Curious to find some reasons why so many are single. I have met some women who were going to college to start a career, but yet want a relationship, but yet don't want to settle down until they have finished their career. hmmm, ok, that is nuts for me to wait for them to finish college and finish their career since I would be older than dirt by the time that happens, so what really matters in this life to you? A career or a relationship? Now, most of us on here will either have to relocate or the other person will have to unless we meet someone in the same area. However, if the woman has a career or going to college, what time line is the mate looking at to start a life together?
Now, there is a few women out there that will just want to work on a job together at home with their mate, but others love their job and wouldn't think twice about it since it is a risk they might not make as much money as they do now or would make later in their job. Tough choices, but when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing? A lot of tough questions, but how far are we willing to go to have someone in our life? Or will the Job take position number one in our life and we may as well forget a relationship if one or the other is on a quest of their own which may take them further away or even make a relationship impossible.
Anyone had any of these experiences and the other person had picked their college or career over you? What would you do?
I know that being a student right now, and being broke most of the time, and being busy studying makes it difficult for me to make a commitment on a long term basis. But I do have time to date, and during that time I hope to find a gentleman that I might be able to match with. I've already had my corporate career, and I'm not ever moving cross country and living in four different cities for an employer again. Finding a caring, loving partner is much more important to me. But since that's not guaranteed, and his income isn't guaranteed either, I need to be able to support myself, and also have that financial input into a relationship.
i have been in the same job since i came out of college and i would nevdr chuck my job up for anyone and if i was with anyone i would never ask them to chuck there job in too
Sorry about not posting my pic. I had it up for a few months and then decided to see how well Tuffy does, well, he won and he gets more hits than my pic did. haha. So, I guess I have to dig around for my pic again and post it up as a secondary photo. Once a girl shouted I love you, I said me? (pointing to myself) She said, no I was talking to your dog. haha. He gets free icecream, free cheeseburgers and well Tuffy gets all the women. haha. I am not worthy, bows to my dog.
pastortim: Sorry about not posting my pic. I had it up for a few months and then decided to see how well Tuffy does, well, he won and he gets more hits than my pic did. haha. So, I guess I have to dig around for my pic again and post it up as a secondary photo. Once a girl shouted I love you, I said me? (pointing to myself) She said, no I was talking to your dog. haha. He gets free icecream, free cheeseburgers and well Tuffy gets all the women. haha. I am not worthy, bows to my dog.
Take a picture that shows you both. Tuffy would still get you the girls but the girls would not be at a disadvantage. You would want to see a picture of them wouldn't you?
yes my old job i had did stop me from having a social life to the point were i just focused on work
but i have made a lot of changes in my life and one of thos changes was leaving full time cleaning i was a commercial clenner making good money but no time to enjoy my self and when i had my two days off i was to darn tired to do anything so i would buy x box games and slog it out on the x box
i did this for 7yrs lived in a small country town the town i moved to after my divorce brought me a lot of good luck
i no longer live in Armidale new south wales or do i alow my work to have full control were i cant have a social life
i am know working in the security industry
i have also traveled over seas three time something i could not do working as a commercial cleaner
i can see where a lot of people are comming from when they say they have not got the time to socialize or meet with ther friends or find a partner
some of the jobs some people do hold them back from having a personal life away from ther boss and work mates
also what happens in the industry i use to work in your work mates become like your mates your with them 24 / 7 to the point were you get to know your boss and work mates so well
but you can do what i have done if you are a singl person and your serious in wanting to find a partner life is to short dont let your jobs you have stop you from socializing dont even let the bills you are so use to paying control you to were you are just working to pay the electricity phone bill gas bil and inter net bill and what ever other bills you are so use to paying
put your foot down and learn to speak up for your self and learn to say no to your boss and you tel your boss this is the way its going to be other wise its not worth the hassel
whats going to happen when you are 60 or 70 and still singl
will you blame the boss or take a deep good look at your self
yes we need our jobs other wise if we did not have our jobs we would not be able to do what we like to do
hey i am not sorry for being blunt i know tel my boss how many shifts i want to work and weather i will be willing to work threw the christmas holidays and new year as this is where the good money is made in the security industry
i have a kid and i dont want to miss out or ask a mate like i did when he was dropped by his mum to look after him while i had to fill in for a cleanner who was to lazy to tell the truth
my luck is slowly changing and i wil be making a 4 trip to the philippines
my job present certain issues and does have an effect on my personal life.... that being said, it dont keep me from being in one, it just makes it hard to find someone.... and even harder someone that can live with it !!!!
