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RE: Some good advice for the ladies.

I did not know about Tammy Wynette's multiple marriages. Funny how one of her trademark songs is in such conflict with them. Doesn't suprise me at all, that she is quoted so often but her life is the opposite. But then, it was just a song she sang well.

Bet her history of husbands used to throw it at her quite a bit as well.

RE: What happens

Yes, the Leo escapade got me a bit upset at the beginning. I'm glad things turned out the way they did.

RE: Some good advice for the ladies.

Good song, Lou. Interesting rendition. Love the smile on that man!

RE: A second rainbow.

Yes, in a way Ian it is.

RE: It`s Sandal season...

Forgot to add, as none of us are perfect, we shouldn't judge each other so cruelly. People are not their bodies.

RE: What happens

Well biffers, you expect us to buy you a coffee AND to buy your book before letting us read anything, and here we are, your virtual friends.

I must say though I read the sample and it was entertaining! Still not sure if I want to pay .99, LOL. but I liked it a lot and was quite drawn into the story.

RE: I Just Got Rejected...Tough!

I don't think u should expect someone you just recently "met" to want six kids right at the start...they hardly know you and that's a lot of responsibility. It's not a fair "test" either for if they genuinely fell in love with you in time, they may embrace the children as well. But right at the beginning? A BIG thing for a budding relationship to handle and no reason to bring it into the equation yet...if a man told me he had six kids and we just met I would think he wanted a mama for them and would probably feel the same as your guy...

Bottom line, these "tests" don't really prove anything and are just playing with people (if you are not serious). I know you are a loving girl and a person with heart, so try to see it from their eyes.

RE: The Future:- How would u like to see it ?

LoveRanger, its interesting what you said about intellectual property pirates. You hit the nail on the head.

I researched for months and worked long hours to compile an indepth reference guide, the first of its kind, only to have it purchased by a ghostwriter for a well known publisher, regurgitated into a new form, and outsell, outperform, and outprice me on the market.

This act surprised and stunned me. I was devastated and very angry. The book was copyrighted, but as you said, it would cost $$$ to take them to court, and supposedly they were within their rights to "rewrite" it. In short, I did the labor finding the information and compiling it, they just changed the way it was presented. And yes, they were Chinese, and have gone on to do 2nd, 3rd, and 4th editions.

I'm against stereotyping, and I don't think all Chinese do this type of thing. In fact, I love the majority I have met and gotten to know. Good, kind, hardworking people. But perhaps in business it is dog eat dog, isn't that what they say.

Anyhow, its disheartening. If you create something of value, there are those who will look to profit from it. And it doesn't take long.

RE: Would you buy me a coffee?

I meant, feel free to ask for FREE help, lol!

RE: Would you buy me a coffee?

I dabble in Web sites as well as write, so if you need help with the site feel free to ask, make a living at it (as you).

RE: Would you buy me a coffee?

Unfortunately even "reviews" on the Internet cannot be trusted anymore, because so many put up fake ones or induce friends and family et all to give glowing testimonials, not only at Amazon, but on Yelp, Internet Movie Database, and the list goes on. They just can't be trusted, even when the reviews are sincere.

But don't get me wrong - reviews are important and have their place. It is better to have a plethora of positive reviews, than to have negative reviews (a big drawback) or no reviews at all.

I have hired people/services or bought things that had many glowing reviews/testimonials as part of their marketing and been severely disappointed. So along with the reviews, I try get as much information as I can before investing any money.

RE: Would you buy me a coffee?

When I see a book for .99 on Amazon, I usually think its not worth the money. There are so many books on the market now that have never known an editor's touch, the poor consumer has no idea what they are getting.

Sadly there are ever burgeoning numbers of "published" (novellas if you will) seriously threatening the future of the true art of writing and the respect behind the profession.

I'm glad publishing has technologically advanced, pushing more writers work into the mainstream, but not everyone who thinks they can write, can write. As you understand, its truly an art form that takes education and just plain hard work. I know you are one of those artists and I would love to read one of your novellas...but telling me it costs less than the price of a cup of Starbucks would make me wonder why the comparison.

I don't read a book because its cheap. I read it because the content strongly draws or interests me. The price alone isn't enough bait. I can easily find something to read on the Internet that will cost me nothing at all, including free stories by hungry writers hoping for exposure.

Interest me in your book first, but not by putting it in the dollar store's selection. MAKE ME REALLY WANT TO READ IT, and charge me the appropriate price for the product. When you price things cheaply, people think they must be cheap in value.

But that's mho. True, we are all looking for a bargain...if I love what you are selling, and it is offered at a deal, I MIGHT grab it, but not because it was selling for the price of a cup of coffee.

I'd need to read a good sample of the content online before I would pay even the .99 because of the aforementioned publishing pitfalls. (I am assuming this is an electronic book. If it was a print edition, then you would need to add shipping and other costs.)

