In my last blog or forum a few weeks ago about the "thumbs downer behaviour", I said something to the effect that, CS will or may soon be asking for payment for user services.....now it 's happening
"As you explained, the OP can delete comments they dislike."
Chat: the OP posted something in the "jokes" section, 1 member posted a link about a man having died, because tons of cheese fell on him. My comment was somewhere along the lines like: that such a thing isn't a joke, but rather disrespectful and distasteful. My comment got deleted.
Grand it's almost like in "real life", you get many complaining, and talking about making a change, but when it's time for "action".....you stand alone, and or you're told that "you're too sensitive".
Dani: I don't let them deter me, as I wrote before, I usually "hang around" on a datingsite a short time...3 to 6 months the most, before deleting my profile and taking a break, sometimes starting over again, sometimes, never. CS has set a record according to my mailbox, I've been on here again since: 11 okt. 2022 vid 16:39 pm.
Fargo: I'm not "bemoaning the negative", just stating that it would be nice if we all could be a bit more civilised with eachother. How "low" can a person be, if you can't write a blog where it says "hi, long time no see, or how are you? or that a family member passed away" without getting 1 or lots of "thumbsdown"
We all have a reason for writing, commenting on blogs, and yes, the "thumbsdown" is all a part of it, but sometimes, the writings mean more for the reader and or writer, than just words... they can be inspiring, uplifting, educational or just put a smile on someones face.
I agree with you, french speakers are very arrogant, no matter which country. As a teenager, I once visited Martinique, at the airport the customs officer was rummaging through my luggage, I didn't understand anything he was saying, so he replied in English: "if you're coming to my country you have to speak the language".
Years later, I travelled to Belgium, I couldn't find the street I was looking for, so I asked a policeman at the corner, by then, I had learnt some french, but asked in english. His reply in french was "I don't know, and I don't care", I understood, told him "thank you, for being so unfriendly" in french. He looked surprised when I said that. Turns out the street I was looking for, was just behind him.
In the 80's, I traveled to Paris, on the train, I ordered a cheese sandwich in english, and was given 1 with ham and cheese. I protested in english, but the seller continued rambling on in french about tourists not speaking french. I continued in english, he in french, in the end, I had enough and told him in french that I didn't want to buy anything, as he was quite unfriendly.
I lived in a country where french is 1 of the languages, so I made it a rule to learn some french, especially the phrase for how to tell people they're unfriendly.
I would never send money or make gifts to someone I know only online, especially if I've been in contact with them for years. If they can't meet me in person, they can't get my money, and even after we've met in person, they still won't get my money.
Loneliness makes some people desperate, a friend of mine once told me he has and supports a girlfriend in Asia, but she also has other men, who do the same. I asked, how could he call her his girlfriend, knowing this, his reply was "she had to make a living somehow"
The conversation I had this morning with the 2 workmates, went quite different than I had expected.....civilised and respectful. 1 of them did most of the talking, whilst the other was quiet, and had a kind guilty look on him.
They wanted to know who had given me the information, and I said revealing such information isn't what I do, but that it was from lots of others in the team.
In the end they were sorry, thanked me for not confronting them before others in the team, and all was good. I didn't want to spoil the mood by asking for a cake, but there's still time before their ramadan, and that's when I'l ask them nicely to do so.
Farfo: Even if it was a present from management, you don't make a "field day" of it all for yourselves, but also leave some for others. As I wrote before, they've only been working with us for a few months. Everyone at work got a present from the municipality.
If I give or contribute to a present, I do it from the heart, otherwise I don't do it. That's why their actions pi$$es me off, and I have to talk to them about it, some of my workmates told me not to talk to them, but I have to.
Fargo: I left a Xmas card in the crate, thanking my workmates for another year of having a good work climate together. A few nights earlier, I told them that I would be leaving a present for everyone before Christmas, that's when they told me that they don't celebrate Christmas.
The night before I left it, 1 of them was working, and I told him it was for the whole team. He took some clementines before he went home.
I'm at the point where I don't know if I'll leave a present this year, or if I'll make it personal for each person, and not give them anything, but that's not how I am as a person..... to exclude them from the team.
Chat: first, I'll ask them to explain what they celebrate when it's ramadan, then I'll explain what Christmas is about for us christians, and that even though they don't celebrate Christmas, being selfish isn't something good, especially in this situation.
I've only known them a few months, and they took it upon themselves to have a feast with the present, and others I've known for almost 2 years, got nothing, and had to "watch" as they went around eating. A big "no go" in my books.
Fantaziya: Thanks, this is the first time for me, but they need to know otherwise they may continue doing it, and in the end create a bad working atmosphere (I may even cause that to, by talking to them, but it has to be done).
Yes, I know they may not listen to me because 1) I'm a woman and 2) I'm a christian. I'll try to have a calm conversion with them, but depending on their reaction, I may have to change it.
I however, have 2 backup plans, and the 3rd is also that I "went over" our supervisors and bosses head, and spoke to the 2nd "big" boss instead, as I have had more contact with her than my actual boss.
Just to explain the "boss" situation: In swedish companies, you can often find: a supervisor, the boss from the supervisor, the boss of the supervisors boss (2nd big boss), and the big boss, who's in charge of everyone. The big boss where I work, also has bosses over her at the municipal office, and it goes on and on.
Christmas is not about getting presents, it's also about thinking of others, skittering love and care for others, even strangers, and not being selfish as they were. /quote]
Just realised I wrote the word "skittering", instead of sharing. Don't know where my auto correct got that from, and I should also preview stuff more often before I submit
Chat: I saw that too. Guess everyone is trying to be "politically correct," I'm of the opinion that I shouldn't be in this matter, they need to know that Christmas is not about getting presents, it's also about thinking of others, skittering love and care for others, even strangers, and not being selfish as they were.
