I really beleive she has a problem n' it's not him
1
1%
I really beleive he has a problem and it's not her
4
5%
There are psychos everywhere, who knows! Scary!
14
19%
Total Votes
75
P.S. This poll does not refer to any one specific post.
Ok. we've read a gazzillion stories here that make losers of our exes. The thing that inspired the poll was that, we have both male and female friends here whom we always support.
Thing is, a man will come on here and narrate how their nagging ex gave them hell, ate popcorn all day over juicy gossip sessions over the neighbour's ramshackle fence, right before she taking off with everything including his dirty underwear. Everyone says they believe the guy, condemning and virtually killing the said 'villain or witch ' . Two minutes later a woman will say her ex lover/husband was a cheating, abusive, dirt bag who never lifted a finger to help with the housework, and again everyone suports them sending the 'violator or loser' straight to hell.
So what would happen if all our ex lovers/ husbands joined the site? Would there be a conflict regarding trust?? Do you believe everything you read or just most of it?
P.S. This poll does not refer to any one specific post.
Ok. we've read a gazzillion stories here that make losers of our exes. The thing that inspired the poll was that, we have both male and female friends here whom we always support.
Thing is, a man will come on here and narrate how their nagging ex gave them hell, ate popcorn all day over juicy gossip sessions over the neighbour's ramshackle fence, right before she taking off with everything including his dirty underwear. Everyone says they believe the guy, condemning and virtually killing the said 'villain or witch ' . Two minutes later a woman will say her ex lover/husband was a cheating, abusive, dirt bag who never lifted a finger to help with the housework, and again everyone suports them sending the 'violator or loser' straight to hell.
So what would happen if all our ex lovers/ husbands joined the site? Would there be a conflict regarding trust?? Do you believe everything you read or just most of it?
The truth usually lays (or lies) somewhere in the middle. Even in my past experiences, I've come to find out that I played some active part in the "screw up" upon in-depth reflection.
Indyfella: The truth usually lays (or lies) somewhere in the middle. Even in my past experiences, I've come to find out that I played some active part in the "screw up" upon in-depth reflection.
I think so too but it isn't always the case. Some people will blatantly lie just for pity.
none of the above apply in my opinion... normally both contribute in some way.. although there are degrees of fault... in some cases (e.g. Abusive Partners) the MAJORITY of fault lies with the abusive partner...
Ego is frequently a contributor or insecurtiy...in my case if I come to a point in a relationship where I think it is not likely to work for whatever reason, I would tend to end it amicably rather than waste my time.. or theirs.... I am still friends with most of my Ex's so this level of honesty has not yet posed a problem...
Aries01: none of the above apply in my opinion... normally both contribute in some way.. although there are degrees of fault... in some cases (e.g. Abusive Partners) the MAJORITY of fault lies with the abusive partner...
Ego is frequently a contributor or insecurtiy...in my case if I come to a point in a relationship where I think it is not likely to work for whatever reason, I would tend to end it amicably rather than waste my time.. or theirs.... I am still friends with most of my Ex's so this level of honesty has not yet posed a problem...
Sorry, but i think you might have misunderstood the poll choices...
What i mean was, what is your general impression on the stories you read here.
kissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada15,139 posts
lusciousmile: P.S. This poll does not refer to any one specific post.
Ok. we've read a gazzillion stories here that make losers of our exes. The thing that inspired the poll was that, we have both male and female friends here whom we always support.
Thing is, a man will come on here and narrate how their nagging ex gave them hell, ate popcorn all day over juicy gossip sessions over the neighbour's ramshackle fence, right before she taking off with everything including his dirty underwear. Everyone says they believe the guy, condemning and virtually killing the said 'villain or witch ' . Two minutes later a woman will say her ex lover/husband was a cheating, abusive, dirt bag who never lifted a finger to help with the housework, and again everyone suports them sending the 'violator or loser' straight to hell.
