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Apr 1, 2008 4:41 PM CSTIf it hurts, it's not love.
olive111
olive111olive111pdown, Down, Ireland5 Threads 1 Polls 152 Posts

If it hurts, it's not love.(Vote Below)

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I agree with this
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I disagree with this
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I'm on the fence
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other (cos there is always an "other")
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Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?
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Apr 1, 2008 4:41 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
olive111
olive111olive111pdown, Down Ireland5 Threads 1 Polls 152 Posts
Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?
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Apr 1, 2008 4:43 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?



Well I used to think that too...BUT then I realized how can you love someone and not hurt?????

You hurt when they hurt....you hurt when you get in arguments...things cant be rosy all the time..otherwise it would be a perfect relationship....and that doesnt exist!!!!!!!!!!

So I don't agree with that analogy anymore!!!!!!!!!





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Apr 1, 2008 4:52 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK55 Threads 4 Polls 3,732 Posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: Well I used to think that too...BUT then I realized how can you love someone and not hurt?????

You hurt when they hurt....you hurt when you get in arguments...things cant be rosy all the time..otherwise it would be a perfect relationship....and that doesnt exist!!!!!!!!!!

So I don't agree with that analogy anymore!!!!!!!!!


I agree.. If you really care about someone deeply it can hurt.. just cause they are directly tapped into your emotions.... however I don't think it is a necessary component or your not lovin if ur not hurtin.. just it can be an element yes in certain circumstances..

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Apr 1, 2008 7:37 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
lovebird4ya
lovebird4yalovebird4yadublin, Dublin Ireland22 Threads 7 Polls 172 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?





will i love my gf and like me to hurt her ..... she told me honey my love become dubble when you hurt me and made me screamrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 1, 2008 7:46 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
allready
allreadyallreadyportland, Oregon USA39 Threads 523 Posts
Loving someone should never hurt, but it truly does hurt alot of the time. They should take that saying and through it in the garbage can.thumbs up
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Apr 1, 2008 7:53 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
spiceygamble
spiceygamblespiceygambleNola, Louisiana USA40 Threads 3 Polls 5,583 Posts
Love, just like pain/hurt, come from many sources.
One can feel hurt by careless words or feel pain from separation.
Both are completely opposite.
If you love someone, you've opened yourself up to the possibility of pain...
so, love walk hand in hand with hurt.


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Apr 1, 2008 8:04 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Manolito
ManolitoManolitoa strfilled galaxy far faraway, Greater London, England UK23 Threads 1 Polls 2,186 Posts
spiceygamble: Love, just like pain/hurt, come from many sources.
One can feel hurt by careless words or feel pain from separation.
Both are completely opposite.
If you love someone, you've opened yourself up to the possibility of pain...
so, love walk hand in hand with hurt.


Love is exactly that.

It doesnt mean that it WILL hurt, it doesnt mean it wont.

But when you love, you totaly give yourself, and that is being completely vulnerable your love...

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Apr 1, 2008 10:45 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
trish123
trish123trish123Macclesfield, Cheshire, England UK231 Threads 6 Polls 19,911 Posts
Its up to you basically - if you let it hurt then its gonna huirt but if you dont......... then....... it wont laugh

goodnight folks - wave
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Apr 1, 2008 10:51 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
CuspofMagic
CuspofMagicCuspofMagiclight, South Australia Australia320 Threads 2 Polls 10,696 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?
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Apr 1, 2008 11:03 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
prettywoman01
prettywoman01prettywoman01sharon grove, Kentucky USA21 Threads 8 Polls 515 Posts
Love is blind so many times. When someone is in a bad relationship, they hit you, or mentally abuse you or emotionally abuse you then they are hurting you. But does that mean you love them any less? It only makes it hard to be with that person. Plus, in a normal relationship there'll be arguments or disagreements and they can hurt, and for most people that are in a marriage, there is love there.
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Apr 1, 2008 11:05 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
jay9xo
jay9xojay9xoGarden City, New York USA2 Posts
Depends what kind of hurt.. I'm sure everyone can tell the difference between hurting that comes along with relationships and hurting as in psycho dousche bag hurting. lol I just make up my own phrases dont I? lol..yay
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Apr 1, 2008 11:52 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Rebgore
RebgoreRebgorecircle pines, Minnesota USA1 Threads 87 Posts
jay9xo: Depends what kind of hurt.. I'm sure everyone can tell the difference between hurting that comes along with relationships and hurting as in psycho dousche bag hurting. lol I just make up my own phrases dont I? lol..
I agree.head banger dancing
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Apr 2, 2008 12:21 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
constanza
constanzaconstanzaLA, California USA30 Threads 1 Polls 6,489 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?





