If someone you like had totally opposing religious views to yours.. ( Archived) (39)

Oh NO!
I've been spotted!

(scurries back to his usual thread)

I guess it could be a problem....depends how fanatical they are about their religion.......I'm easy with mine can take or leave it......

I have very strong values which I don't feel need to be categorised under the heading 'religion'. I also believe that I am more compassionate and caring than many people who are attached to a religious faith.

Respect, tolerance and a compassionate nature do not necessarily go hand in hand with a belief in God, in my experience.

Out of interest, why is it less important if the child rearing years have passed?.

I have very strong values which I don't feel need to be categorised under the heading 'religion'. I also believe that I am more compassionate and caring than many people who are attached to a religious faith.

Respect, tolerance and a compassionate nature do not necessarily go hand in hand with a belief in God, in my experience.

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I agree with all of that.. Thats exactly my view too Jan.

I would have no problem at all and rather take the opportunity to learn all about their religion and its foundations and its morality and history and the book it is based on etc . . .

Every religion, whether you believe in it or not, is a system of childish metaphysics that explains the existence of the world and restrains people with virtue, morality and gives them an idea of right from wrong etc . . .

What I’m saying is: you could make it work.

hey Eupho

i chose the first option even though I am anything but religious because if its something questioned then its one area I've seen problems in (hey look at the past state of northern ireland with the prodestants and catholics!!!)

Would have no worries about religion if both sides were in opposite religions by name only and not practicing yes then it is very much work *around able*. i have friends in mixed religion marriages up north and alls great so i know they can work but they say themselves it was very difficult during the troubles ..... so I suppose what I'm trying to say it all depends on the circumstances.

Its often a question we have debated here among friends - 'would you baptize your child into the catholic religion' .... personally I would prefer not to as labeling a small baby into something without it being able to make a choice for itself is something I am not really for but on the other hand in most areas around the country all the schools are catholic so how to you tell your 7/8yr old they cannot take part with their class for their holy communion or be left out of school nativity etc ..... wouldn't like to segregate my child either from their peers

thankfully non denominational schools are slowly but surely making their presence in this country so hopefully i can stick by my own values and not be force by society when the time comes

Maybe it's just my personal values & beliefs but religion is only a part of my spirituality and my spirituality is very personal. They are as unique to me as my own personality. They are just part of who I am. I am open-minded enough to be respectful of another's views on religion as that is part of who they are. The only thing that would interfere is if the other person is not respectful of who I am. Then it would become an issue.

Well, that's brilliant. Because do you know what the basis of morality is: compassion. Seeing yourself inside another human being/other living things.

As apposed to 'the fear of god', or the belief in God, or the expectation of punishments if you don't or rewards if you do.

That is what I mean by childish metaphysics for the people.

The true basis of morality is compassion.

And that true basis exists innate (inborn) in people, as a rule, independent of the notion of God regardless.

I totally agree Dreamer

Emc hellooo

My 3 children have never been baptised.. for the same reasons you mentioned. (tho my mum flipped out about it for a while)

But thankfully it has never stopped them being involved in anything they wanted to do.

I think it is their own choice when they are older as to which path they wish to follow,
and if they want too.. then that's fine by me.

Agree with you 110% and if and when the situation arises I would really hope to do the same but it was my cousin that brought that question of living in a smaller town in parts of ireland and being only catholic that ever made me question .... what would a REALLY do

thankfully ireland has really opened up with many foreign nationals here and new religions so things are rapidly changing for the better in my view as children are now growing up within their own communities realizing there is more to the world ..... i was always lucky enough to have traveled and have great parents that way (much to the disgust of their parents) and while i was baptized I never really went to church etc ... just did what needed to be done ...... BUT i did suffer mental torment and the hands of the nuns in second level school once i have the courage to say 'stop asking me what was said in the gospel ... sorry i dont go to mass' ........ was actually told i had evil parents!!! and it carried on until i left second level

of course i never told my parents this til years later because i didn't want to hurt them

so you can see where i'm coming from

Only joking my friend, didnt want to scare you away.

The nuns in my mums school regularly beat the girls.. amazing.

Perhaps that's what it was

I believe we could both have our views as long as we don't force them on each other. The relationship could work if we are both tolerent to each other believes and I go along with some of his and he goes along with some of mine.

I'm catholic and I dated a muslim. What's that tell you about how I feel about religious differences?

As long as they don't try to convert,our brainwash me things might work out i am an atheist after all.

My best friend is an atheist, but then I would be too after 13 years of catholic school. Guess the Nuns just beat the religion right out of her! My ex husband claims to be an atheist. I don't know how he can claim to be an atheist when he thinks he's God!

Well said Kitty

Thats how I see it

hahaha!


I am a *Non practising Roman Catholic Tolerant Atheist*