he was serious and wanted to settle down. I was really a conquest for him, a trophy of sorts as I was a very good looking girl. I have learned that he cheated on his first wife and accused any girl he would date of running around on him. I do believe he was unfaithful in every relationship and basically accused the women as a coverup for his own infidelity.
I was 100% faithful but once I got pregnant, I was told that it wasn't his. He stayed with me out of pity as the pregnancy was very rough. For a long time, he denied our son was his.
Long story short, we divorced, I stayed single and refused to ever date again until a few years ago when a friend suggested that I give this site a try. My ex definitely made me feel old and trapped and was a control freak of sorts in the marriage.
In conclusion, I am not a bitter person. I may have had the wrong husband but right child. He's been a great father for our son and I do believe he has finally acknowledged that this was his son. I have never remarried and doubt I ever will. So life has been quite a journey thus far.
For any man who is going after a much younger woman because she is attractive, a trophy, a conquest and a great lover to make you feel younger, you are truly doing her an injustice unless you are honestly there to make a long term life committment with her. And will allow her to go through the life experiences her age should be going through. Can you truly bring yourself back down to the younger age level and fit in well with her friends and lifestyle? Her friends may feel a bit uncomfortable being around a man as old as their parents although they won't tell you.
JMHO here based on life experiences.
I was 100% faithful but once I got pregnant, I was told that it wasn't his. He stayed with me out of pity as the pregnancy was very rough. For a long time, he denied our son was his.
Long story short, we divorced, I stayed single and refused to ever date again until a few years ago when a friend suggested that I give this site a try. My ex definitely made me feel old and trapped and was a control freak of sorts in the marriage.
In conclusion, I am not a bitter person. I may have had the wrong husband but right child. He's been a great father for our son and I do believe he has finally acknowledged that this was his son. I have never remarried and doubt I ever will. So life has been quite a journey thus far.
For any man who is going after a much younger woman because she is attractive, a trophy, a conquest and a great lover to make you feel younger, you are truly doing her an injustice unless you are honestly there to make a long term life committment with her. And will allow her to go through the life experiences her age should be going through. Can you truly bring yourself back down to the younger age level and fit in well with her friends and lifestyle? Her friends may feel a bit uncomfortable being around a man as old as their parents although they won't tell you.
JMHO here based on life experiences.
Catt1960: I agree, I would not date anyone old enough to date my sons or daughters. People go through life experiences, what does someone who is 18 generally know about health issues that a 50 year old may have. In 20 years that 50 year old may pass away, and that 18 year old is left a widow in her 30's. Is it fair to that 18 year. NO it isn't.
So I agree with you, age is very important.
So I agree with you, age is very important.
Depends on the size of the portfolio the 30 year old is left with..
Rhiannon3: I think the greatest proponents of "age is nothing but a number" are men of 50+ looking for women 18-28! You see, it's THEIR age that's just a number, the woman's is very clearly defined!!
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
I think most women generally tend to prefer men around their own age or a little older. Personally, I consider 5 or 6 years either way to be "my own age" and up to 10 years is unlikely to cause any major problems if the people involved are compatible in other respects. The are instances of bigger age differences that can work - there was 14 years between my parents and they stayed together, but I can't say it was easy.
However, I don't think it's ideal or something to seek out. If it happens it does. I think people who actually go out LOOKING for a big age difference (as in the men 50+ looking for women 18-28) are rather creepy.
What about the 50 something chicas looking for the 20 something studs?? I suppose that is OK..
Go see the movie "The Ugly Truth"..
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