I know how painful this is and I have no quick fix for you but, there is some good news - it DOES get better :)
You know that you broke it off for a reason,many reasons in fact. Whenever you find yourself missing her just mentally list the various reasons that led to you parting ways. There are good memories of course and you should not banish those but remind yourself that the good times were not enough to prevent you from going your separate ways. You still love her and of course you do; she probably still cares tonnes about you too. Having reminded yourself of why you are not good for each other wish her lots of happiness and send her loads of love and move on to other thoughts or better still do something fun.
What we really really miss most when we break up is the sense of companionship - we miss our partner in crime so to speak. Take this opportunity to fill in that gap by reinforcing family ties and spending more time with friends and colleagues. Engage in social events and try some volunteering too.
Swan you gorgeous nutcase don't believe a word these guys tell you. Loads of people think it is just cool to hang around here and lead folks on and then when things approach anything remotely serious the excuses start piling up.. They are only here because they are bored and they think that chatting up someone who is far away is "safe" since they will not have to face the music.
And another point; on the site they all say they do not care if you are from a different culture or religion or if you are half purple or quarter insect but in real life they would never consider you as a partner.
I am referring to the time-wasters of course, and I know very well that are many many wonderful people over here who really look beyond such things and are in search of a partner in the most beautiful sense of the word.
Naturally there is only one way to end this - you are BEAUTIFUL, all good souls are :)))))
In some parts of the world being from a different religion or country or caste can lead to a hellish life for the couple and sometimes they even come in harm's way.
We have all heard stories from the Levant and the Gulf, and Egypt had a prominent story in the headlines lately.
Love knows no boundaries, but manking has MANY of them unfortunately.
Everyone is so keen to jump to conclusions and act holier than thou
Perhaps if you reread my posts you will understand what I actually mean!
PS I assume the poster of this thread is responsible for the nonsensical hate mail I received - you have been duly reported, nice example of the peaceful faith you profess to have.
I just do not understand why someone would post excerpts of any religious book without any additional background info or commentary.. I can copy and paste endless passages from a variety of books but, seriously, what is the point?? Is this dude out to convert anyone? This is not the place for that. It verges on blasphemy in my opinion although I am not a Muslim myself. That is all I am saying. Lord knows I have friends from all religions and we get along just fine :)
I assure you that some of us men have been at the receiving end of such behaviour and it hurts just as bad.
I think it is extremely widespread in both genders - most folks seem to think that they should look like and behave like the characters they see on TV when in reality those folks end up living sad materialistic lives devoid of any true meaning. Is that what I want for my life? N O P E....
Just set some boundaries.. do not always be available, do not always say "yes".. she will get the message.. unless you tell her where to stop she cannot know ;)
Yes and the complexes are deeply ingrained in the minds of people. If you check out the ads in Middle Eastern papers you will find that even these days they have no hesitation in soliciting applications from "Westerners only" and they even specify which countries they will consider at times.. I am often tempted to write in and ask them if I am from far West enough and if they would require a DNA sample perhaps lol
We should always try to forgive, for our own good if for no other reason. Resentment can eat you up slowly from the inside otherwise.
However in the context of love it is not always advisable to also forget besides forgiving.. I have learned that people seldom change and if there is something majorly wrong with the person you must either come to terms with it or walk away as it can only lead to you being hurt again.
Take a step back and let things move slowly for a while.. your inner self will soon show you the way.
You raise an extremely worrying point Swan.. This is part of what is wrong with modern day society. Most people have NO clue about how to communicate and the importance of doing so.
We have many talkers, very few speakers We have many hearers, very few listeners We have viewers not seers We have thinkers not reasoners
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Thanks. Well my 100 years are over I suppose, so I can write about it :)