In cases such as this is is best to move on. You will never know why he did it and if he was someone new you haven't lost anything. Generally speaking, looks really don't have much to do with it.
Don't ever give up! If finding someone is what you desire, then hang in there.
I would not give whomever that other guy was a thought. If he cared he would call every chance he had and make things work. I have received emails from all over; unless you are going to be pen pals that is not any good to anyone.
Keep busy making a life for yourself and make your own happiness until someone comes along.
Perhaps you should consider the idea that you did not fail, but the others failed you. Long distant relationships are tough at best, but when it is from say the U.S. to another country the weight of the distance puts a strain on people's feelings.
This works the same way if two people from the U.S. are a distance apart. I knew someone from Florida that I met via this site. For more than a month I was given promises that he wanted to leave there and get away from an ex. girlfriend. Then I was given excuses for why it would take longer and then he could not give any time.
Now I was not in any hurry, but my time is worth more than waiting around for him. Your mistake was in not giving up long ago when the excuses were coming. I hear the people say, "Live and Learn," but at what price?
Crying for a lost love or time wasted would be pointless. Hold your head up and take things a day at a time. Meeting the right fit just takes time.
I suppose what could be considered a problem with you as with many men is that if a woman has a child(ren) you have already set your sights against that. Did you ever think that these children already have a Dad.
As a suggestion, open your mind and your heart to this and you may find more happiness than you seem to be right now. When I see that someone doesn't want kids no matter how it is worded, I drop them like a bad habit. Several great opportunities could have been thrown away.
I had a nice man chatting with me, but the chemistry was not there. He picked up on it too and was such a gentleman about the fact that he could tell I would not ever love him.
He was so sweet towards me and even at the end. He was a southern gentleman unlike the guys I knew in NYC where I am from. They egos are to fragile for an easy let down.
Turning 21 is exhiliarating. For all intense purposes you are now an adult and will be treated with the respect and for having common sense.
College is fast paced at the first finding you way around campus. The professors treat you as an adult not some high school student who needs his head filled with useless knowledge. Professors treat you as the adult you are and will sit and speak to you if you need help or just to have a cup of coffee.
It may be slow going at the start as a freshman, but you will meet new people. Just talk to someone sitting next to you in a class and you can make a friend. The draw back is that the friends you make in one semester you may not see again after that unless you come across them on campus. I make a lot of knew friends once a new semester class began. Oh and you don't have to raise your hand to make a comment or ask a question. I have had professors say that there are no dumb questions or answers.
I loved going to my classes and getting to pretty well pick what you take helps. There is usually a variety of classes that will fulfill your requirements so you are not locked in to something as in high school.
They purpose in college is to grow and broaden your horizons. Learn to think in a different way. "Think way outside the box."
It was a great experience for me and one day I would hope to be able to finish my time, but it not, I have taken away so much in the 5 years I was there to carry me through with what I have ahead of me.
Maybe he sees what you don't. You two may not be as compatable as you would like. As you get to know someone especially online you will learn things about the other person that you may not like or just doesn't feel right.
Personally, I would not take it to heart. These things happen. I have had conversations with people and over time realize that they just don't fit me. Some I have learned that they had a darker side to their personality I would not wish to stay with.
I figure I have been around the block a couple of times more than you and can read those signs. I would just be grateful that you get out of it now and move on to someone who you belong with.
I ponder whether or not you are stating an opinion or are a philosopher.
I was deeply in love and all it brought ws heartaches. Thank goodness for the divorce courts who granted me self preservation by not making me stay married.
I am very much alive and open to the idea of love should it ever happen, but with one exception, I will not avoid the warning signs.
I have a life and have had one for the the 3 years I have been divorced. Perhaps one day I will find someone who knows what love is and can show me what it is all about. As for being among the walking dead?? Oh hardly. Could I assume that you have that deep love you are professing over??
My only problem with older men is that they won't even speak to you if you have a child. I am not asking for them to raise her or to marry me. If they deny a child being in the picture they have wasted my time. This has happened more times than I could shake their cane at them.
People who are intelligent and yet have the ability to think way out side the box are gifted with imagination. Personally I would rather lean more towards intelligence. I get bored with someone who has nothing to say.
Alas you may have a good point. What I had been shown as love is a reason for me to run from it. What is real and how do you know when you hear it that it is true. All my loves promised it were true and here I am. Perhaps the best thing I should do is to want someone and need them, but never love them. Not loving doesn't hurt in the end.
You should think outside the box. Perhaps these woman have been unfortunate to draw those without good character so a simple "no thanks" would pass over them like a wool cap.
The male ego is a fragile thing. An ego can be hurt faster than our feelings can be hurt by them.
Women do not have to depend on them for happiness and we can live without them. For many it is like a mother complex where they need a woman to look after them.
Once a child is grown it is up to them to make it or break it. A family can stand behind you for just so long before being forced to let go.
I have a son who has been that way since his teen years. The entire family have been there to support him through all of his trials and tribulations even when he left his 18 month old daughter with me two years ago. You can care so much, help so much before you have to let them go. He chooses to stay away from the family until we can do something for him. He just turned 28 and still has no pot to pee in or a window to throw it out.
So tell me how long should we continue to take his consequesnces in and out of jail and hold his hand when he has to have surgery when he gets beat down a drunken fight or beat the hell out of another girlfriend.
I took note of your profile that you want a friend and maybe romance. Suppose there are many of us viewing things in the same way. Guess what!? I do.
Why would it matter if the top rated women are never online? Maybe they are on dates.
I choose not to have myself rated at all because what I look like should not matter whether or not someone wants to be a friend or more. A draw back for me is men like you who do not want to be with children. Yes, I have one of those.
All this seems pretty simple. You meet someone on line that is interesting to you and either of you send and email or happen to chat. It all goes from there. You get to know them and become confortable with communicating with them. It is easier than putting together a model airplane with glue.
The key thing is patience. Now I mean patience. It takes some longer then others to meet and greet someone. Think outside the box when it comes to choosing a mate. Too often people expect perfect according to their standards. You must be willing to give and go with the flow.
I have run into too many who are so stringent on who they want that they will doubtfully not find a match and I would not waste the time to email them. It is what it is.
Unfortunately there are many who can and do close their hearts to things. Take any serial killer and I bet none of them felt a thing as they tortured and killed their victims.
There is one man in a CA prison who killed his pregnant wife who was 8 mos. along, cut off her head to prevent identification and as he sits in prison with a smile, it was a matter of gettting rid of someone who was in his way. The name for somone like that is a sociopath. No conscience, no feelings and their goal in life is to do what makes them happy.
Enjoy your time with her while you have it. Honestly, you seem very together, but I have a son in the Guard who is older than you. I just didn't think I would fit your profile type even if I am not hard on they eyes.
Unfortunately I do not have any advice or shelter from your storm. I have bipolar l disorder and regulating my medication has become a routine thing for me.
No age knows knows boundaries with any form of illness. My disorder kicked in when I was 11 and at the time not much was known about bipolar disorder. Stress will set off a chain reaction fast.
If you are possibly bipolar the dilantin can of course be interacting with the effects of that disorder. I have to be careful of what medications I take to ensure there will not be an adverse reaction. I take more than one medication for my bipolar disorder.
It would be great if all was normal and we could live the way others take for granted.
Our brains are wired differently so we must live differently. For me I must have a structured life and without stress. Whatever! LOL. Stress seems to be a part of my daily routine. All I can do is deal with it by taking time out if I must.
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RE: STUFF GUYS SHOULD KNOW (part 3)
I must confess, even I could not keep up with all these rules of engagement. LOL. Keeping it simple works better forme.