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Apr 18, 2011 1:49 AM CSTif you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
joelle2107
joelle2107joelle2107Jakarta, Indonesia170 Threads 36 Polls 5,561 Posts

if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..(Vote Below)

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sometimes
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somewhat
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maybe
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no
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yes
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35
that's because your heart is too small...confused
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Apr 18, 2011 2:10 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
Witchaywoman
WitchaywomanWitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA97 Threads 13 Polls 4,344 Posts
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...


Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.
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Apr 18, 2011 2:18 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.


Those people need Forgiven when we depart!mumbling super giggle wave
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Apr 18, 2011 2:39 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...


forgive stop feeling angry, or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, or mistake.

Concise Oxford English Dictionary.

Its got nothing to do with the size of your heart, its a process of the mind. The amount of time that it takes to process thoughts and feelings depends on the offence, the cognitive abilities of the "forgiver" and previous experience that can be applied by the "forgiver".

By suggesting that forgiveness is to do with the size of the heart, a value judgement is being made about the "forgiver", akin to blaming the victim for their own victimization.

Its more productive to view life in terms of how you facilitate others, or yourself to process negative, or unpleasant feelings after an event.
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Apr 18, 2011 2:41 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
ScarlettLipstick
ScarlettLipstickScarlettLipstickdunno, Metro Manila Philippines8 Threads 1 Polls 738 Posts
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.


thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up Agreed!
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Apr 18, 2011 2:49 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
kidmak
kidmakkidmakLaunceston, Tasmania Australia1 Threads 471 Posts
jac379: forgive stop feeling angry, or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, or mistake.

Concise Oxford English Dictionary.

Its got nothing to do with the size of your heart, its a process of the mind. The amount of time that it takes to process thoughts and feelings depends on the offence, the cognitive abilities of the "forgiver" and previous experience that can be applied by the "forgiver".

By suggesting that forgiveness is to do with the size of the heart, a value judgement is being made about the "forgiver", akin to blaming the victim for their own victimization.

Its more productive to view life in terms of how you facilitate others, or yourself to process negative, or unpleasant feelings after an event.
thumbs up

For me forgiving doesn't mean forgeting, otherwise it would be
an experience/situation where a leason was not learnt.
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Apr 18, 2011 2:59 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
zianeammar
zianeammarzianeammarFredrikstad, Ostfold Norway4 Threads 48 Posts
we must forgive if not is not human beings, is of wild animals.
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Apr 18, 2011 3:00 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
kidmak: For me forgiving doesn't mean forgeting, otherwise it would be
an experience/situation where a leason was not learnt.


I find memory a fickle old thing.

I remember things I would gladly forget and forget things that I really ought to remember.

There's not a helluva lot of planning involved.
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Apr 18, 2011 3:02 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
arch_angel83
arch_angel83arch_angel83Mafia Wars Underdog, Indonesia3 Threads 68 Posts
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.



thumbs up thumbs up
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Apr 18, 2011 3:04 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.
thumbs up
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Apr 18, 2011 3:05 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
patmac: Now I might start to worry...... BIIIIIAAAAAAATTTCCCCCHHHHHHH.


Snicker, snicker. hmmm
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Apr 18, 2011 3:07 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...
Forgiveness is a good thing ,I like it and God gives a great reward wine
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Apr 18, 2011 3:08 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
patmac
patmacpatmacglasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK730 Threads 6 Polls 9,662 Posts
jac379: Snicker, snicker.


Time to go and do some workmoping moping grin cheers
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Apr 18, 2011 3:12 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
patmac: Time to go and do some work


See ya, Pat. wave
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Apr 18, 2011 3:22 AM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
frend99
frend99frend99Kahtmandu, Central Nepal Nepal6 Threads 47 Posts
there isn't anything called 'sin'. it's just a trap..
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Apr 18, 2011 3:45 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
khan1459
khan1459khan1459midway, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 3 Polls 67 Posts
applause
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Apr 19, 2011 3:59 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,699 Posts
zianeammar: we must forgive if not is not human beings, is of wild animals.


detective dancing dog



Easier said than done; I'm afraid many forget and what is forgiveness the better part of experience lost. professor

And if family or friends do not acknowledge, there can be no forgiveness, just forget. help

wine



"'Cause I hear the whispered words
Within you're masterpiece beautiful
Speak the unspeakable phrase
I love you too." ~Leonard Cohen - There For You
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Apr 19, 2011 4:14 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
the human heart must also be honest and if the offense is such that you cannot find it to forgive then that's that.

