A real woman wouldn't have power over a man.No more then a real man would have power over a woman.Someone only has power over someone if they are given that power.
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
In my defence, i'll say in my defence i was in love with the people that i let walk all over me.
It wasn't until after our relationships were over that i could look back at it and realise it was my fault for not being more vocal on my partners behaviour.
But that's my character fault, i do like to try to make a partner happy, even if it hasn't beneficial for me.
Now if i ever meet anyone again, i'm going to be open as normal, answer questions as normal, be supportive, as normal...but i won't go along with anything from now on if it isn't mutual.
I maybe fairly selfless, but i'm trying to change, so i don't need someone emotionally blackmailing me, or being a drama queen in my life.
RobbieM: In my defence, i'll say in my defence i was in love with the people that i let walk all over me.
It wasn't until after our relationships were over that i could look back at it and realise it was my fault for not being more vocal on my partners behaviour.
But that's my character fault, i do like to try to make a partner happy, even if it hasn't beneficial for me.
Now if i ever meet anyone again, i'm going to be open as normal, answer questions as normal, be supportive, as normal...but i won't go along with anything from now on if it isn't mutual.
I maybe fairly selfless, but i'm trying to change, so i don't need someone emotionally blackmailing me, or being a drama queen in my life.
for me women dont have any power over me im my own power.I would not want power over anyone else eather. then you are getting into controlling, possesiveness and those arent good. power is for fighting or working not for loving ,love is powerless
RobbieM: In my defence, i'll say in my defence i was in love with the people that i let walk all over me.
It wasn't until after our relationships were over that i could look back at it and realise it was my fault for not being more vocal on my partners behaviour.
But that's my character fault, i do like to try to make a partner happy, even if it hasn't beneficial for me.
Now if i ever meet anyone again, i'm going to be open as normal, answer questions as normal, be supportive, as normal...but i won't go along with anything from now on if it isn't mutual.
I maybe fairly selfless, but i'm trying to change, so i don't need someone emotionally blackmailing me, or being a drama queen in my life.
Good for you, Robbie. I've been there, done that too. Not going back to it either, ever. I think we need to be fair, supportive, loving and compassionate. But a total doormat? Not bloody likely, ever again! The more I did, the more she demanded, and I was not confrontational when I needed to be. Anything for a peaceful life! Didn't work. I'll be all the stuff a man needs to be, in future - but not continuously subservient again - not that I could see it at the time! Go for it, laddie!
Maybe it is that nagging doubt we have when we ask ourselves if she loves us or not. So we buy flowers, etc., to appease her. Alas, that too does not always work. Love is unpredictable.
kidatheart: Neither love nor children should ever be used as a weapon against anyone, although they are, all too often.
very good you are right on that one. both women and men do not need to control each other, but we all see that happening all the time and it is so sad. when it comes to love and relationships it should be considered as partners working together as one not one against the other.
kcuc0574Ho Chi Minh, Southeast Vietnam Vietnam2,003 posts
kidatheart: Neither love nor children should ever be used as a weapon against anyone, although they are, all too often.
why, i think many women do the same ways to protect their family's happiness, children need their father's love, for myself, i dont keep anyman, if he wants to go, i will let him go freely,
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