Richard_D Blog Comments (476)

RE: Trump it is

What Calypso said. The diagnosis is legitimate.

RE: Happiness

Thank you for your kind reply. Yes... it is a journey.

It is made more quickly when you listen to your experiences and find good teachers along the way.

Peace, joy and serenity.

RE: Happiness

Hi eturdua

Happiness is having a peaceful mind.

Gaining and maintaining a peaceful mind isn't easy, however.

Allowing our mind to be peaceful is important. To allow a time of calmness (and even boredom) in each day... to keep apart from hostility (including movies/TV)... to seek and nurture positive relationships... there are many lessons to be learned.

RE: What is worth fighting for?

@loulou

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Being able to feel rewarded because we know our effort was of value, though others may have not even noticed it...... Is this altruism?

I think of the question "What is your passion?". We each have our own experiences... events that we have been impacted by... an illness or tragic event involving someone close... or something that delights us and we want others to share in the delight. It's nice to be able to make a personal contribution... to enable someone's life to improve...

RE: It hit 97 farenheit in the shade here today

Soft-serve "twist"... my favorite is the simple chocolate and vanilla twist. Looks great Ken!

Note: GG - Do you have soft-serve ice cream there? The size is a bit misleading because it's whipped so less dense than 'hard' ice cream.

If I did the numbers right... 97 F is 36 C ... yeah, that's hot!

We were close to 90 F up here to the North... and now rain and thunderstorms coming tonight... Summer starts in a few days but I think this counts as 'Summer' weather.

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Miss Jean!

It's nice to see you here.

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Angel

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Okay ... I think the blog can be left to CS history now.

Thank you to everyone who participated!

I believe that deep/serious topics can be discussed as long as we keep our spirits light and welcoming. We discussed some serious things here... and I think we did well in keeping our words supportive and encouraging.

Thank you.

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Miss Calleis!

Your comment from Friday morning... (I told you, I'd get here eventually )

You seem to have a well-informed outlook. ... open-minded but quite aware of what views could enhance your life and those that might be detrimental.

I wonder about the friends we haven't talked about this subject with. Is it because serious topics aren't part of the relationship or because it isn't comfortable for us (or for them) to talk about?

Rehearsal went well.

RE: To all native english speaking, please advice

Hello, Miss Sara.

As you probably know, there is a difference between spoken English and written English. My writing style on CS is closer to the way I speak than the way correct English should be written.

It is a little challenging. Some may be native English speakers but weren't good students so don't have good language skills. Some allow themselves to be lazy in order to type more quickly. Some, like myself, are aware of correct use (mostly ) but choose to write in a more conversational manner... using pauses (I like "..." for this)... and partial sentences. Often, in a conversation, an incomplete sentence is used... with the rest of the sentence being implied (so it doesn't need to be spoken).

There are several here who are like yourself, writers or teachers of language ... people who are aware of correct structure ... I try to keep that in mind. I also try to think about all those who are non-native English speakers, like yourself. I don't want to show a bad example but I also try to focus more on communicating clearly than communicating correctly.

I write e-mail for work in a similar style. I find it works well.

I agree with your thought... "messy writing is a reflection of a messy way of thinking". I think our communication style reflects the way we think... it also provides information about our personality.

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<< a very blessed guy ... found his Angel

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(going to rehearsal now ... will attempt to catch up later ... thank you everyone! )

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socrates

Thank you for a Biblical reference!

If we make the religion generic ... and ask the question ... Should a person of a certain religious outlook be married to someone with a different religious outlook?

Note: Atheism is also an outlook in this case.

From a practical standpoint, it would seem that someone who shares the culture of our religion would be more compatible and we would be similar on many of the core questions in life.

To encourage someone to marry only those with a similar outlook is wise... but I don't think this is an absolute instruction.

Belief, by it's nature, contains imperfection and uncertainty. So I don't think believer and unbeliever are absolutes.

very interesting thoughts ........ thank you ....

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GG and Angel ... Well, Miss GG ... truth is ... I can drive to see Angel ... to Chicago, then a left turn ... To come to Ireland ... my tires would get wet ... and the car probably doesn't float ... and if I get out to walk ...

Angel ... If you'll have me...

Fly ... If you'll have....... Oops! ... Um ... Good day

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Greetings, Mr FLY

When meeting someone... their religion does not mean anything ...

I like this outlook.

I always wonder about their outlook though... the things that occupy their mind... I think their religious outlook tells us something, perhaps just as their heritage/culture would...

I suspect those who know you; like you... you seem like a friendly and outgoing person... someone whose handshake comes with eye contact and a smile.

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Glatlol

#1 for you.

Religions do tend to dictate things don't they? "If you want to be in our club, you're going to need to learn the rules..."

I have seen some churches (Unitarian Universalist comes to mind) that are very accepting ... they do presume that we are spiritual beings and that there is something greater out there ... but they don't presume to tell us what to do or how to live. (I'm not an expert on this church, but this is my impression)

It is nice to be with a group whose primary purpose is to encourage each other...