It does not mean your heart is too small

It says nothing bad about the victim, and to say that the failure to forgive means the victim is in some way at fault is wrong. It is the one who needs the forgiveness who has wronged and needs to make up for that wrong in some way - hopefully completely

and perhaps be forgiven - or not - there is no obligation there
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Apr 19, 2011 4:45 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
newinsouth
newinsouthnewinsouthAiken, South Carolina USA26 Threads 2 Polls 1,039 Posts
kidmak: For me forgiving doesn't mean forgeting, otherwise it would be
an experience/situation where a leason was not learnt.


thumbs up thumbs up

Right, forgive DON'T FORGET
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Apr 19, 2011 4:50 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
nanners2863
nanners2863nanners2863Cayuga, Ontario Canada38 Threads 3,355 Posts
I have the capacity to forgive but the intelligence never to forget. cool
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Apr 19, 2011 4:53 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
DeusExMachina
DeusExMachinaDeusExMachinahaaltert, Oost Vlaanderen Belgium55 Threads 1 Polls 2,705 Posts
I forgave and forgotten herwink
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...
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Apr 19, 2011 4:54 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
nanners2863: I have the capacity to forgive but the intelligence never to forget.


handshake wine thumbs up
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Apr 19, 2011 5:03 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
Raynew1959
Raynew1959Raynew1959Barrington, New Hampshire USA120 Threads 2 Polls 2,218 Posts
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.


I agree
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Apr 19, 2011 5:06 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
Witchaywoman: Some people do NOT have the right to be forgiven.
i have never forgiven anyone thinking they have a right to anythingconfused

forgiveness isnt for them its for me


wow what a misunderstood conceptsigh

i mean i have a right to never forgive but who suffers from that? MEfrustrated
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Apr 19, 2011 5:27 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
IDK - there are a few people I have not forgiven (very few) and I actaully feel quite pleasant and satisfied about itcool
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Apr 24, 2011 12:49 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,699 Posts
bohemianjack: "'Cause I hear the whispered words
Within you're masterpiece beautiful
Speak the unspeakable phrase
I love you too." ~Leonard Cohen - There For You


Meh... shows how little I know. rose in teeth



hug

"I hold my face in my two hands
no I am not crying.
I hold my face between my hands
to keep my loneliness warm-
two hands protecting,
two hands nourishing,
two hands to prevent
my soul from leaving me
in anger." ~Thich Nhat Hanh. Anger

He does not say two hands to fix, two hands to change, two hands to purify.

But, to keep my loneliness warm.... two hands protecting, nourishing..

To prevent my soul from leaving me in anger..

pointing rose
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Apr 24, 2011 12:54 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
karenmarie
karenmariekarenmariewexford, Wexford Ireland1 Threads 441 Posts
one can forgive but one does not forget,they say wen ya forgive ya heal,well that all depends on the individual and their personal experience,
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Apr 24, 2011 12:57 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...

Im all heart and soul ,so your statement is wrong in so many ways
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Apr 24, 2011 12:58 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
maryrachelle
maryrachellemaryrachelleBathurst, New Brunswick Canada27 Threads 1,370 Posts
Forgiveness does not mean you have to let that person back in your life and have a close relationship with them.All it means is letting go on the anger towards them.It's too exhausting to hold onto hate.
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Apr 25, 2011 3:47 PM CST if you can not forgive someone, it's not because of her/his big sin..
craig63
craig63craig63estepona, Andalusia Spain46 Threads 1,464 Posts
joelle2107: that's because your heart is too small...


it depends on what the person has done, if someone cheated on me I
could forget but never forgive so you can not always forgive the other person.



wine
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