So you are a commitmentphobiac? (198)
yes I am very much committed to my promises, to my feelings,to a relationship, to love...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
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The Longer I Live The More Gunshy I seem to get,
Not many in this world are true hearted...
Not many in this world are true hearted...
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Right now in romantic relationships im comitted to my kids my job and my self .and somtimes i think i should be commited but thats anouther thread 
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I don't think I am.
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Laura25: Why?
okay, this is what comes to mind
Laura as Sigmund sitting in front a couch ,with a notebook in her hand ....
PS... the most important question " Tell me about your childhood".....
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wildprotector: yes I am very much committed to my promises, to my feelings,to a relationship, to love...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
But it often has lead to sadness, when the opposite part suddenly vanishes without a ord. without trace.. u feel like free falling...
So, I learned , that my happiness lives within me..I can not search for it outside, because the one you fall in love with, is a human being after all, and any human being can change...
Hmmmm... interesting. It's usually commitmentphobics who are prone to such self-destructive behavior -- walking out on their partner.
So you had your share of dealing with commitmentphobics.
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I wouldn't quite say I'm afraid of committment, but more so the type that tends to doubt why the person I'm with in the committment wants to be with me. Alot of this has to do with the different things I've gone through in life. In a sense I have moved passed them, but there are always moments they creep back up on me and give me that moment of doubt about the type of person I am and in a sense that makes me wonder why someone would want to be with someone like that.
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
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HotrodLarrys: The Longer I Live The More Gunshy I seem to get,Not many in this world are true hearted...
Fear that comes from previous experience? Probably the most common type in singles.
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hello laura, 
i am commintmentholic...
i commit to every thing i need to do...
from preparing coffee to pay my taxes..
not mentioning i was "accused" of having a hard (not that kind
approach to the relationships...
as i commit instantly...
i am commintmentholic...
i commit to every thing i need to do...
from preparing coffee to pay my taxes..
not mentioning i was "accused" of having a hard (not that kind
approach to the relationships... as i commit instantly...
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Boban1: okay, this is what comes to mind
Laura as Sigmund sitting in front a couch ,with a notebook in her hand ....
PS... the most important question " Tell me about your childhood".....
Laura as Sigmund sitting in front a couch ,with a notebook in her hand ....
PS... the most important question " Tell me about your childhood".....
What's you excuse, Bo?
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Laura25: What's your excuse, Bo?
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lucynad: hello laura,
i am commintmentholic...
i commit to every thing i need to do...
from preparing coffee to pay my taxes..
not mentioning i was "accused" of having a hard (not that kind approach to the relationships...
as i commit instantly...
i am commintmentholic...
i commit to every thing i need to do...
from preparing coffee to pay my taxes..
not mentioning i was "accused" of having a hard (not that kind approach to the relationships...
as i commit instantly...
Would you marry me, Lucy?
LOL...
Seriously? I envy you.
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I used to be committed person, but now it scares the hell out of me. Don't know what happened and don't know how to fix it.
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Laura25: Would you marry me, Lucy?LOL...Seriously? I envy you.
lol..i certeinly would...
however, being prone to commintment is not all that fun in everyday's life...
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I have no Problem Of a Commitment
I have a Problem with Finding One that is Worty to be Comitted to.....
Meaning I am True Hearted and Not into Games....
Seems All I have ever found is Lies and Games....
So I walk alone.... Sad But True
Problem is, I Know their are a few Good one out there...
so i still have hope!
I have a Problem with Finding One that is Worty to be Comitted to.....
Meaning I am True Hearted and Not into Games....
Seems All I have ever found is Lies and Games....
So I walk alone.... Sad But True
Problem is, I Know their are a few Good one out there...
so i still have hope!
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JSuburbia: I wouldn't quite say I'm afraid of committment, but more so the type that tends to doubt why the person I'm with in the committment wants to be with me. Alot of this has to do with the different things I've gone through in life. In a sense I have moved passed them, but there are always moments they creep back up on me and give me that moment of doubt about the type of person I am and in a sense that makes me wonder why someone would want to be with someone like that.
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
I can dig it... lol...
I think, it's a healthy thing to do - to doubt and sort things out before... whatever.
It doesn't constitute being a commitmentphobiac, does it?
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StillOfTheNight: I used to be committed person, but now it scares the hell out of me. Don't know what happened and don't know how to fix it.
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StillOfTheNight: I used to be committed person, but now it scares the hell out of me. Don't know what happened and don't know how to fix it.
I hope it's a hypothetical phobia in your case.
If you found someone you really fancy and it was mutual, would you want to keep your options open, D.?
