What You Do When There Is No Connection On The First Date (21)
Look,if it doesn't click...it doesn't click.
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
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thewall2: Look,if it doesn't click...it doesn't click.
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
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Sundown40: Well said Wall
yeah, why would anyone keep ya hanging if theres no connection, personally, i would say hey its good to have met ya, wanna be friends? And if nothing else connects in a few times of seeing each other look for another possibility. Sometimes a guy and girl may be like better at being friends than a romantic relationship. i know cause i have alot of guy friends.------ This poll is Archived ------
wildkitty: yeah, why would anyone keep ya hanging if theres no connection, personally, i would say hey its good to have met ya, wanna be friends? And if nothing else connects in a few times of seeing each other look for another possibility. Sometimes a guy and girl may be like better at being friends than a romantic relationship. i know cause i have alot of guy friends.
Same here, lots of male friends. If you do not have that magic no point in carrying on, sometimes staying friends is far better as you say
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BIGEASY: After having no connection on the first date. Which do you prefer to do to move forward. People have different views on how to treat the other person involved....Everything from common courtesy to simply walking away in silence.
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
Surely, if you are going on a first date, then you prepare yourself for just such an eventuality.
I would want to meet in a bar or go for a coffee.
You should be able to tell within the first 10 minutes if there is an attraction, and be honest enough with them if there isn't.
What are you going to do..... spend the next couple of hours drinking coffee..... !!!
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LaVerdad: Same here, lots of male friends. If you do not have that magic no point in carrying on, sometimes staying friends is far better as you say
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LaVerdad: Same here, lots of male friends. If you do not have that magic no point in carrying on, sometimes staying friends is far better as you say
I agree,but the way I LOOK at it,sometimes staying friends also isn't the best thing... if one is interested..and the other one isn't.
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thewall2: I agree,but the way I LOOK at it,sometimes staying friends also isn't the best thing... if one is interested..and the other one isn't.
Very true as this also can have reprecussions, when one or the othe starts having a relationship with a different person, envy and the demon green eyed monster can creep in.
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SURE.JUST BE TRUTHFUL IN A WAY THAT DOESN'T HURT THEM.
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BIGEASY: After having no connection on the first date. Which do you prefer to do to move forward. People have different views on how to treat the other person involved....Everything from common courtesy to simply walking away in silence.
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
I don't feel there's any obligation on a first date other than to be friendly and respectful to the person I'm with and thank them for a lovely day/evening at the conclusion. To be honest, I think it's usually fairly obvious if there's no 'spark' - at least for one of you.
If he called me and wanted a 2nd date I would be honest & say that whilst I enjoyed the night, I felt a connection as friends only. If the situations were reversed (I felt a spark on the date and he didn't for me) I'd prefer that it was left unsaid really. If he isn't asking me out again he wasn't that into me; I don't need any more explanation than that.
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Well, everyone here knows "I" would NEVER state an opinion...
But here goes..
Are you so "desperate" for a relationship, that you cannot take the time (maybe more than one meeting) to possibly build another "friendship"?????
But here goes..
Are you so "desperate" for a relationship, that you cannot take the time (maybe more than one meeting) to possibly build another "friendship"?????------ This poll is Archived ------
LaVerdad: Very true as this also can have reprecussions, when one or the othe starts having a relationship with a different person, envy and the demon green eyed monster can creep in.
Maybe that is why there was no connection..
The Demon "One Eyed Monster" did not get to creep in..
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BIGEASY: After having no connection on the first date. Which do you prefer to do to move forward. People have different views on how to treat the other person involved....Everything from common courtesy to simply walking away in silence.
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
If it didn't click for you, it probably didn't for them either. I'd find a nice, tactful way to say it. I had one of those experiences...the physical attraction was there, and we clicked on a mental level, but there was no heart spark. We agreed on that, so we remain friends and were FWBs for a while, until one of us started dating someone else.which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
I prefer to be treated honestly and fairly, but kindly, which is why that's what I give to others as well.
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wildkitty: yeah, why would anyone keep ya hanging if theres no connection, personally, i would say hey its good to have met ya, wanna be friends? And if nothing else connects in a few times of seeing each other look for another possibility. Sometimes a guy and girl may be like better at being friends than a romantic relationship. i know cause i have alot of guy friends.
I agree and male friends are wonderful.
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wildkitty: yeah, why would anyone keep ya hanging if theres no connection, personally, i would say hey its good to have met ya, wanna be friends? And if nothing else connects in a few times of seeing each other look for another possibility. Sometimes a guy and girl may be like better at being friends than a romantic relationship. i know cause i have alot of guy friends.
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Just come right out and say I am not that into you
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define "connection"....
i've had a few one night connections.... that i wished had lasted longer and a few long term connections that i wished had not lasted quite that long...
and also some short term connections that werent short enough and i wished hadnt happened altogether... and a couple of longer connections i had hoped lasted longer.... one in particular comes to mind....
... now i just focus on about 3 second connections !!!
i've had a few one night connections.... that i wished had lasted longer and a few long term connections that i wished had not lasted quite that long...
and also some short term connections that werent short enough and i wished hadnt happened altogether... and a couple of longer connections i had hoped lasted longer.... one in particular comes to mind....
... now i just focus on about 3 second connections !!!
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thewall2: Look,if it doesn't click...it doesn't click.
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
Why keep somebody hanging...just tell them off the bat,this isn't going to work.
Or...I see....keep them hanging for 6 months because you don't want to hurt their feelings,and then tell them this isn't going to work after you've toyed with them.
This is silly....
Why would anyone be hanging for so long?
People know by the end of the first date, actually, probably within the first five minutes, whether you want to see that person again or not.
So, anyone who is left hanging, really has only themselves to blame. They are in fantasy land.JMO.
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BIGEASY: After having no connection on the first date. Which do you prefer to do to move forward. People have different views on how to treat the other person involved....Everything from common courtesy to simply walking away in silence.
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?
It's kinda like this....if they dont contact you then you dont have to contact them......if they do and they persist for an explaination then you just explain plain and simple that they are not the one for you as sweetly as you can without hurting their feelings.....
Dont sweat over it...if the chemistry isn't there it's just not there....it has to be a two way street......
Seems there's a lot of one way streets these days.....
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venere08: Why would anyone be hanging for so long?
People know by the end of the first date, actually, probably within the first five minutes, whether you want to see that person again or not.
So, anyone who is left hanging, really has only themselves to blame. They are in fantasy land.JMO.
People know by the end of the first date, actually, probably within the first five minutes, whether you want to see that person again or not.
So, anyone who is left hanging, really has only themselves to blame. They are in fantasy land.JMO.
Only one minute and I have it sussed....
Hi venere....
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What You Do When There Is No Connection On The First Date(Vote Below)
which do you prefer to do, and if in the others shoes, how would you want to be treated?