I'm not looking for the same kind of relationship in my forties compared to what I was looking in my twenties.
Life, circumstances, preferences etc. change.
I also found that it is different and difficult to start dating after being in a relationship for a long time - I hated it.
Know what you want, what you are looking for and try to find someone looking for similar. Stick to your guts. I met someone in real life and wouldn't try to find someone through a dating website as I found that very few local guys were genuine. Dating sites have worked for others though, see what works best for you.
I wish more people would take charge of their lives and quit believing in doctors blindly. It is not in their interest for you to be well.
Unfortunately this is correct in a lot of cases.
My German GP would discuss diet or hand me instructions about stretches for my back which I prefer rather than getting a prescription for some pills (that aren't necessary in a lot of cases).
When I was ill, I read, changed my diet and worked with an integrative doctor - the hospital wasn't actually happy for me to do that.
It's my health, my responsibility and I prefer to educate myself to work on the root course instead of throwing in stuff to mask symptoms.
The SAD (standard American diet) is the reason for a lot of heart problems, cancer etc. A lot of these could simply be avoided by home cooking with healthy ingredients (no processed food full of sugar, unhealthy oils and E-numbers).
I live in Ireland - anyone knows everyone, so I just need to ask one of the locals and I'll get the story about someone.
For a relationship, I was never with someone where a background check would have been necessary. Having some cop-on, taking time to get to know someone did work for me so far.
I do think it's a good idea for people that don't have good people judgement skills - some people always pick the wrong type of partners.
Because love isn't enough. You also have to be able to live together, communicate and share values/goals.
Love alone cannot conquer deep-rooted incompatibility
All of the above. Also, people change over the years. If people change in a way that less common ground is found, that will make it difficult.
Also looking around - not everyone marries because of love. Some marry for companionship, to be looked after, financial gain, biological clock or just because they think that they simply have to be married to conform to society.
I have seen that people that didn't marry for love still often stay together as long as they get what they want out of it, but I pity any kids growing up in an environment like that.
Not everyone is made for the forever/couple/family gig. It takes awareness or simply time to figure it out but thankfully there isn't pressure from society/family in most countries anymore and people can just do their thing.
I haven't seen a lot of my family for the last 1.5 years.
Hoping to be able to get on a plane around Christmas again - I hope to split the time around Christmas between my family in Germany and my partner in Ireland.
Hiya Faye, I would suggest to look into intermittent fasting and it's benefits (Valter Longo has written "The Longevity Diet" book on this topic).
Doing this myself and also regularly did a 5 day fast (eating once a day steamed cruciferous veg). Also the German "Heilfasten" with consuming limited amounts of veg juices or broth sounds interesting. I lost a lot of weight (unintentionally) but it worked well for me as I have food intolerances and changed to eating twice a day (leaving out breakfast with bread etc.)
They weren't perfect (parenting doesn't come with a manual) but in fairness to them, came pretty close - we had a good childhood. They were a good team, always there for us, always available to talk and good role models. They were both working together and despite being together all day, I can't recall fighting. I can remember coming home and the 2 of them listening to the radio and discussing politics etc. They always had something to talk about and they did things together or we all did as a family.
Rules were clear, not extreme and I can't remember being grounded or anything worse happening often. We also knew to respect boundaries. They never tried to "keep up with the Joneses" which I'm highly thankful for. There are more important things in life.
The idea of a dating site is to get to know a person prior to actually meeting. If you dislike someones political views or general comments, guess that tells you to avoid contact.
This is something that can be picked up in private mail. What was posted here was beyond general comments.
If you have money saved to spend, why not stay longer and travel around yourself? One week is a short time for a long flight and if there is an area you would like to see, hop on a plane and have a look.
Week people can be lead astray easier or are looking for someone to look after them and make decision for them. Often the people they turn to don't have their best interests at heart.
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RE: New Zealand to ban smoking
How many young people are smoking? When I'm out (which happens rarely I have to admit) it's not the 'ung ones that are smoking.Good luck trying to enforce that.