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JSuburbia: I wouldn't quite say I'm afraid of committment, but more so the type that tends to doubt why the person I'm with in the committment wants to be with me. Alot of this has to do with the different things I've gone through in life. In a sense I have moved passed them, but there are always moments they creep back up on me and give me that moment of doubt about the type of person I am and in a sense that makes me wonder why someone would want to be with someone like that.
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
I wouldn't say it's something that taxes on the relationship, but just something that occaisionally tests it (if that makes sense).
Hi J, The fact you are aware of it means you can do something about it and we all have moments of doubt J and so long as we dont allow them to control us it's human.
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Laura25: Why?
I dont fear commiting to anything that is within my potential or means nor do I fear commiting to a relationship with the right person if anything I have a fear of not finding him or him me before it's time to leave this life.
What about you Laura, what would your answer be ?
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Laura25: Fear that comes from previous experience? Probably the most common type in singles.
Absolutely Laura... I have been done wrong By enough people in this life, and One Fairly recently as well..... How are You Doing Friend?
I think I have known you about as long as anyone on CS...
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HotrodLarrys: I have no Problem Of a Commitment
I have a Problem with Finding One that is Worty to be Comitted to.....
Meaning I am True Hearted and Not into Games....
Seems All I have ever found is Lies and Games....
So I walk alone.... Sad But True
Problem is, I Know their are a few Good one out there...
so i still have hope!
I have a Problem with Finding One that is Worty to be Comitted to.....
Meaning I am True Hearted and Not into Games....
Seems All I have ever found is Lies and Games....
So I walk alone.... Sad But True
Problem is, I Know their are a few Good one out there...
so i still have hope!
There are, Larry.
But it's also as good as we make it to be - quite often.
Look at all these CS couples who *took that plunge*/*tied the knot* (call it whatever you wish) - are they so different from the rest of the singles?
Besides not being commitmentphobiacs, I mean?
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annie_nsw: I dont fear commiting to anything that is within my potential or means nor do I fear commiting to a relationship with the right person if anything I have a fear of not finding him or him me before it's time to leave this life.
What about you Laura, what would your answer be ?
What about you Laura, what would your answer be ?
I think my answer is between option #2 and #4 (
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Laura25: I hope it's a hypothetical phobia in your case.
If you found someone you really fancy and it was mutual, would you want to keep your options open, D.?
If you found someone you really fancy and it was mutual, would you want to keep your options open, D.?
That has not happened with me in a long time. There has been people I liked and vice versa but never mutual. Its hard to find.
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langleygirl: Commitment is one day at a time - its simply making the choice to be dedicated to that relationship and person.
One day at a time is easy if you can find the right person,
I was married for 17 years and with her for 22 years...
She Gradually started Drinking More and soon was a full blown alcoholic...I spent 5 Years trying to help her before she was dangerous, and I had to Divorice her...that was 11 yrs ago,
She is still an alcoholic
and never Found a Right one since, several Wrong ones tho..
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lucynad: lol..i certeinly would...however, being prone to commintment is not all that fun in everyday's life...
I wouldn't think it's very easy to live with,
but still - it's a very fortunate personality trend for both: you and that lucky man in your future.
I don't think there are many singles who can go with opt #4 without a shadow of a doubt.
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"The great tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love." W. Somerset Maugham
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HotrodLarrys: One day at a time is easy if you can find the right person,I was married for 17 years and with her for 22 years...
She Gradually started Drinking More and soon was a full blown alcoholic...I spent 5 Years trying to help her before she was dangerous, and I had to Divorice her...that was 11 yrs ago,
She is still an alcoholic
and never Found a Right one since, several Wrong ones tho..
Sadly we can't rescue people, but simply be there when they are ready for help. She Gradually started Drinking More and soon was a full blown alcoholic...I spent 5 Years trying to help her before she was dangerous, and I had to Divorice her...that was 11 yrs ago,
She is still an alcoholic
and never Found a Right one since, several Wrong ones tho..
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Laura25: There are, Larry.
But it's also as good as we make it to be - quite often.
Look at all these CS couples who *took that plunge*/*tied the knot* (call it whatever you wish) - are they so different from the rest of the singles?
Besides not being commitmentphobiacs, I mean?
But it's also as good as we make it to be - quite often.
Look at all these CS couples who *took that plunge*/*tied the knot* (call it whatever you wish) - are they so different from the rest of the singles?
Besides not being commitmentphobiacs, I mean?
I guess I have Learned it takes a long time to get to know someone.....
But You Know Me, I have Hope, I know there are some Good Women Out there.....
seems on here the ones that we are Interested in are Thousands of Miles Away, and I tried that once and Got BURNED!
And I still have Hope
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