Phoenix: Which one stop's you 'going or giving' someone 125%...(folk's it's just a normal 'Q'..all in the name of reasearch)
I see two females have voted in the "failure" department as being off-putting to "putting more into a relationship" .... is that the question?
Well ... that`s how I am reading this poll thing of yours Phoenix ... interesting subject.....
I just found myself sort of withdrawing ... being super-sensitive (?) from my beautiful relationship. And analysing my feelings, I believe its fear of failure. So much has failed, so many times, and so the self-protection barriers come up .... just in case ..... sort-of like ... I want to be the strong one, and not the weakling should things fail...... stupid heh?...or not?
smoky: I see two females have voted in the "failure" department as being off-putting to "putting more into a relationship" .... is that the question?
Well ... that`s how I am reading this poll thing of yours Phoenix ... interesting subject.....
I just found myself sort of withdrawing ... being super-sensitive (?) from my beautiful relationship. And analysing my feelings, I believe its fear of failure. So much has failed, so many times, and so the self-protection barriers come up .... just in case ..... sort-of like ... I want to be the strong one, and not the weakling should things fail...... stupid heh?...or not?
You know what, so what if you fail.....again!! At least you try...JMHO
Phoenix: Which one stop's you 'going or giving' someone 125%...(folk's it's just a normal 'Q'..all in the name of reasearch)
No fear here, not of a commitment nor of a failure.
To enter a relationship is like to dive from a cliff. You can land into a convenient long-lasting partnership/marriage, like into warm water of a calm bay in a sunny day, there dolphins play, there never rain...
You can also crush onto rocks there at the bottom with all your weight (and baggage), head first, and land mashed tomato style. “…and it’s no one’s business where the splashes will fly”.
And it happens, not often though, that you would overcome the law of gravitation, get air under wings and set off into the cold, stormy unknown, colours of sunrise on your white feathers, strong, independent, all earthy stuff shaken off… the two of you…
Tulefel: No fear here, not of a commitment nor of a failure.
To enter a relationship is like to dive from a cliff. You can land into a convenient long-lasting partnership/marriage, like into warm water of a calm bay in a sunny day, there dolphins play, there never rain...
You can also crush onto rocks there at the bottom with all your weight (and baggage), head first, and land mashed tomato style. “…and it’s no one’s business where the splashes will fly”.
And it happens, not often though, that you would overcome the law of gravitation, get air under wings and set off into the cold, stormy unknown, colours of sunrise on your white feathers, strong, independent, all earthy stuff shaken off… the two of you… The problem is: no one wants to jump with me.
Ah ha .... that is the problem .... I`m willing to jump ... but ..... I dunno if the other person is also going to jump ..... ...So I delay my jumping ... till they jump first ......
smoky: Ah ha .... that is the problem .... I`m willing to jump ... but ..... I dunno if the other person is also going to jump ..... ...So I delay my jumping ... till they jump first ......
Well… from my experience, love is a matter of courage.
How you start a relationship? You open your visor, you look out your shell, you turn off this spiel of ignorance and cynicism that you’ve been resorting to for ages…. If your counterpart wouldn’t spit into it, kick your defenceless body and laugh at your naked soul, then…
…then still there’s no guarantee that there’ll be a relationship. And if it’ll be, then you still cannot know whether it’ll succeed or not.
But if you won’t jump, no one will do it for you. Called “taking risks”, in this case emotional risks. Otherwise the two will stand there, staring into abyss, none is daring to be the first, both ending as the last. Singles together for ever.
smoky: I see two females have voted in the "failure" department as being off-putting to "putting more into a relationship" .... is that the question?
That's excatly the 'Q'...I couldn't find the words..(Blame sarko's finest)
smoky: Well ... that`s how I am reading this poll thing of yours Phoenix ... interesting subject..... I want to be the strong one, and not the weakling should things fail...... stupid heh?...or not?
Not stupid...being afraid of failure because you gave someone else 125% in the past..And you don't want to get brunt as badly the next time around..Barriers..;Just a natural defense thingy kickin' in...
Q smoky....(don't answer just to you)...Has you man thingy eye balled you and said 'he'll accept the pimple on your nose and the hump on your back'..(He'll take you wart's and all so to speak..)If so go for it..What have you got to loose apart from a bruised ego??
Phoenix: That's excatly the 'Q'...I couldn't find the words..(Blame sarko's finest)
Not stupid...being afraid of failure because you gave someone else 125% in the past..And you don't want to get brunt as badly the next time around..Barriers..;Just a natural defense thingy kickin' in...
Q smoky....(don't answer just to you)...Has you man thingy eye balled you and said 'he'll accept the pimple on your nose and the hump on your back'..(He'll take you wart's and all so to speak..)If so go for it..What have you got to loose apart from a bruised ego??
Illusions? Hope? Time? Money? The other lover? (The secret one ).
One always has got something to lose. And to lose time is the worst – time is life, isn’t it.
Phoenix: That's excatly the 'Q'...I couldn't find the words..(Blame sarko's finest)
Not stupid...being afraid of failure because you gave someone else 125% in the past..And you don't want to get brunt as badly the next time around..Barriers..;Just a natural defense thingy kickin' in...
Q smoky....(don't answer just to you)...Has you man thingy eye balled you and said 'he'll accept the pimple on your nose and the hump on your back'..(He'll take you wart's and all so to speak..)If so go for it..What have you got to loose apart from a bruised ego??
Haa yeah...... except I got this in-built thing where I don`t believe what people say.
Ahh, but then again ..... maybe the poor guy has just fallen under my spell, much like a fly in a spiders web ...... Shame, I feel so sorry for any guy who gets involved with me!....(said she while stirring the cauldron and patting her black cat while the crow screeches in the dungeon ......)
smoky: Haa yeah...... except I got this in-built thing where I don`t believe what people say.
Ahh, but then again ..... maybe the poor guy has just fallen under my spell, much like a fly in a spiders web ...... Shame, I feel so sorry for any guy who gets involved with me!....(said she while stirring the cauldron and patting her black cat while the crow screeches in the dungeon ......)
Tulefel: Whatever you do, there always be a fear of pain, physical and emotional. And the latter one can be more unbearable than the first. (You’d know if you’ve experienced it, wouldn’t you?) So it’s not fear of failure or commitment that stops people, it’s fear of pain that life brings with it.
Now ... that is why I love you people here! I can bring all my stupid phobias here and get them aired and some inspiring replies to the quandaries that plague me ... in my off moments!
Ja! I don`t like fear, so I guess one should just confront them, huh?
smoky: Ah ha .... that is the problem .... I`m willing to jump ... but ..... I dunno if the other person is also going to jump ..... ...So I delay my jumping ... till they jump first ......
my problem is i'm half way down before i realise i've jumped,and he is up top saying what the *ell did you do that for??!
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