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Jan 24, 2013 12:35 AM CSTA question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Luke79
Luke79Luke79Melbourne, Victoria, Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 14 Posts

A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin(Vote Below)

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Almost all messages I send out are replied to
5
11%
Most of my messages are replied to
10
22%
About half of my messages receive a reply
3
7%
Less than half, maybe around 1/3 are replied to.
3
7%
Very few receive a reply
10
22%
Almost none are replied to
15
33%
Total Votes
46
I am wondering what kind of response rate other heterosexual male members are experiencing from their messages to female members.
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Jan 24, 2013 12:59 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Luke79
Luke79Luke79Melbourne, Victoria Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 14 Posts
I would have to make two separate polls. Why not make one yourself? We could compare results.
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Jan 24, 2013 1:01 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
curly28
curly28curly28Perth, Western Australia Australia53 Threads 5,450 Posts
Luke79: I would have to make two separate polls. Why not make one yourself? We could compare results.



Because there has been threads like yours before nothing new dunno
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Jan 24, 2013 1:44 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand32 Threads 2 Polls 7,379 Posts
shock shock shock shock shock what you send messages to girls , how do you know they are girls . Bet you anything you like most have two sets of kidneys . Sending messages here can only have a wagnerian end , best you get a camera and take part in the forums . comfort
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Jan 24, 2013 1:47 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand32 Threads 2 Polls 7,379 Posts
yay yay it is blokey week curly
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Jan 24, 2013 1:51 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
EratoTheMuse
EratoTheMuseEratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 Posts
*lowers voice*

*cough*

Umm...what was the question again?
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Jan 24, 2013 1:54 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
i agree, why on earth would you send a message to a complete stranger in cyberspace.
If a women wants to use your body she'd likely say so, why on earth would you set yourself up for rejection escapes mescold
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Jan 24, 2013 1:55 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
curly28
curly28curly28Perth, Western Australia Australia53 Threads 5,450 Posts
epirb: it is blokey week curly



help doh laugh
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Jan 24, 2013 2:08 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand32 Threads 2 Polls 7,379 Posts
Good to see what ya look like after the intro from Rivame , welcome to CS , hope you like it bouquet
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Jan 24, 2013 2:10 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand32 Threads 2 Polls 7,379 Posts
very mad very mad very mad effing quote button , last post @ Erato
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Jan 24, 2013 2:29 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
EratoTheMuse
EratoTheMuseEratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 Posts
I know I"m not technically or even non technically a man but I can offer up a womans perspective?

As a woman who received plenty of messages on a previous site I can say from my side I responded to each and every one....even the horrible ones. I wont say I replied nicely to those but I still replied. It figured it was the polite thing to do.
However I soon discovered that politeness is a flawed idea. The amount of guys that took politeness as a green light was...well let's just say a very large percentage.
All I can suggest is to pay attention to those replies you may get. If they seem interested, curious, asking questions indicating some level of wanting to know more, and are constructed of more than 3 words, then knock yourself out! Keep messaging! That one IS a green light.

But if her replies are between single and around 3 words then....she's bored silly and being polite. Cut your losses and move onto the next.
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Jan 24, 2013 2:35 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
and what about the ones who want to hear your life history and at the same time not answer single question?
My experience most women are just fishing, like trying on dresses or shoes so if you give them enough time, they will flutter off somewhere else and your safe mate
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Jan 24, 2013 2:46 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
EratoTheMuse
EratoTheMuseEratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 Posts
There's women that do that?

Well I'll be damned....


In a sense I can hardly blame them when statistically there's a higher number of men on dating sites than there is women. I guess it allows them to pick and choose more. And let's face it, not everyone is compatible, why set yourself up with someone you don't connect with on any level to begin with?

Please don't be offended by this as it's not meant to be offensive but..
I've been online for a long time, as in years. And my observations over the years have shown me that a lot of men have this silly notion that just because they pay you some attention, you should be grateful for that attention and should henceforth fall at your knees for them because they chose you above everyone else.

As bad as it is I honestly think dating sites are geared more for the women than the men as women can and DO pick and choose and barely even have to initiate contact. Sadly this means the men have to be the assertive ones and be the ones to send out the messages. Hate to break it to people but the old instinct of man chase woman is still very much how it is. Although thankfully we've evolved from the clubbing her over the head and dragging her off into the cave....I think
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Jan 24, 2013 5:12 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
thumbs up thumbs up

i agree wash, why I've written on my profile am looking for someone who takes responsibility for her own happiness.
I sure as hell aren't gunner try to
most ladies want to listen to music, i don't,
most ladies want a bloke that enjoys dancing i don't
most ladies want to been seen as an equal, just one captain on the bridge of any ship i sail on tongue
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Jan 24, 2013 5:37 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
curly28: Another blokey thread why not be men and woman included too open debate
And another forum moderator who insists on telling people what to say and how to think laugh
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Jan 24, 2013 5:48 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
jem1964
jem1964jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia30 Threads 1 Polls 2,441 Posts
the few messages I have initiated havent been answered, so fellas can be ignorant too.

