@coffee, This is very true ....communication has become something which is based mostly on facts, information and data rather than consideration and is void for the most part of any emotional connection. Just one of the down sides of the internet.
I would like to add that we've all done things and said things in the past that have contributed to deterioration of past relationships which is why I think its a good thing to discuss these things openly and yet in a respectful manner. Though you may still have some unresolved anger and resentment giving into these feelings will not result in a better understanding of interpersonal relationships so...lets keep it civil shall we?
I treated my ex husband very well, had a home cooked romantic dinner every night ready for him when he got home. I would massage his feet and treated him like a king. My kids were little , I would make sure everything was perfect because I knew that he worked hard. There were times that he would not get home till midnight or two in the morning ....drunk. I remember once he lifted the roasted chicken and potatoes dinner that I made and asked me "what is this?" I said "chicken and potatoes" he then gave me a crazed look and threw it on the floor...then went to bed. I cried all night and never made dinner again after that....never.
I'm reading a lot of comments from the guys about women wanting the guy to read their minds and it is a legitimate point...in fact I have been in relationships where the guy told me this and my thought was like many other women: "if I have to tell you than it doesn't count" for example: I like a guy to remember our anniversary and make it special like a candle light dinner for two or even a nice card, maybe flowers......doesn't have to be fancy or expensive , just thoughtful BUT if I have to tell him to do this , to me it looses meaning.
The best advice that I could give in this case is if in fact she is engaged to be married to the other guy then there probably is little chance anyway but if they have not set a date to be married and its more like a boyfriend / girlfriend type of relationship I would try to get to know her better just as a friend and then find out if she is happy with the guy she is with.
OK thats it!
willem,See how my advice pays off...you already have women after you for your chocolate ...no need to thank me