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Mar 11, 2008 6:38 PM CSTYour best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England, UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts

Your best friends other half is having an affair..(Vote Below)

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I would tell them as soon as I knew!
44
35%
I would tell, but worry about how to say it.
37
29%
I wouldnt say a word. Not my business.
20
16%
I would try totalk to the 'cheating other' first.
25
20%
Total Votes
126
What would you do?

Would you tell your best friend their you KNEW their other half was cheating?


Remember.. this is your BEST friend.
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Mar 11, 2008 6:38 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
What would you do?

Would you tell your best friend their you KNEW their other half was cheating?


Remember.. this is your BEST friend.
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Mar 11, 2008 6:40 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
Talk to the second half?? WITW????

jaw drop


I would call them up IMMEDIATELY!!!

Ok, i'd make sure they were sitted first. professor
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Mar 11, 2008 6:42 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
sensitive
sensitivesensitivesomewhere, USA11 Threads 4 Polls 1,575 Posts
I would try to get pictures, etc. of them being together (unless they were having sex), then show them to my best friend. Yes I would tell.
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Mar 11, 2008 6:43 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
lusciousmile: Talk to the second half?? WITW????

I would call them up IMMEDIATELY !!!

Ok, i'd make sure they were sitted first.


haha yeah that might be a good thing laugh
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Mar 11, 2008 6:46 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
desmond
desmonddesmondkissimmee, Florida USA586 Threads 13,816 Posts
What do you do If your beast friend is having an affair with your girlfriend or boyfriend dunno
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Mar 11, 2008 6:47 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
desmond: What do you do If your beast friend is having an affair with your girlfriend or boyfriend


IMO.. get rid of BOTH of them thumbs down thumbs down


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Mar 11, 2008 6:47 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
desmond
desmonddesmondkissimmee, Florida USA586 Threads 13,816 Posts
Claayer: IMO.. get rid of BOTH of them



I did thumbs up thumbs up
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Mar 11, 2008 6:49 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
desmond: I did


Awww..

Good for you tho!... you don't need people in your life like that. very mad


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Mar 11, 2008 6:51 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
desmond
desmonddesmondkissimmee, Florida USA586 Threads 13,816 Posts
Claayer: Awww..

Good for you tho!... you don't need people in your life like that.



Thanks you are always such a sweetie grin hug
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Mar 11, 2008 6:52 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
desmond: Thanks you are always such a sweetie


Not always...

don't be fooled devil


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Mar 11, 2008 6:57 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
I would talk to the cheater.I wouldhope that he/she wouldn't do it again ,but as for telling my bestfreind?Might lose her as a freind and they make up.Hard call.Would depend on my freinds personality and how well w communicate.I would want to tellbut hard call.
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Mar 11, 2008 7:00 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
nomindgames: I would talk to the cheater.I wouldhope that he/she wouldn't do it again ,but as for telling my bestfreind?Might lose her as a freind and they make up.Hard call.Would depend on my freinds personality and how well w communicate.I would want to tellbut hard call.


I agree.. that sometimes you risk losing that friend by telling them.

If they do work it all out.. they forgive each other and all that.. then YOU look like the snake in the grass.

roll eyes roll eyes

it is a risk imo.


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Mar 11, 2008 7:00 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
KrazieStill
KrazieStillKrazieStillChardon, Ohio USA18 Threads 5,214 Posts
Claayer: What would you do?

Would you tell your best friend their you KNEW their other half was cheating? Remember.. this is your BEST friend.


Have to tell em.
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Mar 11, 2008 7:04 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
confused Hmmm...I have this feeling of deja vu all over again, Claire....wave laugh hug

Anywhooo, you need to let your best friend know, but there remain options for accomplishing that. I kind of like the idea of pressuring the errant spouse to tell him/her, or finding a less direct way of doing it. BUt just telling her straight out could be the right move. But one way or the other, you would want your best friend to know.
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Mar 11, 2008 7:06 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
haha..it happened to me last september...i only found out due to my son disc golfing with her bf...he innocently told me about it...i texted the bf and said i had some info and he should probably tell her or i would...he said i didnt know a thing, so i told her...it was sooooo hard and we cried together, they broke up..then got back together about a month later (she forgave him) since then he's cheated 2 more times and she remains with him..but no longer talks to me. I didnt tell her of the other 2, another person did....I would do the same thing again, knowing that it may end a friendship, just because I would hope and want my friend to tell me....everything happens for a reason...
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Mar 11, 2008 7:08 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
Ambrose2007: Hmmm...I have this feeling of deja vu all over again, Claire....

Anywhooo, you need to let your best friend know, but there remain options for accomplishing that. I kind of like the idea of pressuring the errant spouse to tell him/her, or finding a less direct way of doing it. BUt just telling her straight out could be the right move. But one way or the other, you would want your best friend to know.



Waiting for the cheater to confess could result in them transmitting a terrible disease to your friend. Wouldn't want that on my conscious.




professor scold roll eyes conversing
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Mar 11, 2008 7:09 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
RobbieM
RobbieMRobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK172 Threads 10 Polls 7,930 Posts
What would you do?

