The only guarantee about our lives is that they will end. The fortunate deserve their fates no more than the most wretched and slighted among us. Perhaps you are mated, fated to be alone. Maybe you don't have a soul. Maybe the notion that there is someone for everyone is sweet sounding poison. Maybe, all the above and more, put more fear and pressure on the process than many people can stand.
If we lead with our fear and anxiety, we transmit that to others and they learn that they would rather not be around that and avoid the situation, conversation, etc.
If we lead with what makes us happy, energized, excited, we transmit that too and people look for that, to be around that. Our passion for life can generate passion for our company. Turn to and follow your own light.
It takes a great deal of faith to believe that anyone that can read English text has not heard of this book and its claims. Only a tiny bit more to believe it is all the truth.
Most every out group has been enslaved by one group or another in history. It was never a racial justification all one needed to be was an enemy people. One group enslaving the next group "over yonder" even though you or I or a gene test could not tell the difference between them.
Maybe it would be and maybe it would be more familiar than generally imagined. If you have seen one meat sack in fatigues and a flight suit I bet they look more and more alike all the time.
Good points and understood. I have had poly feelings since well before i understood the option existed. I have lived as a polyamorous person for the last 8 years and as you have indicated, have had but few partners in that time, not for the lack of the willing but for the lack of appropriateness of potential partners themselves. Of the first two partners i met under the open status of polyamory, the first maintained the relationship for 8 months. The second i have been with for nearly 8 years. If there is such a thing as "true" polyamory I think it is something one is largely born to and is definitely not for everyone. I hope you have had the very best of good fortune in all your relations. :)
Personally I prefer to be formally sent off, but then I never retaliate for having been rejected. I have seen the same sort of sour grapes behavior with my peers in RT from time to time. I have never understood it.
I think it is kinder to respond but it does entail the risk of retaliatory abuse. I guess it does explain why many do not respond, when they have that to expect.
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The only guarantee about our lives is that they will end.The fortunate deserve their fates no more than the most wretched and slighted among us.
Perhaps you are mated, fated to be alone.
Maybe you don't have a soul.
Maybe the notion that there is someone for everyone is sweet sounding poison.
Maybe, all the above and more, put more fear and pressure on the process than many people can stand.
If we lead with our fear and anxiety, we transmit that to others and they learn that they would rather not be around that and avoid the situation, conversation, etc.
If we lead with what makes us happy, energized, excited, we transmit that too and people look for that, to be around that.
Our passion for life can generate passion for our company.
Turn to and follow your own light.