Are there still any loyal and trustworthy men left in the world? ( Archived) (5)

I have spent years looking for a man who will treat me the way he wants to be treated. And that is with RESPECT! I have also spent years looking for a man who will love me for who I am and not what I look like. much to no avail. All the men I have talked to all want the Barbie Doll type woman of which I am not.

I think that loyal and trustworthy are often thought of in too absolute a manner. People, men and women, have a tendency to treat others how they are treated, and when that changes, things go south. I will say, however, that relationships do not exist in a vacuum. There are outside influences that can cause all kinds of stress on any relationship...death of a child, money problems, death of a parent, medical problems, death of a close friend. the emergence of bad influences...you name it, and stress causes damage, sometimes irreparable to the relationship.

This is TMI, but might I just say that the Barbie Doll thing could work both ways. I was close friends with one in high school and college, but never pursued a relationship. Her barbie doll attractiveness scared the hell out of me. She never married, and passed away a while back, and I am sorry I never pursued a closer relationship.

As for you, if you're not a Barbie Doll, you just might want to remind those you talk to that they are not all Kens either. Sometimes, it might take a bit longer, and more persistence to find the man you want.

Don't judge us all on a few bad eggs, not every guy wants a barbie doll. I'll take a great personality over looks any day of the week, but physical attraction is important, just not the most important thing. One thing that makes me wonder is this-how do you treat your Men? Maybe there is something in the way you treat your Men that is a problem, just a thought, not trying to be mean or anything.

For right or wrong, appearences are impportant. No matter what the size or height or looks, there is someone for everyone. But, you won't find anybody if they can't see you at all. Everyone needs a starting or reference point.