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Apr 15, 2008 6:27 AM CSTA rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
JemR68
JemR68JemR68Baden-Baden, Baden-Wuerttemberg, Germany1 Threads 1 Polls 8 Posts

A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!(Vote Below)

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How about if someone rejected ,,because of his status,,Single parent with kids.?sigh :
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Apr 15, 2008 6:27 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
JemR68
JemR68JemR68Baden-Baden, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany1 Threads 1 Polls 8 Posts
How about if someone rejected ,,because of his status,,Single parent with kids.?sigh :
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Apr 15, 2008 6:35 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
foreveryoung1
foreveryoung1foreveryoung1cartagena, Murcia Spain4 Threads 1 Polls 4,094 Posts
JemR68: How about if someone rejected ,,because of his status,,Single parent with kids.? :


I understand your question, but not the vote, could you clarify please?
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Apr 15, 2008 7:02 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
maruska1980
maruska1980maruska1980Santa Venera, Majjistral Malta8 Threads 2 Polls 408 Posts
foreveryoung1: I understand your question, but not the vote, could you clarify please?


same here
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Apr 15, 2008 7:40 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
JemR68: How about if someone rejected ,,because of his status,,Single parent with kids.? :


I too am a single parent. Not a valid reason on its own for rejection,sounds like an excuse. JMOdunno
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Apr 15, 2008 8:13 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
FlowerOfTheSun
FlowerOfTheSunFlowerOfTheSunMalaga, Andalusia Spain9 Threads 1,390 Posts
Elley: I too am a single parent. Not a valid reason on its own for rejection,sounds like an excuse. JMO



Well ... I have a different slant on this ...

Because I have been divorced twice (my second one still going on) + had another relationship in between ... In the course of those 27 years, I have been a step-mother to 2 girls, had my own children, been involved with a guy who had grown up kids (he wasn't at all interested in getting involved with my kids even though we lived in his house it was very much like being a single parent and eventually lead to our separation because my kids could never feel "at home"), re-married later to someone who was then the step-father to my own kids but there again for reasons I won't go into here, it was again being like a single parent only I had the responsibility of an extra person on top of my kids... Later, I also become a grandmother to 2 beautiful grandchildren and more (financial and emotional) responsibilities for reasons I won't go into here ( Elley's thread on violence might give you an idea) ... Ah!! And also worked as a teacher for 16 years before giving it all up same time as my last divorce...

laugh I am all "kidded out"!!!!!

This is what I think ... After having spent the last 27 years taking responsibility and caring for others needs and wellbeing, when meeting someone new, specially on a dating site ... unless it's "extreme attraction" from the word go therefore you don't give a shit about "anything else" you just want to be with the person, then I say (for me) why get involved and get to "know better" someone who brings with them a reason for my (well earned) freedom to be diminished. Why have to run around schedules that center around children's need (they always come first as they should) when NOW I can do what I want when I want!!! For me having a serious relationship with a guy who is bringing up his kids was absolutely no option. Fortunately, I have met someone who felt the same after being a step-dad twice for many years ...

Basically what I mean is that being rejected because of being a single parent is not a reflection on the person being rejected or their kids, it's a reflection on the "needs" and choices that the other person is honest enough to put forward. Better that than what happened to me in relationship mentioned higher above where the guy wanted his cake and wanted to eat it too (I know because he admitted to it later - he had not been honest with himself or with me) ...

bouquet
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Apr 15, 2008 8:19 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
jimbhoy
jimbhoyjimbhoyHamilton, Strathclyde, Scotland UK109 Threads 2 Polls 6,740 Posts
My Girlfriend has 8 kids and I have 4... so I dont see it as a problem.... just need a bigger dinner tablerolling on the floor laughing wave wave
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Apr 15, 2008 8:27 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
FlowerOfTheSun
FlowerOfTheSunFlowerOfTheSunMalaga, Andalusia Spain9 Threads 1,390 Posts
jimbhoy: My Girlfriend has 8 kids and I have 4... so I dont see it as a problem.... just need a bigger dinner table