And no the messages were polite, the person appeared by their profile to be compatible..

so.. who knows.


I usually reply to most messages sent to me unless they demand to be contacted by email. As my profile states (if they care to read) I delete all messages with an email demand/request in them.
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Jan 24, 2013 6:21 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Blizzard14u
Blizzard14uBlizzard14uGosnells, Western Australia Australia67 Threads 2 Polls 1,430 Posts
jem1964: the few messages I have initiated havent been answered, so fellas can be ignorant too.

And no the messages were polite, the person appeared by their profile to be compatible..

so.. who knows. I usually reply to most messages sent to me unless they demand to be contacted by email. As my profile states (if they care to read) I delete all messages with an email demand/request in them.


The old saying applies, I have found plenty off matches but unfortunately I wasn’t one off theirs?

Never mind, tomorrows another day, and some times it pays to look at when they were last online?

As they could have left long ago!
professor doh grin
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Jan 24, 2013 7:08 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Luke79
Luke79Luke79Melbourne, Victoria Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 14 Posts
Thanks for all the responses and opinions everyone. I was just curious. I have used dating websites in the past, and found that the response rate seemed to vary a lot depending on the site.

Some sites, it really was a complete waste of time, other sites were really quite good.

Personally, I think it's just rude to not reply to anyone who has taken the time to message you.
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Jan 24, 2013 7:19 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Blizzard14u
Blizzard14uBlizzard14uGosnells, Western Australia Australia67 Threads 2 Polls 1,430 Posts
Luke79: Thanks for all the responses and opinions everyone. I was just curious. I have used dating websites in the past, and found that the response rate seemed to vary a lot depending on the site.

Some sites, it really was a complete waste of time, other sites were really quite good.

Personally, I think it's just rude to not reply to anyone who has taken the time to message you.


Then you had better block Inga from Sweden, and a few others or you will be scammed!

There is no way off knowing who is behind the picture you see in a random message?
How long have they been online or this website! You are better off getting to know the regulars who talk on here as they are here all the time,

There is this one profile from South Africa that keeps appearing no matter what web site I go to,
professor cheers
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Jan 24, 2013 8:06 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Luke79
Luke79Luke79Melbourne, Victoria Australia2 Threads 1 Polls 14 Posts
Thanks mate. Yes I have received a very suspicious one already. I wouldn't waste my time with someone from overseas.
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Feb 5, 2013 6:16 PM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Sampe1967
Sampe1967Sampe1967Black River, Saint Elizabeth Jamaica56 Threads 3 Polls 628 Posts
EratoTheMuse: I know I"m not technically or even non technically a man but I can offer up a womans perspective?

As a woman who received plenty of messages on a previous site I can say from my side I responded to each and every one....even the horrible ones. I wont say I replied nicely to those but I still replied. It figured it was the polite thing to do.
However I soon discovered that politeness is a flawed idea. The amount of guys that took politeness as a green light was...well let's just say a very large percentage.
All I can suggest is to pay attention to those replies you may get. If they seem interested, curious, asking questions indicating some level of wanting to know more, and are constructed of more than 3 words, then knock yourself out! Keep messaging! That one IS a green light.

But if her replies are between single and around 3 words then....she's bored silly and being polite. Cut your losses and move onto the next.
i like your explanation because i also measure them by the amount of words too. That;s a whole language in itself but i mostly don't even get the three words.
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Feb 6, 2013 2:07 PM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
Halv0: Well, I've done pretty well out of this site. So far I would have to say that it is nearly 100%. I don't count the scammers though. I send them messages to waste their time.

But for ridgy didge, true blue chicks, I reckon I'm sitting on 100%. But I target chicks that I know would be interested in me by using my "Who's Viewed Me" tool. It kind of helped me to take the randomness out of the equation.

I have found my GF using this method, and I have 3 other friends from the chicks I have contacted who I talk with fairly regularly.

So for me, I'm stoked about the responses I've received on here. I've changed my profile now so that I don't lead any more chicks on....

Cheers.


I have to say that in the 5 years I am on this site I have never heard anyone say that 100% of the people they contacted got back to them so well done you.

Regarding the WVM list, this one confuses me, if a person has viewed my profile and not contacted me then they are obviously not interested in contacting me so I certainly wouldnt contact them.

As for me well 99% of the guys I have sent messages to dont bother replying.
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Feb 7, 2013 10:16 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Sampe1967
Sampe1967Sampe1967Black River, Saint Elizabeth Jamaica56 Threads 3 Polls 628 Posts
did you say question for the guys?
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Feb 7, 2013 11:08 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
Sampe1967: did you say question for the guys?


Hey where have you been hiding?

You never answered my question even though I asked you twice confused
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