Overall it should not hurt; or when it does it ought to be for a very good reason and rarely; otherwise, it's probably anyhting but.... wink and also when it does hurt, is it sadness and a feeling of loss or is it more ego and anger? That is also telling I feel.
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Apr 2, 2008 12:55 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
Love shouldn't hurt all the time, when it does it should be for a good reason. Like you hurt when you can't be with them , or you hurt when they hurt.

If you're hurting because of the way they treat you, well, you may still love them, but it's time to think about whether you should be in a relationship with them.
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Apr 2, 2008 1:06 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
bajanblue
bajanbluebajanblueSpeightstown, Saint Peter Barbados388 Threads 1 Polls 4,670 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?


I think basically if it is life, it has the potential to be painful.

If a child on a playground falls down, first he looks up to see what people are doing , if they come running and making a fuss, he cries. If they say'whoopsadaisy' or its equivalent, he gets up, dusts himself off and goes on playing.

some falls are worse than others and need more care, but we really hurt less if we pick purselves up after the normal rough and tumble that is life and get on with it.
Happy ever after takes serious effort!
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Apr 2, 2008 3:47 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
bleja
blejablejaSuburbia, Minnesota USA4 Posts
Sometimes, we do things that hurt those we love and they hurt us. We're human. It happens. And I think part of love is forgivness.

Say someone you love is far away. It will hurt. It's still love.

But if someone is deliberatly hurting/abusing someone they claim to love, they don't really love them. And if the person getting hurt is claiming to love the other it's not love, it's addiction.

I speak from personal experience...
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Apr 2, 2008 3:57 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
j_goose71
j_goose71j_goose71Over there, USA60 Threads 4 Polls 1,227 Posts
bleja: Sometimes, we do things that hurt those we love and they hurt us. We're human. It happens. And I think part of love is forgivness.

Say someone you love is far away. It will hurt. It's still love.

I speak from personal experience...



Yes! And that sh*t Hurts..........
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Apr 2, 2008 4:48 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Ytambien
YtambienYtambienIstanbul, Marmara Turkey2 Threads 28 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?


It's not the love that hurts us, it's other things, it's the abuse done in it's name. When it's treated right and allowed to grow between two or more people, it is like the greatest gift the whole planet can share. And it makes other pains worth enduring.
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Apr 2, 2008 4:54 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
Zarah
ZarahZarahdublin, Dublin Ireland34 Threads 2,178 Posts
We often hurt ourselves with our own distorted perception on an issue..
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Apr 2, 2008 4:54 AM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?



Hurt?

I wouldn’t actually call it “hurt” but perhaps pain or sadness.

I love someone very much and the other day that person played a piece of music on the piano just for me (because he knows I like it) and he missed a few keys. I could see he was frustrated and annoyed at missing the keys and not being able to get back on track immediately. I wasn’t hurt, I was in pain and I felt very sad that he should have felt that way, I even felt guilty for letting him play that piece for me.

Love doesn’t hurt, love expands.
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Jun 9, 2008 2:25 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
goldfinch
goldfinchgoldfinchManitou Beach, Michigan USA3 Threads 8 Posts
olive111: Someone said to me the other day "If it hurts, it's not love". What do you think of this statement?

Yes I do agree.
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Jun 9, 2008 2:28 PM CST If it hurts, it's not love.
a_l_e_x
a_l_e_xa_l_e_xlondon, Greater London, England UK64 Threads 2,078 Posts
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