The perfect improvised huge dining table : 4 trestle with couple of doors on top (great idea to remove handles before placing on laugh ) couples with flat sheets for table cloths (or those colourful plastic party ones) I know coz being Spanish there's always a million of us when we have family get togethers (kitchen and lounge door are best choices as they only "get in the way" when there's lots of kiddies around conversing


rolling on the floor laughing


That's coz you're both involved in bringing up kids so both your priorities center around similar things ... applause
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Apr 15, 2008 9:27 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
smoky
smokysmokyUnterland, Zurich Switzerland300 Threads 6 Polls 13,267 Posts
foreveryoung1: I understand your question, but not the vote, could you clarify please?


Same here. Why is this a POLL? and what is the choice for voting?
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Apr 15, 2008 9:42 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
FlowerOfTheSun: Well ... I have a different slant on this ...

Because I have been divorced twice (my second one still going on) + had another relationship in between ... In the course of those 27 years, I have been a step-mother to 2 girls, had my own children, been involved with a guy who had grown up kids (he wasn't at all interested in getting involved with my kids even though we lived in his house it was very much like being a single parent and eventually lead to our separation because my kids could never feel "at home"), re-married later to someone who was then the step-father to my own kids but there again for reasons I won't go into here, it was again being like a single parent only I had the responsibility of an extra person on top of my kids... Later, I also become a grandmother to 2 beautiful grandchildren and more (financial and emotional) responsibilities for reasons I won't go into here ( Elley's thread on violence might give you an idea) ... Ah!! And also worked as a teacher for 16 years before giving it all up same time as my last divorce...

I am all "kidded out"!!!!!

This is what I think ... After having spent the last 27 years taking responsibility and caring for others needs and wellbeing, when meeting someone new, specially on a dating site ... unless it's "extreme attraction" from the word go therefore you don't give a shit about "anything else" you just want to be with the person, then I say (for me) why get involved and get to "know better" someone who brings with them a reason for my (well earned) freedom to be diminished. Why have to run around schedules that center around children's need (they always come first as they should) when NOW I can do what I want when I want!!! For me having a serious relationship with a guy who is bringing up his kids was absolutely no option. Fortunately, I have met someone who felt the same after being a step-dad twice for many years ...

Basically what I mean is that being rejected because of being a single parent is not a reflection on the person being rejected or their kids, it's a reflection on the "needs" and choices that the other person is honest enough to put forward. Better that than what happened to me in relationship mentioned higher above where the guy wanted his cake and wanted to eat it too (I know because he admitted to it later - he had not been honest with himself or with me) ...


Flor,I think he was the one with the kid and doing the rejecting. I agree with all you say,but if it is he with kid/rejection that,s another matter.thumbs up
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Apr 15, 2008 10:14 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
jimbhoy
jimbhoyjimbhoyHamilton, Strathclyde, Scotland UK109 Threads 2 Polls 6,740 Posts
FlowerOfTheSun: The perfect improvised huge dining table : 4 trestle with couple of doors on top (great idea to remove handles before placing on ) couples with flat sheets for table cloths (or those colourful plastic party ones) I know coz being Spanish there's always a million of us when we have family get togethers (kitchen and lounge door are best choices as they only "get in the way" when there's lots of kiddies around That's coz you're both involved in bringing up kids so both your priorities center around similar things ...


We just throw the food on the floor at the moment cant get a bigger table than that... helps when they bring thier b/f orG/f too.


(note) we out out a lot....just the two of usrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 15, 2008 10:58 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
Elley: I too am a single parent. Not a valid reason on its own for rejection,sounds like an excuse. JMO


Maybe I,m being too hard here,maybe he just wants to focus on his kid.Who knows what his Modus Operandi is? Anyway,think of you and move on.Next !thumbs up
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Apr 16, 2008 5:09 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
JemR68: How about if someone rejected ,,because of his status,,Single parent with kids.? :

confused
I am a single parent of four and they always come first, so if a guy can,t take that then...........his loss
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Apr 16, 2008 5:11 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: I am a single parent of four and they always come first, so if a guy can,t take that then...........his loss


I,m still a bit confused (or thick) who,s got the kid and who did the rejecting.dunno
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Apr 16, 2008 5:14 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: I,m still a bit confused (or thick) who,s got the kid and who did the rejecting.

