calmheartseeks - "I don't know, but it seems like too much micro-management of routine living for me. I do believe in God, just not that He makes the neighbor's dog drive me crazy when he hears me moving around nearby."
I know what you mean, but it's really all a matter of perspective and point of view isn't it? A supreme being of such a high intelligence doesn't really have to micro-manage, he creates an environment for his creations to "cause and effect," there own self created lessons and experiences. As a very intelligent women you well know that a dog and a human's interaction can be viewed from man different perspectives. Do we need to learn how to live with or respect the animals that we have custody over and do they need to learn how to interact with us as a lower intelligent being? Do we need to learn how to live, love, and respect each other, as a mixed group of humans and animals within a social structured environment in close proximity? Have you seen what cats and dogs can do as caught on video? Is the dog and cat evolving via our human influence? Could that be part of the grand scheme of things? To respect thy neighbor and his dog or cat? I don't know, but my imagination has to stretch in order to fathom, just to at least get a glimpse of such an intelligence that a supreme being might have.
I believe in "everything happens for a reason," because I believe in a supreme being. This being, that holds the universe together and all physical matter has created it for a purpose. Everything has a purpose as clearly seen, as we observer planets and stars moving and life on this planet going about it's business. It has a purpose, therefore that which has purpose was created to function for a reason. As for burning your had touching something hot? The purpose is "watch what you are doing, pay attention, for the lack of focus using something dangerous has negative results. Really, it all boils down to the belief in that supreme being.
Of course your question does not have enough detail. What is a reasonable amount of time for you? One thing to consider, is the person's schedule, are they very busy, or have lot's of time? There are many reasons why people do not return phone calls within your expected time frame.
Assuming they really don't return your phone calls within a reasonable amount of time, then bring it up in a conversation the next time you go out on a date. If it's important to you and you feel the need to express that concern, then you should discuss it. I find poor communication is the primary reason for breakups. Just try not to make a big deal out of the subject matter when bringing it up. You can start the conversation by asking, "what do you think is a reasonable amount of time for people to return phone calls?" I am just curious. It can be that simple, you can get your answer in a casual way, express your perspective, and get some answers without be confrontational.
I now totally disregard photo ratings. I have found a picture tells me nothing!! I have meet the most beautiful people with no profile pictures and many of them I still don't know what they look like!! I have also found that many people look completely different in real life.
Your right it's not easy. But if you focus more on making yourself happy and focusing on bettering yourself for the next relationship by reading books and just trying to enjoy life for yourself it get's easier. Take long walks, enjoy nature, go hiking, biking and just get busy. Sit back and visualize yourself with someone else and how you will be different and how she will be different this next time around. Believe within yourself there will be a next time around.
Work on building your inner strength and knowledge. Think about all those concepts in relationships that all the experts are talking about, relate that to some of your past experiences and prepare yourself for picking the right woman and develop the skills to make the next one a real success.
I am in the middle of a divorce storm, but my heart is calm, my emotions are a little bit volatile, because of the holidays, but for the most part, I am happy with myself and no one is going to ruin me or get the best of me.
I use the new age concepts of the POWER OF NOW and the LAWS OF ATTRACTION. I wake up each morning thanking God for my two girls and how beautiful they are as human beings. I thank God for all those that interact and enrich my life both online and off. I thank God for my family and friends. Then I go about my day reflecting and pondering relationship concepts while thinking I ALREADY HAVE SOMEONE, she just hasn't arrived or revealed herself yet.
What has this done for me so far? I have meet, although strictly platonic online pen pals, the most intelligent, honest, warm, and understanding women in my entire life. A big difference from my usual attraction of the insecure, brainless, heartless, and manipulating types. After all, you can't love anyone unless you love yourself and you can't expect someone else to always make you happy, it has to come from within yourself.
Carlybabee - going to church doesn't make people any more faithful!
tobytt21 - does your truck have a cab? If not, try getting a truck with the cab in the back and bring your next woman with you. There are many couples traveling the country living out of a truck and having a blast.
OK, I understand what you mean now. But keep in mind, that this can also be said for many other, so called, positive social characteristics like the other ones you listed.
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RE: I Feel so blessed...
God bless you SuZi!! May better times come this coming New Year for you and your family and that you get better soon!!