Belle, I agree! But say you had absolutely no choice in the matter and were forced to choose?
Though I think both are really difficult situations I would prefer to be loved though I may not feel the same way ....nothing is worse than loving someone who does not love you back I think.
It would be nice eventually to customize "pampering" to the individual's likes and needs and I'm sure many people do this as the relationship progresses but the questions here is ....
are you ok with the other person's needs and expectations?
For example my ex bf enjoyed it when the woman manicured his nails, I didn't want to do this for him and thought it was a dumb and vain request
If you are getting nothing but text messaging chances are he is either just playing and not serious or he is still unsure and texting with more than one woman to see which he likes best....if any.
sherwood, I applaud you for that and as far as so many guys doing this I have found that actions speak louder than words.
inthemind, True that common courtesy is a good idea for both men and women when it comes to dating though I think that there are certain things which some men would feel uncomfortable with such as me holding his coat for him (would be kind a weird) or just my opinion that me sending flowers to a man unless his mom is sick or something would be strange.....thats just my feeling on it not judging anyone who may feel differently.
I think most men would enjoy different type of pampering from a woman like a nice long back massage or acknowledging his abilities and appreciating him as a man. I think men love being appreciated by a woman more than anything
BTW before you guys start forming mad , angry crowds carrying torches ....we are by no means "male bashing" we are simply stating what our experiences have been while at the same time acknowledging and taking into consideration the frustrations and experiences of others.
So lets make this clear that there are nice people out there both men and women and of course as a woman I will talk about men just as if you are a man you will most probably be talking about your experiences with women be they good or bad..
I will try to get some sleep now. It is 3am here in MI and Swiss you are up too? we gotta quit that coffee
This may sound kind of crazy but me personally , I am a bit turned on by the "old school" kind of guy. Can't explain why but when a guy knows how to treat me like a lady and I feel that there is a difference not just physically (obviously) but also socially and romantically our roles are a bit different this makes me feel more "feminine so to speak.
I do not judge anyone who has a different view point or preference...this is just mine....the guy brings the flowers, the man asks me out and if he opens the door and takes my coat I am even more impressed not because I can't do it for myself but because I feel that he is being so attentive and considerate
Us moms will always be seen as "selfish" to a certain degree by some people if we do not let ourselves go and start looking like mother Hubbard and all worn and ragged ....tell em to take a hike and taek care of youself .
How can you be there for anyone else unless you take care of your own needs?
zahra I anojoy making a lot of money...thats the bottom line for me expecially since I am a single mom. I can enjoy and conform to just about anything that will pay me well (and thats legal)
Bitter Sweet Love Game
virgo,Ok then....you don't need a house maid. Thats good.