Canday Blog Comments (16)

Help! How do Men think?

iotaoo, ‘men are crazy’ interesting input and ‘women are inclined’ most definitely most of us are!

Help! How do Men think?

KNenagh, that is an interesting point about ‘validation’. Didn’t see it from that perspective before
but you are absolutely right. I recently indicated to a very attractive man that I’m more of a
traditional type of lady. He thought I didn’t find him attractive because I didn’t allow him to play
in my ‘rose garden’ after eight hours! Needless to say, he moved on to another ‘rose garden’.

What I do find is, the more you ignore them the more the chase after you. Unfortunately, that is outside of my character, I like being polite. When I no longer wish to communicate, it really means I no longer want to talk to you. (not ignoring to get attention)

Summary: listen to them, have fun and ‘validate’, so that someone is there through the lightning flashes.

Help! How do Men think?

miclee, I’ve been doing it all wrong! I couldn’t tell when last I did damsel-in-distress. I need to take notes from your daughter. (I have my paper and pen ready to write)

I’m usually very direct and that seems to scare men away. So, what you are saying is that men need to feel the need to protect as all times.

No more changing my own tyres! By the way, what are tyres? Damsel-in-distress mode here I come

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iotaoo, I do agree that a lot of men just seek “the physical enjoyment’ life has to offer’’, however
isn’t possible to mix it up a bit. i.e. “enjoyment plus deeper need” I don’t believe in a fairytale knight
and shinning amour, because there is no perfect being on this planet. I strongly believe that common interests and goals do/should play a factor in a proper connection.

Scarcity, maybe you are right who knows ;-)

Help! How do Men think?

Johnny Sparton, rational vs emotional. That is two different frequencies :D
The only way to understand each other is to learn from each other and meet in the middle
Not sure if that was a rational or an emotional answer

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Solamente, my question was not specific to a category, because a man is not just
about relationships. And I believe how a person general think is a pattern of how they
similarly behave towards many aspects of their lives. Each response is different and it reflects
how men think in different ways…. I’m enjoying reading this :-)

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Ken, I see you are an avid reader :-)

Unfortunately, I have a summarized version of those books of the Bible and
“Men are from …. Women are from…” Guilty as charge, haven’t read. Now, you see my dilemma :-)
I must say though, I prefer knowledge in a more interactive setting :-) (straight from the source)

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Thank you Scouse! I'm looking forward to the interesting times ahead

Help! How do Men think?

Scouse, I cannot pin point the exact origin of this metaphor. But wouldn't you say it is quite appropriate? By the way, it's great to know you love roses. I'd would say, I'm more of a fruit person

Help! How do Men think?

Devovix, oh dear, that was a joke wasn't it. I've got to relax more.

So, what have I learnt so far...

1. All men are different (watch their actions not their words)
2. To listen to them is to understand
3. They have interesting sense of humours

Wishing to add more points to the list above

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Devovix, I'd to respond to your comments about breaking up a family? Who is advocating that? I'm very curious to know

Help! How do Men think?

Devovix, you didn't understand fully what I was saying :-) I was saying, being single for the rest of my life isn't something I wish for or want. However, women who make such a decision should be applauded, because it is not an easy this to do. Definitely not! Unequivically not!

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Nozeal, thank heavens I'm not alone in this... How about those lizards, yuck. I haven't seen one in ages (only when I travel) and I must say I'm not missing them at all.

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Scouse, I believe I'm a good listener. The thing is I'm very direct and to the point. For example, you said, a picture would be nice. True, it would be but I deliberately chose not to upload a photo. Whenever I upload a photo, most men wish mostly to speak about 'my garden rose' and not to me as a person.

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Lukeon, yes, very pent up, however I didn't want to dramatize it too much

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Theresa, thanks for commenting.

Yes, indeed they are all different. I just wish I had a book with guides on how each one differs

You brought up an interesting point ''they bond just as we do" and not too sure about that. Male and female bond slight different don't you think? I'm not an expert on male bonding, maybe I should be more keen in finding out.

As to paying attention to action and not words, there are a few Oscar winners among men.