People of all ages marry, but I believe age does matter. As mentioned, people are at different stages in life. When one is a lot younger, the aging process of the older partner can slowly kill desire. If there is a large age difference, there must be a real bond or strong love/compatibility to counteract the physical loss. Otherwise, the differences will have their impact in time.
On a serious note, Cat man, I don't have a "list" for the right one. I know what I am attracted to, but I try to leave things open in every way just in case that chemistry comes in a different package than I might "like".
Its true that two matches have to light, not just one, and therein lies the difficulty, as you stated, Cat. Quite often they are feeling it but not you, or vice versa.
But as I get older, I no longer see them as a "life" partner, but someone just to share life with, whatever is left is gift.
I don't expect him to be handsome, la de da, just someone where somehow we spark.
Online pictures can be very deceitful. As you've noticed, items can be magnified to look a lot bigger in a photo! Always check measurements...if its not there, ask.
I have bought many things online and and there were times I was disappointed.
Best to see it in person.... but I still buy online as do others because of the convenience.
You might look at her past relationships, if possible. There is usually clues in a person's background that reveal their propensities (somehow surviving well economically but no real job, for example).
You said her eyes were "busy". I don't know if you heard it, but there was an old song that said, "The truth is in the eyes, and the eyes don't lie - amen."
When we feel something in our gut, it usually is right on the money. There is a reason you feel the way you do, and you are possibly right that she told your Dad she is a little older to make it more acceptable to him.
A 59 year old wanting to marry someone almost 90? Do they have some amazing electrical mind/soul connection , or is there enough money for her to inherit to interest her?
What IS all that stuff? CS Ladies, help. I think I need a brush up in the fine art of make up and I am sure I'm not alone. I know about the basic three or four items RedX mentioned but the rest....hmmmm! What do you gals keep for the top 10 magic makers? (NOT including PHOTOMOP.)
I think your "gut" will let you know if it is too soon or not.
If you haven't dated that long, it probably is.
However, don't play a game and withhold feelings (i.e. if he shows signs of awakening interest don't throw cold water on it...just don't overwhelm him with the waves of burgeoning affection).
Sometimes Keys, your blogs remind me of the phrase "crying in the wilderness"...sometimes you get few comments, most often none at all...but you can bet there are people reading and people you are touching.
RE: The most important
People of all ages marry, but I believe age does matter. As mentioned, people are at different stages in life. When one is a lot younger, the aging process of the older partner can slowly kill desire. If there is a large age difference, there must be a real bond or strong love/compatibility to counteract the physical loss. Otherwise, the differences will have their impact in time.