is it possible to connect to a person if you have not met them but you text and talk on phone often? ( Archived) (73)

Am I reading right. Now I am a little confused. Did you mean Confucius?

It is very possible

and sometimes it is called grooming

I think a connection...sure...love no way

Connection on a mental level, absolutely. I have made some great freinds from all over the world. I used to be a hard core gamer and used a thing called ventrillo while playing online. I met a woman from Canada, after talking on vent, we found out we were alot alike, we even started calling each other brother and sister. So yeah, you can connect in a certain way through phone, text, emails. But it can only realy go so far. I'm not a big believer of long distant relationships. When times get tough or you've had a bad day, its always nice to get a hug and be told everythings going to be ok. Thats just something you can't get from text or phone.

i chat with people everyday never met them though so to me its good

love in the dating respect or love in general?

it's funny as people always think of the word relationship as describing a dating interest when in fact there are many types of relationships - working relationships, platonic friendship relationships, etc.

i've experienced all- through meeting people from the internet and telephone - and my closest friends are in countries other than my own and i love all them DEARLY - they're more precious to me than anyone i know in my own town. hands down!

He also said "Quality is not cheap and cheap is not good”. ...
But i think he was talking about those cheap imported goods from china

As has already been mentioned, we have the connectivity nowadays that old style 'letters' could never have achieved..

I agree with Freckles on her posts on other threads. You NEED to chat as well as type; Hear them talk without the ability to delete a comment or to consider how they phrase something in an email.

With a system such as Skype, you can even video chat for free.

Once you feel you trust each other, what's to stop you exchanging video diarys, using your webcam or the movie option on a digicam? Show them your neighbourhood, your pets, your home. I guarantee you will soon see beyond any façade they may have put up.

The dirty kitchen, the unmade bed, the cute book collection and the prints on the walls can tell you so much, hopefully for the better. The telltale photos of the wife, the engine parts on the dining table or the mountain of cases of beer in the pantry will also let you much more than a well composed and considered email.

However, I disagree with Frecks - and this is something we have discussed many a time - I believe that, by communicating using these media you CAN fall in love without that initial face to face. That an interest, a crush CAN grow to have real meaning and become love.

Believe me, I'm a strong believer in body chemistry, that first smile, the look, the smell. But I know you can achieve 'that' position without it... When you DO meet, by then, it's merely an affirmation.

(look of complete shock) I am sorry I have a problem with the cheap china import. To many toxins in there makings. Pay a little extra so I own a little less but I don't have to worry so much about what I am living with.

Sure you can 'connect' without meeting. Love though is another thing, that takes time and meeting.

agreed. no matter how one "meets" another person, initially or over time, it can turn out to be a waste of time or a fruitful endeavor.

i've had many if not most initial in person dates be a complete waste of my time and money as well.. in fact, MORE initial in person dates were a COMPLETE waste of my time, etc.

It is all in your out look. If you think it as a waste of time then it will be You after all are the owner of your own domain.

whoops LOL!

i JUST recalled ONE person i DID meet initially that was a pretty incredible friendship turned fast into dating because we met through a mutual interest and could NOT stop talking about everything under the sun and moon- we spent more nights in all night diners than anywhere. he was a rare one i dated that's for sure..

oh there's no doubt about that. i can concur with you personally on that one. omg, you have NO idea how much!

i had one despicable relationship with someone that started out as friends over the internet, over months grew to a romantic interest, then in person dating. (sigh) i can't tell you what ultimately happened - there's not enough space on here. but i found out ALL KINDS of bad things about that person that if i'd only known about beforehand, i wouldn't have had any dealings with that person ever. and you know what? they were things that i still would not have been able to uncover in person if the dating had started out initially in person to begin with - and a REALLY good detective!

that's the risk you take whenever you embark on any kind of relationship - working, friends, or dating - whether in person initially or online.

at least now i know more about how to protect myself

i sure hope you do as well and wish you nothing but the best

i know - if only we were psychic right?