what you send messages to girls , how do you know they are girls . Bet you anything you like most have two sets of kidneys . Sending messages here can only have a wagnerian end , best you get a camera and take part in the forums .
i agree, why on earth would you send a message to a complete stranger in cyberspace. If a women wants to use your body she'd likely say so, why on earth would you set yourself up for rejection escapes me
Jan 24, 2013 2:29 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
EratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 Posts
EratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 posts
I know I"m not technically or even non technically a man but I can offer up a womans perspective?
As a woman who received plenty of messages on a previous site I can say from my side I responded to each and every one....even the horrible ones. I wont say I replied nicely to those but I still replied. It figured it was the polite thing to do. However I soon discovered that politeness is a flawed idea. The amount of guys that took politeness as a green light was...well let's just say a very large percentage. All I can suggest is to pay attention to those replies you may get. If they seem interested, curious, asking questions indicating some level of wanting to know more, and are constructed of more than 3 words, then knock yourself out! Keep messaging! That one IS a green light.
But if her replies are between single and around 3 words then....she's bored silly and being polite. Cut your losses and move onto the next.
and what about the ones who want to hear your life history and at the same time not answer single question? My experience most women are just fishing, like trying on dresses or shoes so if you give them enough time, they will flutter off somewhere else and your safe mate
Jan 24, 2013 2:46 AM CST A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin
EratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 Posts
EratoTheMuseForest Lake, Queensland Australia33 posts
There's women that do that?
Well I'll be damned....
In a sense I can hardly blame them when statistically there's a higher number of men on dating sites than there is women. I guess it allows them to pick and choose more. And let's face it, not everyone is compatible, why set yourself up with someone you don't connect with on any level to begin with?
Please don't be offended by this as it's not meant to be offensive but.. I've been online for a long time, as in years. And my observations over the years have shown me that a lot of men have this silly notion that just because they pay you some attention, you should be grateful for that attention and should henceforth fall at your knees for them because they chose you above everyone else.
As bad as it is I honestly think dating sites are geared more for the women than the men as women can and DO pick and choose and barely even have to initiate contact. Sadly this means the men have to be the assertive ones and be the ones to send out the messages. Hate to break it to people but the old instinct of man chase woman is still very much how it is. Although thankfully we've evolved from the clubbing her over the head and dragging her off into the cave....I think
i agree wash, why I've written on my profile am looking for someone who takes responsibility for her own happiness. I sure as hell aren't gunner try to most ladies want to listen to music, i don't, most ladies want a bloke that enjoys dancing i don't most ladies want to been seen as an equal, just one captain on the bridge of any ship i sail on
jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia2,441 posts
the few messages I have initiated havent been answered, so fellas can be ignorant too.
And no the messages were polite, the person appeared by their profile to be compatible..
so.. who knows.
I usually reply to most messages sent to me unless they demand to be contacted by email. As my profile states (if they care to read) I delete all messages with an email demand/request in them.
Blizzard14uGosnells, Western Australia Australia1,430 posts
jem1964: the few messages I have initiated havent been answered, so fellas can be ignorant too.
And no the messages were polite, the person appeared by their profile to be compatible..
so.. who knows. I usually reply to most messages sent to me unless they demand to be contacted by email. As my profile states (if they care to read) I delete all messages with an email demand/request in them.
The old saying applies, I have found plenty off matches but unfortunately I wasn’t one off theirs?
Never mind, tomorrows another day, and some times it pays to look at when they were last online?
Thanks for all the responses and opinions everyone. I was just curious. I have used dating websites in the past, and found that the response rate seemed to vary a lot depending on the site.
Some sites, it really was a complete waste of time, other sites were really quite good.
Personally, I think it's just rude to not reply to anyone who has taken the time to message you.
Blizzard14uGosnells, Western Australia Australia1,430 posts
Luke79: Thanks for all the responses and opinions everyone. I was just curious. I have used dating websites in the past, and found that the response rate seemed to vary a lot depending on the site.
Some sites, it really was a complete waste of time, other sites were really quite good.
Personally, I think it's just rude to not reply to anyone who has taken the time to message you.
Then you had better block Inga from Sweden, and a few others or you will be scammed!
There is no way off knowing who is behind the picture you see in a random message? How long have they been online or this website! You are better off getting to know the regulars who talk on here as they are here all the time,
There is this one profile from South Africa that keeps appearing no matter what web site I go to,
EratoTheMuse: I know I"m not technically or even non technically a man but I can offer up a womans perspective?
As a woman who received plenty of messages on a previous site I can say from my side I responded to each and every one....even the horrible ones. I wont say I replied nicely to those but I still replied. It figured it was the polite thing to do. However I soon discovered that politeness is a flawed idea. The amount of guys that took politeness as a green light was...well let's just say a very large percentage. All I can suggest is to pay attention to those replies you may get. If they seem interested, curious, asking questions indicating some level of wanting to know more, and are constructed of more than 3 words, then knock yourself out! Keep messaging! That one IS a green light.
But if her replies are between single and around 3 words then....she's bored silly and being polite. Cut your losses and move onto the next.
i like your explanation because i also measure them by the amount of words too. That;s a whole language in itself but i mostly don't even get the three words.
Halv0: Well, I've done pretty well out of this site. So far I would have to say that it is nearly 100%. I don't count the scammers though. I send them messages to waste their time.
But for ridgy didge, true blue chicks, I reckon I'm sitting on 100%. But I target chicks that I know would be interested in me by using my "Who's Viewed Me" tool. It kind of helped me to take the randomness out of the equation.
I have found my GF using this method, and I have 3 other friends from the chicks I have contacted who I talk with fairly regularly.
So for me, I'm stoked about the responses I've received on here. I've changed my profile now so that I don't lead any more chicks on....
Cheers.
I have to say that in the 5 years I am on this site I have never heard anyone say that 100% of the people they contacted got back to them so well done you.
Regarding the WVM list, this one confuses me, if a person has viewed my profile and not contacted me then they are obviously not interested in contacting me so I certainly wouldnt contact them.
As for me well 99% of the guys I have sent messages to dont bother replying.
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