what's wrong with people?why are relationships so hard to find? (16)
Validity: Have views and opinions on dating and expectations changed forever?it seems people are afraid that someone might hurt, or take someting from them? is true love around anymore? i created this,to find out what's going on with how people think today, how and why they are having a hard time connecting with someone special,and what is true and special? please someone enlighten me, thanks!!!
Hello i dont think its hard to find..
I just think to many people are expecting way to much..
I found my husband here on CS..and we have been married over a year now..
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Validity: Have views and opinions on dating and expectations changed forever?it seems people are afraid that someone might hurt, or take someting from them? is true love around anymore? i created this,to find out what's going on with how people think today, how and why they are having a hard time connecting with someone special,and what is true and special? please someone enlighten me, thanks!!!
Because trusting someone is very hard to do in a world where no one wants to get hurt. Our experiences are our excuses for not engaging in relationships instead of being the reason for finding something better.
Lessons in relationships have become the shield that we all tend to hide behind instead of using those lessons as tools for making less mistakes and building better relationships.
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post more ,be an idiot like me .im sure im sort of famous on here but this is the first time ive seen yours<<stage name>
gordy theoldsillyfosifer
gordy theoldsillyfosifer
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i just wiped off my glasses an had another peek ,,you got a nice shirt
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There's nothing wrong with people, we just change attitudes and beliefs because of past experiences and age. Looks and personality also play a large role. Everyone has a special preference, just a matter of waiting for the right connection. 
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Validity: Have views and opinions on dating and expectations changed forever?it seems people are afraid that someone might hurt, or take someting from them? is true love around anymore? i created this,to find out what's going on with how people think today, how and why they are having a hard time connecting with someone special,and what is true and special? please someone enlighten me, thanks!!!
Just look at society..how many people do you know that have been at the same job for 20+ years? ...How many people upgrade whenever something new comes out? Even appliances and vehicles are built to be disposable... so....people assume relationships are the same.. it has to be perfect or they're outta there, so we've become cynical..protective for survival...JMO
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hey hug me , do i assume that any thing is better than nothing from yer post ,cause your right ,,, just that ppl dont figure out that you can grow to love someone lots after you live with them and find out that they are pretty nice. either that or you cant stand them and you get rid of them quick befor the mental damage is done. i wish i was this smart when i was 20
gordy theoldsillyfosifer
gordy theoldsillyfosifer
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thankyou ,so much,for your opinion of relationships, i guess if it's meant to be it will just happen, i do know that there is alot of un happy marriages and alot of divorce call me old fashion ,i'm never going to give up, i have this idea of real love in my head, i guess time will tell if i'm right??? KathyThere's nothing wrong with people, we just change attitudes and beliefs because of past experiences and age. Looks and personality also play a large role. Everyone has a special preference, just a matter of waiting for the right connection.There's nothing wrong with people, we just change attitudes and beliefs because of past experiences and age. Looks and personality also play a large role. Everyone has a special preference, just a matter of waiting for the right connection i guess
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bdbtpl2009: Because trusting someone is very hard to do in a world where no one wants to get hurt. Our experiences are our excuses for not engaging in relationships instead of being the reason for finding something better.
Lessons in relationships have become the shield that we all tend to hide behind instead of using those lessons as tools for making less mistakes and building better relationships.
Thankyou so much for your opinion,so everyone is at war to protect themselves, that's brutal, but oh so true,it sure as hell feels like a battle field,just when something is going good wham gone!!!i'll get u before u get me,no comprimise ?? anyways i will never give up hope KathyLessons in relationships have become the shield that we all tend to hide behind instead of using those lessons as tools for making less mistakes and building better relationships.
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kissmedeeply: Hello i dont think its hard to find..
I just think to many people are expecting way to much..
I found my husband here on CS..and we have been married over a year now..
Thanks for the comment,it's hard to just loosen up, people make things too difficult?I just think to many people are expecting way to much..
I found my husband here on CS..and we have been married over a year now..
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I really don't think there is anything wrong with most people...there are some who are not ready for a relationship, but believe it is what will "complete" them or "make them happy"; in my opinion, it will be difficult for those to find and keep a strong, healthy relationship.
I believe some people really aren't looking for keeps...they are just dabbling; playing. Those that they dabble with end up hurt. I believe there are people who seek not a relationship, but an avenue by which they can seek revenge and control and give back the pain and hurt they have endured in the past - it makes them feel better about themselves.
There are people who have such high expectations...high ideals that no one will ever measure up to; self-fulfilling prophesies perhaps?
But most people, who take their time to heal and become a healthy whole, who take their time to know someone, who are truly honest about the kind of person they want and need...they will find and keep a relationship. Time...
I believe some people really aren't looking for keeps...they are just dabbling; playing. Those that they dabble with end up hurt. I believe there are people who seek not a relationship, but an avenue by which they can seek revenge and control and give back the pain and hurt they have endured in the past - it makes them feel better about themselves.
There are people who have such high expectations...high ideals that no one will ever measure up to; self-fulfilling prophesies perhaps?
But most people, who take their time to heal and become a healthy whole, who take their time to know someone, who are truly honest about the kind of person they want and need...they will find and keep a relationship. Time...
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Thanks for this interesting post.
Yes finding a partner is difficult. We are trying to find someone who we are compatable with. Many we know, and maybe like, but can never live with them (even if they are available) because their interests, are not ours. their habits annoy us. And the list goes on. We have to be discriminating in choicing a partner, because we plan to live with him/her for the rest of our lives. I believe there many divorces, because many married for the wrong reasons. Or choose to be blind to the real person they married. Or saw the real person, and said to themselves ( I will marry him/her and change them.
And usaully end up
Yes finding a partner is difficult. We are trying to find someone who we are compatable with. Many we know, and maybe like, but can never live with them (even if they are available) because their interests, are not ours. their habits annoy us. And the list goes on. We have to be discriminating in choicing a partner, because we plan to live with him/her for the rest of our lives. I believe there many divorces, because many married for the wrong reasons. Or choose to be blind to the real person they married. Or saw the real person, and said to themselves ( I will marry him/her and change them.
And usaully end up
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Some are scared to commit to a relationship. 
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you're right Gordy wish I was smarter at 20 as well....I still think if you can be best friends through everything life throws at us(together and separately), support each other, like being together and not just walk away when things get tough...you've got it made!
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I did not know we found relationships, I thought we made them, kept them or broke them??? 
I was under the impression, you found/met people to have relationships with ... good or bad....
I was under the impression, you found/met people to have relationships with ... good or bad....
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