Last night I learnt that they are working on monday morning, so instead of going home after work, I'll wait the 1 1/2 hour, and have a serious conversation with them, explaining the true meaning of Christmas and what it means for Christians. I'll start the conversation by asking the difference between Christmas and ramadan.
Hi Kal: Looks like you've given the cat a home, how very kind and nice of you
Now all you need to do is to take Christie to the vet, to make sure she isn't sick in anyway, and to have her legs checked out.
Merry Christmas to you and Christie. With your blog, you've shown us all the "real meaning" of Christmas. May you and Christie have many, many, years of love, joy and good health together.
@ Celtic: Merry Christmas and all the best to you too. May the days be filled with love and happiness
You're not "dampening things", as I've also considered that, as the telephone has not been "in use/ not available" for more than 1 year, and his adress has also "disappeared" from online. Since he had his own business, he would have a public number, but now with 69, he may have made it private due to going into pension. I still call the number sometimes, I prefer to hear a voice, rather than write a sms, that's why I never wrote....
If he has passed away, then, such is life, and it wasn't meant to be, and calling a number not in use, can also be a form of closure. I would however, try to get in contact with his family to ask if they'd like to have the photos I still have of him (he's alone in all of them), instead of me keeping or destroying them. The thing is, his family name is very common in the country he's from, and so is the first name of his brother (at least 50 in the online phone book).....At some point in life, you have to let go of the past, even if its a lost love
Earlier this year, I found the number online for a friend of his, I called, and even left a message, but never got a reply. I've decided to take to pen and paper in the new year, so I'll keep this blog updated as to the results.
I'm not expecting him and I to reconnect, and fall madly in love as we did more than 35 years ago, but it would be nice to know how life has been for him.
@Celtic: thanks for the well wishes. I wish your nephew a speedy recovery as well.
When covid started in 2019, it was recommended that you stay at home, if someone in your household is infected. These days, they say you can still work, if you test negative, or if you're not feeling ill. I agree with you that it's not exactly an ideal situation especially when you're working with the elderly.
Unfortunately, when I went back to work on monday night, I was told that we have 1 person who tested positive last sunday, and another who may also be positive, so it was back to wearing masks, face shields and disposable aprons, as well as gloves as usual. I work with people who have dementia, and it's not easy explaining to them, why they have to be isolated in their rooms until they feel better, as they don't really know what covid is, and think/say it's just a cold.
I agree with you completely about not giving to charities, I never give, as most of the money is used to pay the extremely high salaries and trips etc. for the bosses. Not only that, most charity organisations here, expect you to send money every month: it's not seeing them in the street corner and signing up for a 1 time donation, no, they expect you to pay each month.
Did a test this morning, and it's negative, so it's back to work on monday. On another positive note, the boss wrote in the weekly e-mail this morning.....that no one in the nursing home where I work have covid. I'm really and truly happy about that news.
In Sweden, wearing a mask was something that people did at their discretion, it was never mandatory from the government, except for in hospitals, nursing homes and other medical facilities. I always wore one everywhere I went. Earlier this year, the government said there was no longer a need to wear masks, so everyone who wore a mask stopped.
2 weeks ago, my boss sent out a copy of an e-mail from the government office for hospitals etc., saying that we should start wearing masks again when having near contact with the people in hospitals, nursing homes etc., and they put out large boxes of masks on each ward, so for the past 2 weeks, I've been wearing a mask, every night when I work. I was quite surprised on saturday, when I saw that none of the 5 medical staff (including the pregnant medical technician) who were working wore a mask, neither were there any to be seen at the entrance.
The nurse at the reception didn't even know where to find one, when I asked if I can have one, luckily, I have always kept some in my bag, in case of emergencies. The "normal" clinic where I have my MD, is on the hospital grounds, and they still have masks at the entrance of the building, they didn't take them away even after the government said they were no longer needed.
Thanks for the well wishes Celtic. I usually stay at home when I'm sick, I thought it was still the cold I've has since end of October, I know lots of people who're still struggling with the cold even months after.
The medical system in Sweden is very bad, when it comes to seeing a specialist doctor or having certain special medical tests/examinations done. You always have to wait atleast 3 months, sometimes longer. If I hadn't gone to the hospital yesterday, I'd have to wait another 3 or more months to get that test done. As it was very important, waiting another 3 months was out of the question, that's why I went. Usually they don't do such tests on the weekends. The technician said they have a long waiting list, that's why they've started opening on weekends.
I got my first jab for covid this year 23/11, so I didn't think, it was covid, and I said, I put a mask on when I entered the waiting room at the hospital even though I was alone there (a gut feeling told me to do so, and again, I'm glad I did, as the technician who attended to me is pregnant), and kept it on until I got off the bus near my home. I didn't know I had covid, until I made the test at home, with the kit I'd just bought at the pharmacy.
Thank you Fantaziya. After making a terrible job mistake some years ago, by neglecting to listen to that feeling, I now listen and follow it, and it's always been right so far.
Ozzie: tthanks for the well wishes. The point of the blog was not saving anyone, I'm not God or a doctor. It's about listening to the voice within us..... sometimes what it's saying to us don't make sense at that moment, but it does at sometime, somewhere later along the line, even if it's days, weeks, months or years later.
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In my last blog or forum a few weeks ago about the "thumbs downer behaviour", I said something to the effect that, CS will or may soon be asking for payment for user services.....now it 's happening