Depends on who has the better prospects and whether it's a live-in arrangement or a marriage, i.e. who will support who etc. It also depends on what the person studies that determines what kind of jobs she can get and the amount she can earn.
Times changed. The old "join your man" days are over. It's simply too risky economically. Personally, I would not give up my source of income for something that may or may not work out. Economic suicide. No thanks.
For many women their job is their independance I was stuffed when my husband left our family we had a business together but he was the worker I was the secretary so when it all went to hell I was left without income I retrained and now am gainfully employed earning my own money and supporting my children to put myself in a position where ide have to start again or to depend on a man for support would be a terrifiying prospect so I suppose yes work does keep me single I wont risk finacial hardship again
While I don't consider being a single parent a job it's a lot more rewarding than most I've had sometimes I feel it's because of this that I can't get dates.I am offered a lot but don't have time. Between my responsibilities at home, my Son and school full-time am hard pressed to go out.
that being said if I thought he was the right person would make as much time as possible and he would understand that my kid is first always.
for me,i enjoy my work now as soon i found him im sure im ready to relocate anywere he live.. but for u if u are still studying try to finish and get a job,then soon u can start a life together with someone,jmo...
pastortim: Curious to find some reasons why so many are single. I have met some women who were going to college to start a career, but yet want a relationship, but yet don't want to settle down until they have finished their career. hmmm, ok, that is nuts for me to wait for them to finish college and finish their career since I would be older than dirt by the time that happens, so what really matters in this life to you? A career or a relationship? Now, most of us on here will either have to relocate or the other person will have to unless we meet someone in the same area. However, if the woman has a career or going to college, what time line is the mate looking at to start a life together?
Now, there is a few women out there that will just want to work on a job together at home with their mate, but others love their job and wouldn't think twice about it since it is a risk they might not make as much money as they do now or would make later in their job. Tough choices, but when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing? A lot of tough questions, but how far are we willing to go to have someone in our life? Or will the Job take position number one in our life and we may as well forget a relationship if one or the other is on a quest of their own which may take them further away or even make a relationship impossible.
Anyone had any of these experiences and the other person had picked their college or career over you? What would you do?
With me in college the thing is I have a long time left. If I found someone I would relocate. Because of the college I attended can transfer all My credits. I am close to finishing My AA but not in nursing school yet J changed my major from criminal justice since I wanted to be a cop. Around here that is not an "in demand" position and alot of police have been laid off. Nursing is actually my last resort. Since nursing degrees can take 2 years to complete I don't expect any man to wait for me but I won't uproot myself and my son until I really know someone either.
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pastortim: Curious to find some reasons why so many are single. I have met some women who were going to college to start a career, but yet want a relationship, but yet don't want to settle down until they have finished their career. hmmm, ok, that is nuts for me to wait for them to finish college and finish their career since I would be older than dirt by the time that happens, so what really matters in this life to you? A career or a relationship? Now, most of us on here will either have to relocate or the other person will have to unless we meet someone in the same area. However, if the woman has a career or going to college, what time line is the mate looking at to start a life together?
Now, there is a few women out there that will just want to work on a job together at home with their mate, but others love their job and wouldn't think twice about it since it is a risk they might not make as much money as they do now or would make later in their job. Tough choices, but when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing? A lot of tough questions, but how far are we willing to go to have someone in our life? Or will the Job take position number one in our life and we may as well forget a relationship if one or the other is on a quest of their own which may take them further away or even make a relationship impossible.
