SA, I do remember you relating this to me early last year (during my poll on dating outside of one's race), and I definitely understand your position.
As for the mix of "white women with black men", that has been more accepted than 'white men with black women' for centuries. I believe that it's because of the patriarchal nature of many societies, allowing men that privilege over women, which is in harmony with the ever-present "double standard". smh...
Just as I prefer the company of men, more than that of women, I know that there are men who prefer the company or women, more than men. Shawn mentioned 'sports' as being one of his favourite times to be amongst other me, and that makes sense to me.
But what about other times? Watching movies? Drinking at a bar? ......?
Thanks for sharing even more of the details, CW. It sometimes takes the supernatural to put us at ease and convince us to change, so maybe God used his love for and loss of his daughter to do just that. Either way, it sounds like he got just what was needed.
Your title is so very true, DL, but I don't believe that it's our 'needs', that causes our greed. It's our 'wants'. If our needs (food, clothing, water) are met, then our wants are what we aspire to fulfill. The trouble is, some of us ALWAYS want more than is enough, and go beyond reason to get what we want.
Occasionally… I desire the company of a gentleman, Someone mature and wise. A man who knows his own worth, But is also aware of mine.
A man who… Doesn’t feel the need to pretend he knows it all; He listens and reflects. The things we’d share would bring to bear Our mutual respect.
Kind and content, faithful and true, These would be some of his traits. Understanding, strong and brave too, Would certainly suffice as good gifts.
And what about his company in places of privacy, When there’s nobody else there but us? Well, just as a gentleman never kisses and tells, That’s not something a lady’d discuss.
That's a funny story, Chat. I could just imagine your mother's distress, especially since there was no 'pause and replay' buttons in those days. I guess the timer feature proved to be more of an inconvenience than otherwise expected.
Just because the article only mentioned 2 examples of his 'kindness', does not mean that only 2 benefitted. And you, how many have YOU consistently helped in this way over the last 10 years?
"The harder part is explaining that I could find those words comforting,confident and an implied promise we are able to allow one to be shouldering the hard issues and the other to focus on peace in order to remain united with both strengths.Neither would we want to micro manage or second guess each other.
If the final word is "please." I'm good with it."
Patty, I understand what you are saying, and I agree...to an extent. I, too, "could find those words comforting" if they had been said in a loving tone and with an intent to spare me from having to deal with "the hard issues". Regrettably, this was not the case. His very demeanor and tone was condescending, which caused mental and emotional distress.
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SA, I do remember you relating this to me early last year (during my poll on dating outside of one's race), and I definitely understand your position.As for the mix of "white women with black men", that has been more accepted than 'white men with black women' for centuries. I believe that it's because of the patriarchal nature of many societies, allowing men that privilege over women, which is in harmony with the ever-present "double standard". smh...