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It’s not only WHAT you say, but also HOW you say it…

For sure....

RE: The fun of youth.

Orzzz, I definitely enjoyed that snippet from your youth and glad you shared such fun.

RE: Dating a dog...

The Funniest Wildlife Photos of 2022

My 2 favorites are "talk to the fin" and "lemme see". Cute and funny, at the same time.

The Funniest Wildlife Photos of 2022

RE: Dating a dog...

Some women 'baby' their pets a bit too much, but maybe it's because they are the one's with an abnormal attachment and more 'separation anxiety' than their pet has.

I do 'baby' Sweetie (my dog) somewhat, but I also have boundaries with her. I wouldn't take her to work, but I'd certainly have a very hard time leaving her if she's ill. I wouldn't allow her to negatively affect my dating relationships, but if the person that I'm dating doesn't make an effort to be friendly towards her and accept her place in my life, then we would have to part ways.

I think that it would be wise for daters to have a discussion early on about a 'dating, with dog' scenario, so that they could manage that dynamic successfully.

RE: She.... and.... Him

I agree with this too, but see this list as being 'specific', and Teena's list as being 'general'.

RE: She.... and.... Him

"There are only three things women need in life:

1 her own nest(pad)
2a thick bank balance.
3 a man who loves her.

If a women.... doesnt
chase a man a little
she doesnt love him."

Teena, I agree with you wholeheartedly on this.
Johnny asked what else does a woman need to do besides chase after her man and spend his money, but I don't think that she needs to do much else. One - because she has her own, and Two - because men are the ones who like the chase.

Just knowing that she has his love usually motivates her to show her own...in multiple ways. Don't you agree?

RE: Don't become hate...

Getting over the hate/bitterness takes time, but is quite doable. Holding on to it only blocks you from giving and receiving love, which can negatively affect new relationships (only my opinion).

RE: If CS suddenly closed their site...

Now, that's an interesting 'what if'...

The Silent treatment.

RE: Ghosting

"Personally, I read every single profile that I contact. ...

So do I, as I actually WANT to know something about the person BEFORE making contact or responding fully when he contacts me.

This woman's remedy for depression is NOT for the lazy.

I admire her drive, and determination to keep busy in order to stave off depression. I could do well to have some more of that.

This woman's remedy for depression is NOT for the lazy.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Jac. I certainly agree with much of it.
However, based upon the following source (as an example), Depression does have the ability to cause a person to feel 'lazy' or un-motivated to pursue and complete tasks.
" Dr Tugnait says depression or anxiety can lead to feeling of lethargy and apathy. The expert says a person with low self-esteem is also at risk of feeling lazy all the time as they may believe they are not capable of accomplishing anything and may lack any sense of purpose.1 Jul 2022 (hindustantimes.com)

But then, this isn't a blog about whether persons dealing with depression are lazy, or not.

RE: Ghosting

I've been on CS for almost a year now, and have experienced the same things, so I agree with what you've said. I, too, have realized (and commented on it in one of my posts) that many men don't read my profile content BEFORE contacting me, then 'ghost' me shortly after, perhaps when they've read some/all of it and decided that I wasn't a match for them. I'm not sure how women's profiles are presented to men, but maybe it's pics only first and profile details after making contact?

Anyhoo, I have the blogs, forums, poets' corner, etc to keep me company in the meantime...

The Silent treatment.

"Silence vs. Silent Treatment
There are times in relationships when being silent is acceptable and even productive. For instance, a couple, or even just one partner, may take a thoughtful timeout from a heated argument to cool off or gather their thoughts. What distinguishes this silence from the silent treatment is that the timeout is mindful and there is an assumption or agreement that they will revisit the topic again later." (Verywellmind.com)


"The silent treatment should not be confused with taking time to cool down after heated or difficult exchange. Williams suggests that instead of reverting to the silent treatment, try ‘I can’t talk to you right now, but we can talk about it later.’ Nobody engages the silent treatment expecting it to damage the relationship, and that’s the danger." (heysigmund,com)


"Research has found that people who received the silent treatment experienced a threat to their needs of belonging, self-esteem, control, and meaningful existence.
This type of behavior reinforces the feeling that someone we care about wants nothing to do with us. It can feel as though you don’t exist. No matter what you try to do, you cannot reach the other person. On the contrary, there is absolutely nothing wrong with setting healthy boundaries in relationships and disagreements or sharing that you need to take a time out, break, or step away to calm down and reset. This demonstrates that you can recognize when your emotions are escalating and take the necessary steps to recover, which is a sign of emotional intelligence." (Choosingtherapy.com)


What do you think?

This woman's remedy for depression is NOT for the lazy.

For sure. You'd be too busy to be depressed.

The Silent treatment.

Thanks G.

Laughter and food...a great combination.

You're welcome, ExRed. Glad you enjoyed it.

Laughter and food...a great combination.

Chat, thanks, glad you though so. Happy New year to you too!!

What should a ‘new’ year mean…

What should a ‘new’ year mean…

"Sometimes I see
How the brave new world arrives
And I see how it thrives
In the ashes of our lives
Oh yes, man is a fool
And he thinks he'll be okay
Dragging on, feet of clay
Never knowing he's astray
Keeps on going anyway...
Happy new year, happy new year
May we all have our hopes, our will to try
If we don't we might as well lay down and die...
- ABBA

What should a ‘new’ year mean…

Thanks CW, best wishes to you too.

Just sending a little 'warmth' your way....

Good thinking.

It’s not only WHAT you say, but also HOW you say it…

Maybe, DL, but I believe that 'tone' and 'intent' are the determining factors in how well words are sent and received.

It’s not only WHAT you say, but also HOW you say it…

I, too, grew up hearing those words, FF, and I have learnt that they are wise words to live by. But he wasn't concerned with being 'nice' when he said what he did, and how he did it.

As for here, I definitely use "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all", as my guide, (often).

Thanks for sharing your opinion.

It’s not only WHAT you say, but also HOW you say it…

Well that's how I felt. That statement did a number on me; I couldn't understand the logic. In my mind, it meant that it didn't make sense to discuss anything. So it effectively 'shut me down', because it was hurtful.

As I said before, I wondered if it had been said with a different tone and intent, whether I would have felt the same? Couldn't those same words have had a different effect if said in a loving way?

RE: The Age

This response is for DL.

RE: The Age

You are right.

Change is unavoidable, and yet there are many who fear it or resent it. For some, there is comfort in doing and remaining the same. But, even so, not all change is good.
Age brings Change because our experiences over time allow for mental growth - knowledge and wisdom - which impacts how we 'see' and do things, as we get older.

It is the same with all of God's creations.

It’s not only WHAT you say, but also HOW you say it…

“It’s not so much what you say, as the manner in which you say it …” - (from a book entitled Poems That Touch The Heart)

“It’s not so much what you say
As the manner in which you say it;
It’s not so much the language you use
As the tone in which you convey it;

“Come here!” I sharply said,
And the child cowered and wept.
“Come here”, I said – He looked and smiled
And straight to my lap he crept.

Words may be mild and fair
And the tone may pierce like a dart;
Words may be soft as the summer air
But the tone may break my heart;

For words come from the mind
Grow by study and art –
But tone leaps from the inner self
Revealing the state of the heart.

Whether you know it or not,
Whether you mean or care,
Gentleness, kindness, love and hate,
Envy, anger, are there.

Then, would you quarrels avoid
And peace and love rejoice?
Keep anger not only out of your words –
Keep it out of your voice.”
~by Anisha Sipporah