RE: I noticed nothing changed on CS!

You know what they say. If it aint broke, don't fix it.

I love the ease of use at CS. The other sites, like OK Cupid, etc, don't compare. It is my favorite site. (hugging the site)

RE: They Walk Among Us!

He died on the first trip, didn't he?

RE: Kissing

Eyes closed. Never did it with my eyes open, so don't know if he was staring at me or not!

RE: Reserved for Him

Beautiful, Keyes. Thank you.

RE: Why Are Compliments from Guys So Hard To Accept?

Maybe they are afraid they will sound conceited if they "agree" with the compliment.

So they shrug it off, with "oh, i'm not really" "or its no big deal" to avoid their discomfort. Secretly they are pleased though.

Who doesn't like a sincere compliment?

RE: What am I missing?

Hi enigma, I know looks alone are not enough. I was trying to say that you had a lot of things going for you that would draw love in your direction. To be honest, I was little confused about your blog post, as I think some others were.

You asked what you were missing. As Red said, you are the only one who can really answer that question. If you feel in your current relationship something significant is missing, doesn't seem you are completely happy with it. But don't put all the blame on yourself (as KN showed in her post). Chemistry is a complicated thing.

Anyway, I like your profile name. Can't say I would want an enigma for a permanent relationship because I don't want to be totally in the dark~! lol. But a little guessing and mystery is a wonderful thing.

RE: What am I missing?

well ENIGMA, you are an interesting lady, that's for sure. I'd think your personality with your beautiful red hair and face should put you in position for many men's favor. Hard to say why you would always be the best friend, but that is what you want to be, in the end, for the one you marry...I wouldn't delve too deep into the enigma of yourself and others or you will get lost and lose the world outside just kidding you.

If you are in a relationship now, not sure what you are missing...it sounded like you were still looking for love, or love how you envision it....and you don't have it right now.

If you want more romance and less bromance, act less like a brother or more like the other.

Good luck, you really are blessed with beautiful looks and remember men love an enigma! Just don't let them solve it.

RE: I dunno.I think its me..

Hilarious. Thanks for the laugh this morning.

RE: Easter

Many people spend Easter in the company of family and friends, eating a nice meal and celebrating. Nothing wrong with that.

I think it should go deeper, though. We should spend some quiet time reflecting on the meaning of that celebration, perhaps through reading, prayer, or meditation.

RE: BEING HANDSOME ON INTERNET

Handsome or beautiful will always be preferred and catch the eye of most people. Its built into humankind, to be attracted to visual beauty.

If e-laddies (are these women or men?) are not responding to you, there is some other reason. Perhaps it was something you said or did? Good luck.

RE: To believe or not

"Where in the middle east did Jesus manage to find four blokes called Matthew, Mark, Luke & John" -zmountain

Did you just read this and laugh, or try to find the answer?

John is the Anglicized form of the Hebrew Yochanan meaning God is Gracious.

Matthew is a variant spelling of Mattathias, which is the Greek form of the Hebrew name Matityahu meaning Gift of God.

Mark's Hebrew equivalent is Mordechai and one of Luke's in Hebrew is Barak.

RE: What is it with some people

Hi 1, Yes, most people are friends in the good times, but in the bad, where did they go. Very sad and true.

Most people I know have to be paid for the good they do.

RE: To believe or not

What is the point of complaining and deleting blogs? Then there is no freedom of speech. I heard some people took time to write thoughtful responses I would like to have seen, and I am sure if they knew their post would be deleted after their work it would bother them.

Don't delete blogs. Let them stay so discussion can continue (unless there was blasphemous content.)

RE: Weightloss

I used Noxema for years, was called the Noxema girl and complimented on my skin, haven't used it as much lately but should, it really does help make skin beautiful. Also Oil of Olay, the original version is good.

RE: Shifting The Blame

Hi Catnip.

I'm pretty sure Adam DID blame Eve. That's why we've heard from generation to generation that it is all Eve's fault.

Nice try, though.

RE: Does height really matter

I hope I did not upset anyone by teasing about Pedal and Music. They are both great - forgive me if I said something out of line. But hey, bet they would rock the dance floor!

RE: Does height really matter

I find that society makes you feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't mind it so much except for that. I remember walking with someone noticeably shorter many years ago and getting a smile and a look...like isn't that cute? (I am about 5' 9'). I saw he was embarrassed. So I think it matters to both genders. Sad, because it shouldn't.

RE: Different times

It can depend on a multitude of factors. If one party has a much larger income, it would seem nice if they paid and the other reciprocated in non material ways...the important thing is wanting to give and court the other, and in that there is no room for selfishness...

in a meet n greet both should pay for their half of the coffee in case it doesn't work out

but in a dating relationship because going out can be so expensive it should be worked out between the couple, in love.