I am sure it's quite realistic to stay single for another year (not that easy to find someone truly compatible), but out of fear of rejection? Online? Does anyone really care if they get a response to their message or flower?
Yes, I too will be curious to see if friendship can actually develop. "Dating" (meeting people with a relationship in mind) is a bit too intense for me, I want it easy and relaxed now and not feel like I owe anyone anything.
Angeleyes That sounds really good, but you know what - don't assume anything at this point... Just let everything develop SLOWLY.... VERY SLOWLY.... there's no rush, even if you're tired of waiting... Wise men also say - let a man disappoint you before you proclaim you think he's the one... And see what happens then... Wishing you the best of luck though, it sounds very nice :)
I don't know about human rights and all, but personally, I get TERRIBLE headaches from inhaling someone's cigarette smoke... I get a splitting headache and am totally wiped out for the rest of the day, unable to do anything (not even sleeping). Makes nice walks through the parks and squares of the city very risky for me.
"I still dont have any ideas to handle the relationship better..."
Well, you could just start learning while you're waiting? You gonna need it anyway... Just like people study to become surgeons or teachers, it would be wise to devote at least SOME time to study about relationships - your role, his role, your way of thinking and feeling, his way of thinking and feeling, and how it all comes together... It comes naturally to some people, but some could really benefit from a wise book or talking to someone who is in a happy and "proven" (so to say, even by many years) relationship already....
"if a guy wants to REALLY make something happen, then he will make it happen"
Yes, yes, yes and YES. 100% so.
However I understand that it's not him who is not wanting or able to meet up. A brief Xmas meeting would not help anything anyway, the illusion (if it is an illusion) could go on a fair bit longer. (from personal experience)
Anyway I believe everyone is entitled to get burned or learn from their own mistakes. After all the worst thing would be wasted 3 years (and it's not THAT easy to just find someone new, plus there would be some recovery time involved for sure so it could drag out into 5-6 years easily). Not sure I would want to sacrifice that much out of my life now, waiting for someone who will MAYBE come into my life after some time.
But, it depends. Maybe Moonlove and her boyfriend are so compatible that it's worth the wait and when they meet everything will be just super.
Good luck anyway, but I do recognize myself at 21 (and even later) and a supposedly one-in-a-lifetime chance with a very special person (who, upon meeting up and closer inspection turned out to be not what I had wanted AT ALL, even though he still was and is a great person).
First of all, you do seem like a man with a truly great heart.
Secondly, what choice has any of us got? Giving up completely and becoming a monk wouldn't work if we still have those earthly desires in the back of our mind.
Thirdly, what's left, it seems, is 1) finding a channel to direct your energy and goodness into, like volunteering, helping etc etc., 2) concentrating even more on finding the One, possibly attending some lectures etc. to learn how to make a relationship work, how to raise kids, etc etc. (just for the future).
I loved it! Heck, I even tried out the suggestion and said "yes" when my Mom invited me (for the n'th time!) to attend their belly-dance class, and I got myself a whole new hobby!
It's hard to believe that his memorial service is to start in less than an hour. I cannot say that's all I have been thinking about for the past week, but EVERY time I overhear his songs on the radio, it makes me want to cry. It's still so hard to believe that he is gone.
It's hard to say whether you're that bad or not that bad! Your profile only has 5 lines, and they are: my name is Joe, just looking for the one that makes me feel like i'm on top of the world. Don't really have a type but i love red heads. Other than that just gotta make me happy, and that's pretty easy. Ok, since I'm not a red-head, I better not bother at all. If I WERE a red-head (which, supposedly, is not even that hard to achieve), I'd start thinking: here's this guy who I'd have the chance to make feel better about himself and preferably make him happy. Now, I have a full-time job, several serious hobbies and some other duties and responsibilities I've taken on. So what's in it all for me?
Yes, it does make you wonder, doesn't it! My favourite part is "I'm looking for...", but then I realized that no matter how detailed a description I give, there are still going to be people that just can't perceive what I have meant to say. The incompatible ones, obviously. So I'm now trying a new approach - listing who I definitely DON'T want to meet, although in my mind I don't forget imagining who I WANT to have by my side.
I don't have any exact limits in my mind as to the age range - there are other, more important (to me) criteria for us to be a match. The age range on my profile is just sort of reasonable/traditional, but it's not carved in stone by any means.
RE: Can a Man and a Woman?
Very, VERY good points, girl!!!