Would you tell your best friend their you KNEW their other half was cheating? Remember.. this is your BEST friend.[/quote

I have found myself in this situation twice, and even found that i was being used as a cover for "I'm going out with rob tonight and i'll crash at his" ....when she mentioned to me it was ok him going out with me as she trusted me i refused to be dragged into it and gave him a bollocking.

He basically didn't deserve her, and they have since seperated. Good luck to her and i no longer even see him.Truely a turd.
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Mar 11, 2008 7:20 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
dcj22
dcj22dcj22Somewhere, Tennessee USA125 Threads 3 Polls 15,974 Posts
desmond: What do you do If your beast friend is having an affair with your girlfriend or boyfriend



comfort you're better off now sweetie
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Mar 11, 2008 7:22 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
dcj22
dcj22dcj22Somewhere, Tennessee USA125 Threads 3 Polls 15,974 Posts
nomindgames: I would talk to the cheater.I wouldhope that he/she wouldn't do it again ,but as for telling my bestfreind?Might lose her as a freind and they make up.Hard call.Would depend on my freinds personality and how well w communicate.I would want to tellbut hard call.



I agree. I actually had this situation and it does depend on the person. I had someone lined up to follow the bastad and video tape him. Then I realized that my friend just didn't want to accept the truth yet, so I waited until she was ready. It is a hard call. She did tell me later that I had handled it the right way *for her*
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Mar 11, 2008 7:48 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
blue_eyed_blonde: haha..it happened to me last september...i only found out due to my son disc golfing with her bf...he innocently told me about it...i texted the bf and said i had some info and he should probably tell her or i would...he said i didnt know a thing, so i told her...it was sooooo hard and we cried together, they broke up..then got back together about a month later (she forgave him) since then he's cheated 2 more times and she remains with him..but no longer talks to me. I didnt tell her of the other 2, another person did....I would do the same thing again, knowing that it may end a friendship, just because I would hope and want my friend to tell me....everything happens for a reason...


Ooer.. yeah Trudy.. that's exactly why it's a hard thing to do.

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Mar 11, 2008 7:50 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
Just not my business. If things eventually work out......you become the villian for trying "to break them up"
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Mar 11, 2008 7:52 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Scottishlass
ScottishlassScottishlassKnoxville, Tennessee USA672 Threads 29 Polls 4,352 Posts
I would first give the "cheater" a chance to confess to my friend, & if they don't, THEN I would tell my friend myself, kindly & gently.
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Mar 11, 2008 7:57 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
I'm like a she wolf when it comes to the people I care about, very protective!!! I would have to tell her, but also let her know that how ever she chooses to handle it, I'm there for her and will support whatever decision she makes, this is also the case if it's a guy. Some people can find a way to forgive and move on and you have to support their decision... but I'd also be watching the other half very carefully... detective
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Mar 11, 2008 7:57 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
Scottishlass: I would first give the "cheater" a chance to confess to my friend, & if they don't, THEN I would tell my friend myself, kindly & gently.


Helloooo Lass wave

I think thats the way I would do it too.

teddybear
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Mar 11, 2008 7:59 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
jbibiza: I'm like a she wolf when it comes to the people I care about, very protective!!! I would have to tell her, but also let her know that how ever she chooses to handle it, I'm there for her and will support whatever decision she makes, this is also the case if it's a guy. Some people can find a way to forgive and move on and you have to support their decision... but I'd also be watching the other half very carefully...


haha Im like that too .. fiercely loyal devil
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Mar 11, 2008 8:17 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
redbellypirhana
redbellypirhanaredbellypirhanaPhoenix, Arizona USA5 Threads 1,256 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Females would talk the second they knew, dudes probably wouldn't say anything....head banger
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Mar 11, 2008 8:42 PM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
allready
allreadyallreadyportland, Oregon USA39 Threads 523 Posts
I would find out where they were going then take the other person there, then you wouldent have to tell them. they wouls see for themselfs.head banger
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Mar 12, 2008 2:06 AM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA133 Threads 13 Polls 6,929 Posts
Claayer: What would you do?

Would you tell your best friend their you KNEW their other half was cheating? Remember.. this is your BEST friend.


I have been there and I did tell immediately. Nothing I hate more than a cheater!
but-- if your best friend was the one cheating on their partner.. would you tell their partner?

Again yes for me!
as said above.. I hate cheaters! and I don't want them as a friend !
And if they cheat on their partner.. how would you ever know where they draw the line? would your partner be a tatget for them?
no morals is no morals, I don't care who it is.
but then I am old school.. right is right and wrong is wrong. black and white
keep life simple!
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Mar 12, 2008 2:10 AM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
I would tell, cause I've been on the other end of that. Everyone knew my ex-before-last was cheating on me, no one told me cause they assumed I knew and didn't care. dunno Yeah, it was that obvious, I was just stoopid! doh grin
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Mar 12, 2008 2:19 AM CST Your best friends other half is having an affair..
Skeptikos
SkeptikosSkeptikosGreenville, South Carolina USA26 Threads 1,005 Posts
Unless the couple has anything other than a monogamous relationship, why let your friend be looked at as a fool by others who know? I've seen this happen to a few friends. It sucks, unless you have open, swapping, or threesome, or whatever relationship you want and have it all figured out beforehand.
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