So what would happen if all our ex lovers/ husbands joined the site? Would there be a conflict regarding trust?? Do you believe everything you read or just most of it?
lusciousmile: Sorry, but i think you might have misunderstood the poll choices...
What i mean was, what is your general impression on the stories you read here.
Do you always believe the sob stories?
... oh hee hee !!!... I have to say I kinda believe them to a degree.. although you have to reserve some judgment ...cause ur only getting one side...
I have got in trouble in the past for showing sympathy towards people... the implication being that I am taking side.. not the case... doesn't put me off showing sympathy though.. I can empathise with what it may be like to feel let down..
kissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada15,139 posts
lusciousmile: That is always the safest way to go i think. It's a bit hard to ignore it when your online 'friend' shares an experience though.
Yes its hard to ignore..but i try to say my peace and go..i love life..and hate all this Drama..I say leave it all behind come here and have fun...How are you doing sweetie
Aries01: ... oh hee hee !!!... I have to say I kinda believe them to a degree.. although you have to reserve some judgment ...cause ur only getting one side...
I have got in trouble in the past for showing sympathy towards people... the implication being that I am taking side.. not the case... doesn't put me off showing sympathy though.. I can empathise with what it may be like to feel let down..
Yep, most of the stories require some level of sympathy. I empathise with some, not most.
I wonder what would happen if both the 'accuser' and 'loser' (??) were members of the site and proved worthy of our friendship.
Who should we believe if they both insist the other did something heinous?!?!
kissmedeeply: Yes its hard to ignore..but i try to say my peace and go..i love life..and hate all this Drama..I say leave it all behind come here and have fun...How are you doing sweetie
So you are torn between 'being courteous' and ignoring it all?!
Just playing girl, haha.
I'm doing good, just soooooooooooo hungry! Hope all's well with you.
roseofsharon: Well, unless I was in possession of the full facts (which chances are I wouldn't be), I wouldn't deem to make a judgement one way or another.
Very true.
People mostly leave out the vital information that might incriminate them.
lusciousmile: I have had awful things happen to me (concerning the 'ex') but hard for me to disclose allllllll of them.
I've been "jilted" a few times myself, but in retrospect, I should have seen it coming, so I take responsibility for my stupidity. Sometimes I don't see the forest for the trees
Hi Luscious.Just to say that it really doesn,t matter what anyone else thinks.I know the truth and so does the other party. I sleep at night,they don,t.
Having said that, I,m pretty darn sure there are men and women blaming the other when they know full well that it was mostly their fault. However,each case is different. I,m sure there are many where it,s 50/50,and others where one partner was blameless.
Elley: Hi Luscious.Just to say that it really doesn,t matter what anyone else thinks.I know the truth and so does the other party. I sleep at night,they don,t.
Having said that, I,m pretty darn sure there are men and women blaming the other when they know full well that it was mostly their fault. However,each case is different. I,m sure there are many where it,s 50/50,and others where one partner was blameless.
Sad we'll never really know if most things everyone says are true. Vicious world.
I tend to ignore the drama...BUT will sometimes comment on the info that's been provided...It doesn't really concern me much who is lying and who isn't...It's not something I need to decide...
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Regarding the stories we read here, what do YOU think might have led to the breake-ups or divorces?(Vote Below)
Ok. we've read a gazzillion stories here that make losers of our exes.
The thing that inspired the poll was that, we have both male and female friends here whom we always support.
Thing is, a man will come on here and narrate how their nagging ex gave them hell, ate popcorn all day over juicy gossip sessions over the neighbour's ramshackle fence, right before she taking off with everything including his dirty underwear. Everyone says they believe the guy, condemning and virtually killing the said 'villain or witch ' .
Two minutes later a woman will say her ex lover/husband was a cheating, abusive, dirt bag who never lifted a finger to help with the housework, and again everyone suports them sending the 'violator or loser' straight to hell.
So what would happen if all our ex lovers/ husbands joined the site? Would there be a conflict regarding trust??
Do you believe everything you read or just most of it?