i have been let go a number of times from jobs and people who i was dateing left me soon after and when i went to move on no one wood be wanting to meet up when i get a new job its like im more interesting but i feel the same is it a big turn off being unemployed
Keeneye101: i have been let go a number of times from jobs and people who i was dateing left me soon after and when i went to move on no one wood be wanting to meet up when i get a new job its like im more interesting but i feel the same is it a big turn off being unemployed
And to answer the OP - Have you ever considered that maybe it was your attitude and countenance changed when you became unemployed? Did you possibly get a bit sullen and resentful when you were unable to go to the pub as often; buy treats for yourself; upgrade your car, etc?
Did you stay up all night and in bed all day? Not bother with your appearance in the same way?
Unemployment can bring about a major change in one's life, it can be devastating time especially for men, who often still consider themselves the breadwinner. If unchecked, depression can also set in. What I am saying is that, although you say you feel the same, naybe you don't act and behave the same.
I would personally not break up with somebody just because he became unemployed. I would indeed encourage him to reevaluate his employment situation. Maybe he always hated that career in the first place, and could take unemployment as a positive to change direction, re-train etc.
We could just adjust our lifestyle until he was back earning again. A well planned picnic can be as good as a meal in a Michelin star restaurant.
mollybaby: And to answer the OP - Have you ever considered that maybe it was your attitude and countenance changed when you became unemployed? Did you possibly get a bit sullen and resentful when you were unable to go to the pub as often; buy treats for yourself; upgrade your car, etc?
Did you stay up all night and in bed all day? Not bother with your appearance in the same way?
Unemployment can bring about a major change in one's life, it can be devastating time especially for men, who often still consider themselves the breadwinner. If unchecked, depression can also set in. What I am saying is that, although you say you feel the same, naybe you don't act and behave the same.
If you stay up all night and sleep all day and dont bother with your appearence you ARE depressed..
Its possible he was dating shallow/callous women.. ..he didnt say much so how can anyone assume anything about him..
I would personally not break up with somebody just because he became unemployed. I would indeed encourage him to reevaluate his employment situation. Maybe he always hated that career in the first place, and could take unemployment as a positive to change direction, re-train etc.
We could just adjust our lifestyle until he was back earning again. A well planned picnic can be as good as a meal in a Michelin star restaurant.
Keeneye101: i have been let go a number of times from jobs and people who i was dateing left me soon after and when i went to move on no one wood be wanting to meet up when i get a new job its like im more interesting but i feel the same is it a big turn off being unemployed
You just turned 24? Twenty four! Ah go way outta that youve only been alive five minutes you recession baby! You probably still dont know what you want to do yet ..so go to australia n get a tan harvesting weed i mean fruit in the meantime?
Keeneye101: i have been let go a number of times from jobs and people who i was dateing left me soon after and when i went to move on no one wood be wanting to meet up when i get a new job its like im more interesting but i feel the same is it a big turn off being unemployed
From my personal view, I don't look if the person I'm dating has a job or not. If the relationship goes on then todays society tells us is vital.
An aunt of mine had the misfortune of dating a guy that quit his job the day after he moved in with her. He had the audacity to think it was HER job to support HIM! No, she is not rich, and only collects disability pay. On these dating sites, there have been more than a few men that wanted to know if I could support a man as well as myself. It is for that reason I voted NO.
YerMissingRib: An aunt of mine had the misfortune of dating a guy that quit his job the day after he moved in with her. He had the audacity to think it was HER job to support HIM! No, she is not rich, and only collects disability pay. On these dating sites, there have been more than a few men that wanted to know if I could support a man as well as myself. It is for that reason I voted NO.
I've never come across any guy like that and I'm here a while.
Money comes and goes, it was here long before me and shall be here long after me. But the measure of a man is how he handles himself during times of adversity.... Be that through unemployment, or whatever.
A real man will always be thus and not measure himself by his bank balance.
henonpause: A job doesn't maketh the man, nor does money.
Money comes and goes, it was here long before me and shall be here long after me. But the measure of a man is how he handles himself during times of adversity.... Be that through unemployment, or whatever.
A real man will always be thus and not measure himself by his bank balance.
Actually I believe it does and this is centered on a mans self-worth and how he himself measures this.
If a guy lost his job while I was dating him through no fault of his own that is entirely different to a guy not wanting to work.
Brilliant, Glat, and of course you wouldn't object to coming home from work to find him out sunning himself in the garden, bringing him out a beer so he could relax on the sunbed, while you cook the dinner.
stanley8m: Brilliant, Glat, and of course you wouldn't object to coming home from work to find him out sunning himself in the garden, bringing him out a beer so he could relax on the sunbed, while you cook the dinner.
Keeneye101: i have been let go a number of times from jobs and people who i was dateing left me soon after and when i went to move on no one wood be wanting to meet up when i get a new job its like im more interesting but i feel the same is it a big turn off being unemployed
stanley8m: Brilliant, Glat, and of course you wouldn't object to coming home from work to find him out sunning himself in the garden, bringing him out a beer so he could relax on the sunbed, while you cook the dinner.
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