May 20, 2008 10:15 AM CST Do you base your criteria for dating on looks first or personality first?
StevenSchwartzLockerbie, Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland UK32 Threads778 Posts
StevenSchwartzLockerbie, Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland UK778 posts
pvictoria: Just got off your profile.You are a puddle jumper just like me.You are my kind of people.Sine you turned your Ratings off I give you 4 your cuteness coupled with good personality a 10.
Looks may initially catch my eye, but that fades very quickly once I get an opportunity to spend time with a person (hence its personality, intelligence, humor etc. that will really wow me or not).
On the internet its really more about personality than anything - most people's pictures are not the greatest - so its how they express themselves, their sense of humor or not, that gives me a glimpse into whether I find this person interesting and worth getting to know.
langleygirl: Looks may initially catch my eye, but that fades very quickly once I get an opportunity to spend time with a person (hence its personality, intelligence, humor etc. that will really wow me or not).
On the internet its really more about personality than anything - most people's pictures are not the greatest - so its how they express themselves, their sense of humor or not, that gives me a glimpse into whether I find this person interesting and worth getting to know.
Sure, first we look 4 pretty but then might find out pretty is absolutely dried out when it comes to interaction.The one who gets my attention is the one who makes me laugh.The couple that plays stays.
pvictoria: Sure, first we look 4 pretty but then might find out pretty is absolutely dried out when it comes to interaction.The one who gets my attention is the one who makes me laugh.The couple that plays stays.
Very true ....... how do we describe our friends - rarely do we refer to looks, but its about their personality. How many times has someone changed their appearance and no one notices? ie. haircut/shave mustache (just gotta put that in!)
langleygirl: Very true ....... how do we describe our friends - rarely do we refer to looks, but its about their personality. How many times has someone changed their appearance and no one notices? ie. haircut/shave mustache (just gotta put that in!)
Funny you say that because I notice at once if someone looks different.I even comment on it.When I describe my friends I mention character and looks.This way the other person can visualize my friends.
pvictoria: Funny you say that because I notice at once if someone looks different.I even comment on it.When I describe my friends I mention character and looks.This way the other person can visualize my friends.
Good points ........ maybe its more of a gender difference? or you're the rare exception ....... well at least from my viewpoint.
May 20, 2008 11:55 AM CST Do you base your criteria for dating on looks first or personality first?
StevenSchwartzLockerbie, Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland UK32 Threads778 Posts
StevenSchwartzLockerbie, Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland UK778 posts
JuleeBeth: A certain look gets your attention, but it's the personality that holds your attention. At least for me.
Right...The elephant man would certainly get my attention and I am sure his personality is lovely...But their ain't now way I am getting my grove on with him.
langleygirl: Good points ........ maybe its more of a gender difference? or you're the rare exception ....... well at least from my viewpoint.
Well I think I must be the rare exeption since every guy I know fits the stereotype description of a man.It must be my job too to see only the things that are disfunctional and need fixing.One becomes very observative.
I have experienced both senarios.... I can grow to be attracted to someone who is intelligent, funny and charming... I could never grow to love someone who is beautiful but dull, boring and rude... would never happen.... nothing against looks and sure it is a big bonus... but I know right now that it will be the person I fall in love with not the face.. JMV
I have to admit I agree with prncss4someon, and I wish I were not so shallow, but that is the truth. I have had a lot of candy on my arm, and I still love it...addicted to candy...LOL
May 27, 2008 6:53 PM CST Do you base your criteria for dating on looks first or personality first?
casualobserverBridgetown, Saint Michael Barbados1 Posts
casualobserverBridgetown, Saint Michael Barbados1 posts
To be honest, I begin with looks first. That being said, if she looks great but has a bad attitude or a personality I'm not getting along with, I still wouldn't date her. But realistically, looks are first simply because (i) that's most likely the first thing I would have encountered that caught my attention and (ii) if I'm not happy about my date's looks and find "distracted" by other women who look much better then it's not fear to my date because that will only bring about insecurities and problems. Therefore, when I choose a date, I'd choose one whose appearance I'm pleased with. Realistically, as well, I expect the opposite from my date so I try to keep myself looking good.
gangelPlovdiv, Bulgaria, Hampshire, England UK5,028 posts
It doesnt matter how you look like,what matters is your heart.We can never truly judge only the outside of a person,though the first thing you see is the outside.
tufty: Looks lure me in..... Personality holds me.... or repels me.....
you got it right there! it is that simple, if i am not attracted to you then you will probably just be a friend or not, no matter your personality, i deal with formulas and the one tufty speaks of is the one i go by, but hey that is just me.
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That's shocking...Tut. Shame!