I think it's interesting... the organizations that develop ... perhaps for atheists there should simply be a "Club of Encouragement" ... something that can offer the social benefits without building it around a religious outlook ...

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Minerva

<< But, I've traveled so far!

Spiritual ... all outlooks appreciated ... Earthling ... Sounds like fair list to me.

Compatible with you ... also sounds fair ...

(Open-minded ... should there be limits to this? Some have them... and perhaps they are right... at least in part... perhaps a topic for another blog )

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Wallops1964 ... Hello!

Firmly LDS ... Have non-LDS friends shared their viewpoints?

Conversations can be challenging, since many feel compelled to complete the discussion with someone being right and someone being wrong.

I like the conversation though... no conclusions are needed ... "I think this way and this is why" ... I always like to hear a statement like this and may simply say "that's interesting" or "tell me more".

Your outlook... finding value in all... very

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Angel - You accept??!!??

Okay... but we're not raising the children #3 ... nope ... even the dog and cat ... well, perhaps when they are young ... but as they get older, like age 6 or 7 ... we'll show them this blog and allow them to make their own choices.

If this is going to work... I need you to agree...

or ... ... okay, nevermind.

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Zeurich

2+3 ... Buddhist and Catholic ... Is this possible?

The Catholic religion is prominent here so I have a good understanding of it. Buddhism isn't as common so my knowledge is limited.

Catholicism is monotheistic (there is 1 God) ... and I think, in Buddhism, there is only nature (or something like this) ... and no god.

Can you help me understand this better?

RE: Death, life, light baggage.

Hi Sara,

Simple is good ... focus on the present is good ... you know these things.

Yes, each time we are reminded that our time is brief ... when someone just like us is no longer here ... many thoughts come to us.

Living light ... I think about any burdens I might leave behind ... things to clean up ... where the important papers are ...

Some quiet reflection is good... and some adjustments... and a chance to welcome tomorrow knowing that not everyone will.

Shalom.

EE9 - Joy and Peace

Calleis!

Good morning

Really nice insight ... I need to leave for a couple of hours ... will return here when I get back home.

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Hi Calleis

It's late at night for you ... but still good thoughts!

Being in control of our own Emotional Energy while helping others learn to do this too ... that's my hope ... and I like the word you chose ... magic

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Hi Mr James

Our plans are a secret ... shhh ...

We confuse each other a bit... at least sometimes I don't quite get her... but Angel's rather fun and cool, don't you think?

We tease each other some...

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Angel!

I'm on my way!!! ...

No wait...

Where's that other button?

Here... I think this is the one...

Oops... not it... trying again..

That's better... I'm okay now... I think... and um ... er... uh ... nice to see you too.

(Good morning Angel ... sunny and clear over here today ... hope your Saturday is off to a good start)

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GG -

Very astute ("perceptive", for those who don't know this word).

You picked up on something pivotal ... in what Calleis said ... When to engage and when not to ... sometimes what we feel is an attack on us is just someone in trouble ... if we can be mature enough to not respond with our own attack, we might be able to help them.

(Another example of the wisdom behind "turn the other cheek")

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Hi Calleis

You reminded me of another thought.

> How do we behave when we don't get what we want from others?

It's interesting to learn this about someone. When they don't get what they want... do they feel frustration? ... how do they express this? ... with anger? ... with questions? ... calmly or with emotion?

Your point about youths ... adolescents ... often misunderstood and still learning how to express themselves ... how to use words ... how to know what someone else needs to hear from them ... how to listen. Often they get upset because communication doesn't work as well as they need it to.

btw ... I only play one instrument well ... but I did take piano lessons as a child for a short time ... and when you're around instrumental music long enough you begin to learn how all of them work ... so trombone leads to trumpet and euphonium and tuba ... and some knowledge of clarinet and flute and violin, cello, bass ... but no real skills on anything beyond the brass instruments.

EE8 - Mean to Me

Some people are rude, with everyone, all the time.

Some people are worn out and lash out at everything that bothers them or might bother them.

Some people have hormone or other imbalance the makes them moody.

Some people are going through a tough time in their lives.

Some people feel weak and insecure and use bad behavior to chase people away so their weakness doesn't show.

Some people are in pain, mental or physical, and see other people as an additional burden.

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If we care about what everyone thinks. If we feel responsible for each person's mood. If we need each person around us to be happy and content in order to be happy and content ourselves...

We're in trouble.

Often, what we feel is meanness directed at us doesn't have anything to do with us.......

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Angel - That's the truth...

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Hi Angel

I answered after your first 2 comments ... where you mentioned there weren't any problems like this ... and then that something just happened.

Each comment starting with

Then, it appears that you and Val don't get along very well ...

When I'm confused, I don't talk... usually some understanding will come to me later, so I wait for this...

I'm still confused... the blog is about everyone ... we all have these experiences ... we all have been on both sides ...