I know there's a lot of romance to that era and I miss it too. (I was born in 1951). But there's some dark sides to that rat pack mentality too. I can remember that left handed drink, right handed cigarette very well. There was also a machismo that was part of the package. I'm not suggesting that it always played out in real life, but it was embraced in the movies and entered some real lives. In fact, I recently saw a movie and was knocked off my chair to see Cary Grant wallop some actress lady in a boat or convertible. (I can't recall which). But since I grew up in that era, I now realize that subconsciously that mentality was in some ways spawned and absorbed, giving the wrong signals to both men and women. No wonder we're conflicted. But I just LOVE the shoes and dresses of the era. I actually feel nostalgia for the early 1900s.
I think it works as well as any means of getting together. The problem is that it's more like a launch pad. Very often the shuttle never takes off. There can be a lot of wasted time moving back and forth between nonsense. I've been roaming a variety of sites for almost 3 years. I've met many during that time. You have to view them mostly as 'blind dates' even when there's an available pic. I've had a few circumstances that were reasonably long term. But it's like everything else - after meeting you have to hook up ; after hooking up - you have to stay the course. I find as I get older it takes more to make the connection and even longer to find something to hook up to. But you have to be in it to win it. I'd say if you're lucky to have a network of gal pals to go out with that MIGHT be a better option. If you're willing to pass time than this is valid. As time goes on you'll be able to read into who's a player or a time waster and who's for real. AND EVEN THEN - it's a virtual world, so you shouldn't be surprised if he FLIES away over nite. Peple don't exactly take each other SO seriously out here. I believe they should be as considerate as they would be face to face. GOOD LUCK
Sometimes I think it's because we think differently from men. I recently had this experience of something similar. It was very disheartening. It's not like a LOT of time had pased with us as a couple. But why make ANY time pass. Maybe somebody should write a book to get men and women on the same page. But , you seem to have a good way about you and sooner or later the magic will happen. Stay Warm
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RE: What happened to the good old days??
I know there's a lot of romance to that era and I miss it too. (I was born in 1951). But there's some dark sides to that rat pack mentality too. I can remember that left handed drink, right handed cigarette very well. There was also a machismo that was part of the package. I'm not suggesting that it always played out in real life, but it was embraced in the movies and entered some real lives. In fact, I recently saw a movie and was knocked off my chair to see Cary Grant wallop some actress lady in a boat or convertible. (I can't recall which). But since I grew up in that era, I now realize that subconsciously that mentality was in some ways spawned and absorbed, giving the wrong signals to both men and women. No wonder we're conflicted. But I just LOVE the shoes and dresses of the era. I actually feel nostalgia for the early 1900s.