LadyBlackAdder Blog Comments (32)

RE: trust comes both ways

A lot of people don't even trust themselves and when they can't even trust themselves, they find it very difficult to trust anyone else.

RE: WE NEVER TRY TO CHANGE OUR SELF.

There are also enough people who do make an effort to change themselves, who have started the exploration already.

RE: A picture

The light in Ireland is different from the light anywhere else, which is why so many artists come to live here. Once you put down roots in this country, it will always draw you in. I couldn't live anywhere else.

RE: why do some guys think it's ok to hurt a woman and

I think the way to do it is to build up your own confidence and self esteem so that what other people do to us doesn't affect us as much. When we get stronger, the power people have to hurt us gets weaker.

I saw an ex today

Sharing is caring, Abagail

I saw an ex today

Abagail, some toys don't have the same appeal to us as to others so it's best to pass them on until we find the ones we want to play with forever.

Hi K We'll never give up hope. The idea is to enjoy life until the right man comes along and to enjoy it even more after you find him. It's all good.

I saw an ex today

We have to keep dipping in then until we get the right one

I saw an ex today

Thank you Abagail. I do think it's natural for us to want a partner in life and love. I wish you luck as well.

I saw an ex today

Hi Abagail, thank you for your kind words but I'm not down about it. Just aware that time is passing and I'm impatient.

Hello Bajanshay, thank you too. Yes, time does heal and I always have hope.

Hi Angelpepper, you are as irrepressible as always. Yes, a new love is coming my way...eventually.

Hello Wafwotam, I don't really miss him any more but I do miss the love we shared for a short while. I have met some lovely men since then but none that stole my heart like he did. However, I am very different now than when I was with him and I wonder if I can feel like that again. I very much would like to.

RE: Is it only me?

I use text speak when I'm texting and I can put up with it online but not in personal emails. The worse thing, though, is the bad grammar; when you have to read over what someone wrote several times in order to understand what they were trying to say. It makes communication very difficult.

RE: lonely

He wasn't the love of your life. If he was, he would have felt it too. Give yourself some time to grieve for the future with him that you lost, but remember that your real future is still out there with someone who will love you the way you deserve.

RE: Please act your age....

It sounds like there are people who are jealous that you are enjoying yourself when they are too uptight to do so. Enjoy your life...it's the only one you get!!!

RE: Communion Time

Non, I have to say I can't agree with what you say about 1st Communions nowadays. Yes, it is different than yesteryear but I would believe it depends on the family. When my children received theirs, we had a small family gathering in our home afterwards each time and we all enjoyed the day. The children had cake and lemonade and there was wine for the grown ups. Surely, how we celebrate anything is up to ourselves and if we're not happy with how it's done we change it. It's our choice.

As for politics and social changes, there have always been those who will take advantage of the weak and vulnerable, only we hear about it more often nowadays. In the past, it was swept under the table, not to be spoken of. If it wasn't the EU it would be something else. I don't believe that becoming European means that we necessarily lose who we are. Again it is a choice we can make. However, in the case of economics, we do seem to be letting our choices slip away from us.

RE: NATURE AT ITS WORSE

I park my car under the tree in my garden and it is regularly used as a toilet by the birds that sit in that tree. However, I still love birds and enjoy watching them flutter around the place and teasing my cat by flying away just before he can catch them.

Out of the blue

I had to google "zorbing"!! I don't think I would care for it either but it is something teenagers would probably love. Let me know when you are coming to Cork and I would love to meet you for coffee or lunch.

RE: “Know your limits, but never accept them.”

As Einstein said ~"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"

Out of the blue

Thank you so much, K, and I enjoyed your company too. We may get a chance to meet up again sometime

Out of the blue

First of all thank you all for your comments. I must say that I never go out "on the prowl" looking for a man but my problem is that I never lose that sense of awareness that the love of a good man is what I am missing in my life. I believe that I am generally relaxed and comfortable when meeting new people but with an awareness of what I want...which is to meet someone, fall in mutual love and grow old together happily. I don't want a man just for the sake of having one and I have a good idea of what I want. I would prefer to be alone than to settle for the wrong man. I have kissed my share of frogs but I have also kissed my share of absolute princes...they just weren't MY Prince so I let them go to find their own Princess. I would hope that being aware of what I need doesn't make me desperate. It pains me to think that someone would meet me and view me that way but I don't think they would but maybe I am wrong.

RE: .....The best kisser in ......

That is a pickle....the best kisser...wasted because there is no one to kiss

RE: Despair comes when is no understanding of <What is

We don't change until we become aware. If we are not aware, there is no change. So we strive for awareness first and change will come.

RE: Tell me your dreams.....

The house part is easy. Finding the love of my life is the hard part.

RE: Tell me your dreams.....

My dream is to live in a little house by the sea with the love of my life until we are old and grey.

RE: Despair comes when is no understanding of <What is

Understanding must often be learned. It does not come to all of us naturally. So we despair until we learn to understand.

Blocking

Teddybeer, he wasn't a bad guy, just not my type and wouldn't take no for an answer.

Maddog, if I was interested in his opinion, I wouldn't have blocked him in the first place.

Blocking

Hi K, I have to agree that trying to reason with him was exhausting. I really couldn't be bothered with it any more.

Blocking

Well, Cyn, we can't fix anyone else and we can only take care of ourselves while doing no harm to others. If they get too much for us, we have the right to block them and protect ourselves.

RE: Insecurities

I found a quote from the singer, Adele, the other day. She said "I have insecurities, of course, but I don't hang out with people who point them out to me". I love that lady

Blocking

It dragged on for about 2 hours as it was as he continued to mail me even though I asked him not to. Persistence can be admirable but it can also be irritating.

RE: Customers...

Personally, I have always found it better to be polite and understanding with customer service personnel, but that could be because I worked with the public for years and know what it's like to be on the other side of the counter. I remember that they are more likely to make concessions for someone who isn't spitting vitriol at them.

RE: The things she does

I really like this. I realised that a man I was in a brief relationship with did not really care for me because he did not do any of the above loving things. He was in his own world, with no room for us.