Anyone had any of these experiences and the other person had picked their college or career over you? What would you do?
I had a small trucking business for 14 years which kept me on the road 24/7 5 to 6 days a week, money was good but in the end it was a huge contributing factor in ending my 10 year marriage,so even though married at the time I ended up being single due to job and lifestyle.
Scubadiva: Depends on who has the better prospects and whether it's a live-in arrangement or a marriage, i.e. who will support who etc. It also depends on what the person studies that determines what kind of jobs she can get and the amount she can earn.
Times changed. The old "join your man" days are over. It's simply too risky economically. Personally, I would not give up my source of income for something that may or may not work out. Economic suicide. No thanks.
pastortim: Curious to find some reasons why so many are single. I have met some women who were going to college to start a career, but yet want a relationship, but yet don't want to settle down until they have finished their career. hmmm, ok, that is nuts for me to wait for them to finish college and finish their career since I would be older than dirt by the time that happens, so what really matters in this life to you? A career or a relationship? Now, most of us on here will either have to relocate or the other person will have to unless we meet someone in the same area. However, if the woman has a career or going to college, what time line is the mate looking at to start a life together?
Now, there is a few women out there that will just want to work on a job together at home with their mate, but others love their job and wouldn't think twice about it since it is a risk they might not make as much money as they do now or would make later in their job. Tough choices, but when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing? A lot of tough questions, but how far are we willing to go to have someone in our life? Or will the Job take position number one in our life and we may as well forget a relationship if one or the other is on a quest of their own which may take them further away or even make a relationship impossible.
Anyone had any of these experiences and the other person had picked their college or career over you? What would you do?
if you tell us whether you are a boy dog or a girl dog we can send you a few for mating
Its being so set in my ways that keeps me single, i work two jobs to keep myself in the style im acustommed to so too tired during the week, come weekends i just do my own thing and its became such a routine, im trying to get out of that mode but finding it difficult.
goodfriend: Its being so set in my ways that keeps me single, i work two jobs to keep myself in the style im acustommed to so too tired during the week, come weekends i just do my own thing and its became such a routine, im trying to get out of that mode but finding it difficult.
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pastortim: when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing?
Are you seriously suggesting that it's only worth showing interest in a woman if she's willing to drop everything to trot along in your glorious wake??
Let's try the boot on the other foot. Let's say she earns twice as much as you do and has a great job, she also has a lovely house bla, bla, bla .... Now, are you willing to give up your studies, job, home, economic independence etc. etc. to be with your woman? Or is a relationship with you not worth continuing?
Rhiannon3: Are you seriously suggesting that it's only worth showing interest in a woman if she's willing to drop everything to trot along in your glorious wake??
Let's try the boot on the other foot. Let's say she earns twice as much as you do and has a great job, she also has a lovely house bla, bla, bla .... Now, are you willing to give up your studies, job, home, economic independence etc. etc. to be with your woman? Or is a relationship with you not worth continuing?
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Now, most of us on here will either have to relocate or the other person will have to unless we meet someone in the same area. However, if the woman has a career or going to college, what time line is the mate looking at to start a life together?
Now, there is a few women out there that will just want to work on a job together at home with their mate, but others love their job and wouldn't think twice about it since it is a risk they might not make as much money as they do now or would make later in their job. Tough choices, but when a woman says she is not going to leave her job or quit going to college to be with her man, that kind of puts a damper on the relationship if she is far away, but if she is close, there is still the questionable future as to what she may have in mind after college, so is the relationship even worth continuing? A lot of tough questions, but how far are we willing to go to have someone in our life?
Or will the Job take position number one in our life and we may as well forget a relationship if one or the other is on a quest of their own which may take them further away or even make a relationship impossible.
Anyone had any of these experiences and the other person had picked their college or career over you? What would you do?