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RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

Usha- Best Wishes?

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

Jeesh, Molly ever think of being a pre-marital counselor.
Ohhh, that's right you do not want to be married.
You have solved both sides of the coin.
No marriage- No Counselors needed.
Do you still get "the trappings"?


There you go Johnny solved.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

Johnny I knew you would ask what ASMR was.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

"Really talking to each other in a loving, respectful, way?"
What woman wouldn't be charmed by that?
Have you seen ASMR?
Very soothing but rarely a man.
I should google it.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

They probably text, all the talking, is
left for the wifes.I was surprised she let him go to an office for counseling.

I read somewhere the worst way to communicate with a man
is non-verbal. ->
Yet they made the emoji.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

"probably an incompatibility issue, and also that they do not probably love each other, and maybe not even like each other."
I might need to cheer myself up on another blog.

@Robert
I noticed you wrote you don't cook often.Would a "partner " change that?
( Molly, I didn't write wifey).
You have a Confirmed Bachelor degree from the 7 Eleven and could probably write an article on this for a journal.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

"They are just staying married because they have not even considered the issues, just doing the same thing day in day out unthinkingly."

Without counseling or Walmart venting it gets pretty dire there then?

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

Molly
I heard it on a radio program I think.
After inadvertantly watching a few public spectacles in a Walmart no one would bother going to the public commons.

RE: interesting read in Psychology Today

I would not take issue with a magazine article, let alone a pyschology magazine.
In the States we experience our relationships a bit differently than
small countries and their traditions.

I can not imagine this but I heard about one such tradition where the married couple must take the issue out into the public commons and present their grievances with each other.The town participates in their " counseling".
bet they only do that once.

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

@ A
(whom I've christened Filip)



Good Night. ??

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

Her, being E.J.Lamprey

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

You really must read her books one day.You may very well be a character in one.

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

BTW my mailbox has been blowing up with men that claim it is them.

Perhaps at least one might reveal himself here and solve this quandry.


Let me add another admirable trait:
Guide

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

My best wishes to the perfect CS match.

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

Tips: She is ready,willing and able.
He has a climbing group but does not
exclude her in his dreams.This idea is the bigger part of his passion he is willing to share with her as well.
They were successfully living
with their priorities in order and this
would be an ideal way to laugh at
the demands and enjoy the rewards
together.Equals no matter how it goes.

RE: Perfect match - but which one?

Mr.A IS a perfect man!
Truly, in my humble opinion
he has both capacities of
intellect and stamina, intent
on including her in an adventure
of their lifetime.
More memories to solidify their
love once they pass that mark.
These comrades know how to
motivate each other and share
with gentle care the wounds and
aches they knew their life is bound
to encounter.
Sigh.

If only....

RE: Happy Valentine's Day

we cool like that

RE: HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

59th ladies...keep it going.

RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

I am presently getting out of my car to attend a wake.Adieu.
( I will say nothing, poignant or otherwise.God help me.)

RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

Thank you "Spirit Button" for simplifying my attempt.

A happy man is too satisfied with the present to dwell too much on the future. ~ Albert Einstein

Worrying about future is a symptom of a miserable present, in which we cannot find peace or fulfillment. A happy person lives in the moment, free from the ties of the past or those of the future.

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RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

WTH
See what I mean.Only I would find a link to an Einstein quote that is longer than his equations, to then look twice to make sure it was him and not Mark Twain.
It was something, yada yada ...big brainy.

RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

Poignancy is not one of my strengths.

RE: I Wonder What I’m Looking For

"Long summer walks on moonlit beaches, romantic candlelit dinners or just sitting under the stars chatting are some of the things I don't like, although I would be just as miserable spending a cosy night in front of the telly. In fact, most normal things that people like doing only seem to get on my nerves."


I do not give advice to people I know very well on these types of matters, so here I sit.
Don't we constantly amaze ourselves at our own inabilities?

RE: exploitation

At CS blogland people are always willing to give their two cents.
Johnny, there is my generousity
for the week.Thank you for yours.
Back to chores.

RE: exploitation

If you" tear into someone"
you never know what you'll find.
Did Forrest Gump say that?

RE: exploitation

Any acts that can honor and cherish, instead of exploit.We can foster those.
Love begets love, creation.
Selfishness is destruction.

RE: exploitation

Oops I duplicated my comment, I meant to insert this fact.It was not profits but inheritance that financed building a second store after both parents passed from cancer.

Daears,I understand both your points about our Legacy and the obligation,
regardless of the human condition.
The government can not instill our love or gratitude.

RE: exploitation

I don't want to convey life depicted in the Waltons or Little House on the Prairie and tales of barn raisings but Americans did have to pull themselves up by the bootstraps after the Depression.You know what I mean.People inspire people to keep trying.( to give their families better than they had.)Thanks Johnny.