Compromise. How much would u give up 4 a partner? ( Archived) (75)

The problem with compromise,is no one actually gets what they want,which in itself can cause conflict.
In a good relationship,the partners should respect the others interests and opinions.
If that goes against the grain,then maybe the partnership is not what they believe it to be.

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so nice to see...thank-you cagey

a bit of Little Italy on CS ...

have a glorious day!

You´re right, it shouldn´t be about giving up something for someone else, or about not being yourself. I see compromise as something positive, as being open to what the other side is interested in.

Isn´t that pretty much the definition of a compromise?? Or at least the prerequisite??

In my opinion a compromise is a positive thing that allows both people to pursue their interests without crowding the other.

There are no caprices in my life, all I have or do is owned or done for a reason, so NO, not going to give up on anything for someone who can't accept me as I am. But I do not mind some help in daily routine so that I could finally indulge myself in something.

I dont really think so,but i am not that bright! To me,a better way to look at it is accepting the other for what they like,or enjoy doing,that way,there is no need to compromise.Compromise to me means one of the parties usually giving up what they want to do to please the other.I would suggest,not often does a compromise please both sides equally.

It depends. You're right Jodestir the key word is compromise.
Never again would I give up every thing for someone who didn't make the same investment in the relationship. For the right guy who was similarly committed I'd give up everything.

I'm pretty cynical these days though and I suspect a lot of other people are too. Are there really still people around who would give up everything for love? I haven't met one yet.

Hm, it seems we have different definitions for compromise. Maybe I´ve been using the word in the German sense without ever having noticed, I don´t know.

Accepting the other for what they are is good - but instant acceptance it´s also a very ideal scenario.

For example: I totally hated and despised ballet, it did my head in and I just never ever saw the beauty of it, I found it ridiculous. But somehow I managed to go out with a ballet dancer for five years. Of course I accepted him for what he was, but the compromise for me was to sit through endless performances to watch him dance. Until I noticed after quite a few of these "ordeals" that I was actually getting into it. In other words, what started out as a compromise, ended up being a learning experience. And that´s a good thing, isn´t it??

nothing.

well...ya ain't gonna get me in a friggin tutu...

ahhh c'mon june....

surely you have hopes dreams and desires...

Not even into these extra tight tights???

I can see where you are coming from,but to me that isnt a compromise,thats you making the decision you would do that,not him insisting if you wanted to be with him,you should.In other words,he hasnt insisted you compromise.
Anyway,if you dont agree with me,i am going to come over there and pull your pigtails until you screem and screem and screem!

Hehe, you gotta catch me first!!

I´m beginning to see where the dispute is coming from: you see a compromise as something that is imposed on you from the outside, whereas I was more thinking of the inner compromises we all have to make when dealing with anyone (not just a lover) in this world.

Your kind of compromise is more of an ultimatum, isn´t it?? Well, if anyone tries to give me an ultimatum, all they get to see from me is an erect middle finger!