marina1000 Blog Comments (327)

RE: How do you do to forget? To not miss anymore?

It's hard to move on when you don't have closure....when you want to talk more to the person you care about and hash out the issues.

The only way a person can have closure and go to the next step in their life, is have the courage to talk to the person, even after that person has moved on to another relationship.

Having that courage to talk to the person, is the hardest thing in this life, but the most rewarding......She may be experiencing the same pain, because she too didn't have closure, even if she is in another relationship.

Pray about this, and allow God to give you the courage and resilience to have healing in your life and guide you to the next step. With God all things are possible, if you believe.

RE: Advice ..

Hi Omda…Often when someone talks about their problem, they don't really want to talk about the details of it for different reasons…so you won't get the full accurate picture. People often give just the surface issue and not the root real issue to the problem, so giving advice to a surface problem won't solve the real issues hidden underneath.

For example, sometimes when frustrations are building up, the real root of the problem may be because the couple have stopped communicating on a deeper level. The reasons are many….the wife/ husband may feel a lack of appreciation, separation from family, a lack of support by either of the partners to what they need, etc.

I think perhaps it may be a good idea to just listen and not give any advice until you can get a better picture of what is really causing the issues between your friend and his wife. This is only just my opinion

RE: Just a general question...

Hi Terevr....I understand where you are coming from

Often when someone is working on their anger problem, it usually (not always), stems from a childhood incident or incidents that have built the anger over time.

Finding the triggers of anger can be helpful. For example, ask is it triggered by the "perception" of being controlled in one way or another? does it stem from insensitive words being spoken?

If you find the triggers, you can usually work on communicating with the person you love and finding a way to overcome them. For example, a loved one can say, "When you say these words to me, this is what it means to me"...the other person can reply by saying, "Actually when I say these words, it means a totally different perception to me"

So by communication what the words and actions mean to each of you and how you "perceive" them, you can constructively work on overcoming anger problems. Seeing a counsellor is also helpful as often a counsellor can find constructive ways to channel anger and improve communications between partners.

Good Luck Terevr...I wish you the best....don't give up on yourself and the person you love. Work through things until you get there

Virtual Coins?

LOL Catfoot

Virtual Coins?

Good point Zmountain ...I'm with ya there about banks

Virtual Coins?

Hi Ed haha yep true

Virtual Coins?

Hi Zmountain...yes I did hear about the hackers who attack it, and can see your point, but I am wondering isn't any computer or bank or government vulnerable to hacker attack?

Please don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating in any way the digital money, but just wondering about it

RE: NIGHT BLOG FROM SPAIN

Happy Birthday Fontinia

RE: I'm pregnant.

Pregnancy really suits you! You are glowing!

RE: Where is your ideal place to lose yourself?

RE: Where is your ideal place to lose yourself?

It must be so difficult for you Abagial. Tears of loss of a loved one....we wouldn't be human if we didn't cry! My deepest sympathies for your loss. A quote from an uplifting sermon I once heard, "All sunshine with no rain, makes a desert". May your tears water your spirit and bring you comfort and May his memory be Eternal!

RE: How do people in cyberspace visualise one another?

Thank you Abagail! Here is one for you

RE: How do people in cyberspace visualise one another?

LOL yes Quality over quantity...sorry about the typo. I'm the queen of typo, after file 13

RE: How do people in cyberspace visualise one another?

It would be nice if everyone could be trusted Abagail. But unfortunately, as you know, not everyone is at the same growth level. Those who have deeper growth find it difficult to be with those who have surface growth.

Occasionally, someone from deeper growth can bring someone from the surface to the same growth level. But it only happens if they have common interests. As you said, those who can truly be our friend/friends are few because not everyone is able to appreciate the hidden treasure that is within you. But do not loose heart, a few is better than many....quantity over quality

RE: How do people in cyberspace visualise one another?

Yes I understand what you mean Abagail! One can assess another person to a degree. Some people like yourself have very good insight to what another person is about from their interaction with others. What I call, the inner eye, that can see beyond the surface layers. But not all have this ability and that is why they are surprised when they see them face to face

RE: How do people in cyberspace visualise one another?

Great Blog Abagail as always.

No one can really know the depth of another person from the surface. After all, to every person there are multiple layers....some have few layers while others have many deep layers. It is equally sad that some choose to judge others based on the surface of the person. But having said that, we all fall in this same weakness of judging others on the surface one time or another. I think as you say it is always good to keep in mind that one cannot know another person 100% just from one-way screen impression. Yet I believe that one can have an idea whether another person would have similar interest from overall interaction on the internet.

RE: Advice for the lonely

Hi Lee,

I'm so sorry to hear that He has been distant with you. In my opinion, when a person doesn't allow you inside his inner circle and has been distant after knowing him for few months, it usually isn't a good sign.

As Ed has said..the best thing is to talk to him about it, but if the person you are going out with won't give you concrete answers or you feel unsatisfied by what he says, then the decision becomes yours as to what do you want to do.

If you are worried about how you will cope with loneliness without him in your life, know that you are valuable and a treasure. You have the ability and the strength to expand your horizons and be with a person who will truly recognise this treasure in you!

RE: Advice for the lonely

Hi Lee,

It's very hard to give the right advise without knowing more details....for example, when you say he is home 7-9 days, is that in a month? so 7-9 days per month or is that in a fortnight?

Is he working this way because of financial pressures or is it his lifestyle?

No you aren't being silly and loneliness can be very tough especially if you don't see the person you love very much.

RE: A Blog Of A Different Kind.

Thank you for sharing this.....every day is something to be treasured with our loved ones

RE: Gifts!

Hi Zweet...so good to always see your blogs. To give Gifts are always tricky for me As to receiving, if there is a gift that wasn't my style, recycling it usually works for me (That is giving it to someone who may need it

RE: I'm no good with women

Here is some food for thought

"Intense love does not measure, it just gives......Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies." (Mother Teresa)

RE: People come and go here

Lachi and everyone....I'm always still here! Hugs

RE: good bye

Hi Terbear......there is no amount of words to express how much we would miss you!!!!! I feel deeply for what you are going through...there is no amount of words that can express how much you have been going through.

May the Lord give you strength and uplift you!!! He is with you always till the end!

"Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you. For I am the Lord your God, The Holy One of Israel, your Savior" (Isaiah 43: 1-3)

If you ever need support Terbear....we are here for you! You are never alone!

RE: happy

Happy New Year John....May the Lord you empower you with his strength and Love!

RE: Reflections

Happy New Year Terbear.......May you go from one great thing into another and enjoy happy times ahead!

RE: somebody like me

Good Luck Living!

RE: Allo allo

Have fun Tangerino and Morgen Hope you both have a wonderful time!

RE: you have an emergency

very true John....the Psalms are powerful prayers

RE: Rowdy

It must be tough for you Ever59 and Rowdy.....but both of you are doing a great job facing tough situations. Rowdy, the Lord is with you each moment, through each challenge and in every situation. Keep holding to the Lord's Hands because you are safe in his arms!

RE: If...

Hi Honeybzz.....daydreaming of love is more powerful because money can never fill the emptiness and can never fill the loneliness.

Sharing with you a daydream of love