Join the clubtongue
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Apr 16, 2008 5:27 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: Join the club


Puddin club ?tongue
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Apr 16, 2008 5:29 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: Puddin club ?

Had a feeling you would say thatrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing I,m saying nowt tongue
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Apr 16, 2008 5:33 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: Had a feeling you would say that I,m saying nowt


I was a member of the aforesaid club,but alas,alack no more. As for you saying nowt,can,t see that lasting very long.Ahemrolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 16, 2008 5:35 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: I was a member of the aforesaid club,but alas,alack no more. As for you saying nowt,can,t see that lasting very long.Ahem

doh grin
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Apr 16, 2008 5:36 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
See,even without words you can,t be quiet.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 16, 2008 5:38 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: See,even without words you can,t be quiet.

hmmm sad
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Apr 16, 2008 5:41 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
Hey Cath,say all you want,you,ll never be as mouthy as me,though I don,t know.

Please Cath,say something. Gawd,when you want them to shut up they won,t,want them to speak....

Women,can,t live with them,can,t bury them under the patio.rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 16, 2008 5:44 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: Hey Cath,say all you want,you,ll never be as mouthy as me,though I don,t know.

Please Cath,say something. Gawd,when you want them to shut up they won,t,want them to speak....

Women,can,t live with them,can,t bury them under the patio.

You say the sweetest thingsconfused Are you saying I,m too big to fit under a 'patio'?moping
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Apr 16, 2008 5:49 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: You say the sweetest things Are you saying I,m too big to fit under a 'patio'?


Oh you haven,t heard me when I,m being a real b*tch yet. I don,t let rip often,bout once every Preston Guild (twenty years) best not to be around when I totally lose it,like Mount f....g Vesuvious throwing a wobbler.

Anyway, if you want to pop round and stretch out all horizontal like on my patio so I can measure you an that an we,ll see what appens.dancing
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Apr 16, 2008 6:27 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: Oh you haven,t heard me when I,m being a real b*tch yet. I don,t let rip often,bout once every Preston Guild (twenty years) best not to be around when I totally lose it,like Mount f....g Vesuvious throwing a wobbler.

Anyway, if you want to pop round and stretch out all horizontal like on my patio so I can measure you an that an we,ll see what appens.

I,ll take a rain check on that grin
super
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Apr 16, 2008 6:29 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: I,ll take a rain check on that


No rain here Cath,sun,sun,sun all day long. Just let me get the sand out my ears.rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 16, 2008 6:38 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
cathy61
cathy61cathy61Waterford, Ireland27 Threads 2,087 Posts
Elley: No rain here Cath,sun,sun,sun all day long. Just let me get the sand out my ears.

wave Night
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Apr 16, 2008 6:43 PM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
Elley
ElleyElleyCadiz, Andalusia Spain201 Threads 1 Polls 4,916 Posts
cathy61: Night


LOL happy dayswave wave wave
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Apr 17, 2008 12:35 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
jimbhoy: My Girlfriend has 8 kids and I have 4... so I dont see it as a problem.... just need a bigger dinner table


you are a busy lot! where do you get the time to visit cs?
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Apr 17, 2008 5:02 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
rusty_knight
rusty_knightrusty_knightGozo, Malta254 Threads 4 Polls 10,684 Posts
dragonfly88: you are a busy lot! where do you get the time to visit cs?


If hev didn't visit CS occasionally there'd be even more kids! rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 17, 2008 5:08 AM CST A rejection of a women becaused of the kids!
u2Kitty
u2Kittyu2KittyClose to the ocean, South Denmark Denmark27 Threads 1,289 Posts
Or perhaps he does`nt know about his profile, his kids made itlaugh
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